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Hi Shoutman,

Thanks for posting and for your questions.

I am glad that what you have been doing with the Click Tracks has been working well for you.

The aim is not to suppress your memories, but to eventually look at your relationship anew - without the grief, sadness and regret attached. In other words, you look at the same events and feel completely differently. That is very achievable with these tools and your subconscious will do this for you.

The beliefs you cited initially are more in the "emotionally descriptive" category, as opposed to being "emotionally causal."

In other words, "I can't/couldn't move on" reflects and is descriptive of your experience, but perhaps "It is dangerous to move on" would be more causal.

"I had missed her" also describes your emotional experience, whereas another belief (or set of beliefs) would likely be causing you to miss her.  The beliefs effectively describe the same experience. Perhaps beliefs like "I will never be in a good relationship again" or  "I lost my shot at love" will be feeding into missing your ex-girlfriend.

The other thing I would suggest is that you look for the beliefs beneath the beliefs you have cited.

So, "I couldn't get over her", for example: why? What would someone have to believe to come to that conclusion?

What would they believe about themselves, their relationship, life, people and love?

Extrapolate this for the other beliefs.

Essentially, you would be best-served, I sense, by hunting out the self-esteem, life and relationship beliefs.

Beliefs like the following MAY fit the pattern:

- "Relationships don't work"
- "People can't be trusted"
- "I'm not good enough"
- "I'm not wanted"
- "I don't measure up"
- "I'm not acceptable"
- "If I don't do what's needed, I'll be rejected"
- "Nothing ever works out for me"
- "Life is unfair"
- "There's something wrong with me"

There will be others.

All beliefs shape our reality, so hunt out the ones causing the unwanted emotional experience, put them into the past tense, blast them and continue to use the Click Tracks.

For every belief you blast, I also recommend layering in at least one positive suggestion with Quantum Turbo.

Hope that helps.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)

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PSTEC Positive Quantum Turbo / Re: Interrupted While Listening
« on: November 29, 2018, 03:33:09 AM »
Hi Shoutman,

Thanks for posting.

In real life, therapy sessions can get interrupted due to things like fire alarms,  technical issues  (if done remotely) and the natural environment (external noises or "Mother Nature calling")

Your phone ringing was one of life's natural pattern interrupts  :D

So, no, it won't have screwed anything up. It happens.

You will have gotten the effect up to the point of interruption.

However, to get the full effect of the track, you can put your phone into flight mode and run the track again from start to finish.

I hope that reassures you.

Paul  :)


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Belief Blasters / Re: Super Ego beliefs
« on: November 28, 2018, 12:15:39 PM »
Hi Truman,

Thanks for posting.

Yes, that is a good distinction. Thanks for sharing.

You can even go down the proverbial rabbit hole here.

"Anger is..."
"Happiness is..."
"Aggression is..."
"Fear is..."
"Helplessness is..."
"Embarrassment is..."

etc.

Fill in the blanks for each one and pick out the beliefs that are feeding the pattern.

For example, if someone held a belief like "aggression is dangerous", they might consider how this would impact their life.

All aggression? In every context? At every point of life? From every person?

Then, put each relevant belief into the past tense and blast it.

Best Regards,

Paul

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PSTEC Positive Quantum Turbo / Re: Should I add "now" to suggestions?
« on: November 28, 2018, 10:00:09 AM »
Hi Shoutman,

Thanks for posting.

You can put "now" in as a little time-trigger. It just brings the attention to the present. If you feel that it contradicts the suggestion, you can leave it out.

As Quantum Turbo is so effective, you can even make your suggestions stronger.

- "I have everything it takes to be absolutely successful now" etc

You can leave the "now" out or put it elsewhere in the suggestion.

Of course, you would be best to define success on your own terms and be very clear on what that looks like for you - specifics.

You would use the CTs and Belief Blasters on any barriers you notice.

Hope that helps.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)

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Miscellaneous and Other Topics / Re: PSTEC with good memories
« on: November 26, 2018, 12:44:31 PM »
Hi James,

Thank you for your post and question, and apologies for the late reply.

Focus can occasionally drift when someone is running a CT. Some people might take a quick and unrelated detour down memory lane, or briefly think about an upcoming event. That's all fine.

In my experience and, based on the design of the Click Tracks, only the things you are focusing on with conscious effort will have the associated, UNWANTED emotion neutralised.

This is why conscious effort and focus is so important when running the tracks.

I have never seen positive emotions slip away erronerously.

You can remove positive emotions, of course, but this is a conscious choice - for instance, elation feels positive, but someone may consciously decide to remove it when they feel elated when gambling, drinking alcohol, doing drugs etc etc.

Hope that helps.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)

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Relationships and Rejection / Re: Women, Rejection and Beauty
« on: November 26, 2018, 12:32:58 PM »
Hi bjdutch,

Thank you for the update.

In addition to what Brian has suggested, when you are running the BBs, really try to FEEL "I am ugly"

Beliefs always go beyond mere words and are abstractions we make about ourselves, the world and other people. They will be linked to certain behaviours and emotions. Use all of it when trying hard to believe the belief.

If it is easier for you to process, CT while you look at yourself in a mirror and try hard to "feel ugly" and disgust while CTing. Imagine how you would feel if everyone thought this about you and CT those feelings. When you get to a 0 or 1, you will feel free.

There is a different goal for everyone, but a sense of well-being ALWAYS comes from within. When you FEEL good enough and acceptable at a core level, it will emanate from you and people will pick up on it.

You don't have to be flexing in the mirror or be consumed with self-love (unless you want to!), but being cool with yourself will be a game-changer for you.

Additional beliefs you may wish to blast might include:

"It was impossible to be attracted to someone like me"
"I was not wanted"
"I was not desirable"
"I was unacceptable"
"I was inferior"
"I looked horrible"
"I was not worthy"
"I was worthless"
"I wasn't what women wanted"
"I didn't look good enough as I was"
"I was flawed"

Then chunk down on the features you don't like and blast beliefs related to those. Hint: anything negative you perceive in your or anyone else's physical appearance is not a universal truth. It is just a preference and those are usually built on a foundation of beliefs and emotions.

For every belief you blast, layer a positive suggestion.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)

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Hi Kay,

Thanks for posting and for sharing your story and great vibes.

There are so many modalities, methodologies and approaches that it can be a little dizzying.

I am sure there are many ways to get rid of the causes of the blushing - hypnotic approaches and getting at this at the core belief level would probably be the most effective and efficient way to do this. You will benefit more from "inside out", rather than "outside in" approaches, I would contend.

There are pills, potions and all sorts of interventions that can lessen or even eliminate blushing in some people... apparently. However, if it is not a medical cause, the medical solution will probably not be necessary.

There is no "one right way", per se, and the approach you take can be highly effective for you. Yet someone else may need to take a different approach. Horses for courses  :)

Acceptance is just one way, and it does help some people. It stops this need to push, pull, fight, deny etc and then the behaviour or physiological effect, once accepted, CAN go away on its own. It can certainly take the heat away, as resistance can lead to issues persisting in some cases.

Other people set out to "obliterate/annihilate/wipe out the blushing" and that can help too. It depends on the person and what is right for them, and there is always a way.

You can see the blushing as something that is sending you a message. So, instead of seeing it as the problem, consider it as the solution to another problem or part of a pattern.

What is the pattern?

When do you tend to blush and how do you feel about yourself when you do blush?

You can test out the suggestion you referenced and see what affect it has. You will have a better idea when you do that, of course.

Also CT any feelings of embarrassment and shame down to 0. That may take a little while, so target that systematically. Look at historical times where you felt ashamed or that you were being targeted, teased, picked on or humiliated.

You can also CT while imagining you will blush and what people will say, think or do if you did.

I think your instincts are spot on here, by the way, as belief work has HUGE benefits and can collapse the whole pattern.

Hitting it at the belief level, if you have Belief Blasters or PSTEC Negative, you may wish to see if you hold any of the following beliefs:

- "I'm not safe"
- "There's something wrong with me"
- "I'm not good enough"
- "I'm not OK"
- "I'm helpless"
- "I'm not fixable"
- "It's dangerous for people to focus on me"
- "i'm weird"
- "I'm out of control"
- "I'm powerless"
- "It's dangerous to show vulnerability"
- "Blushing is bad"

See if any of these resonate with you. Say them out loud.

If ANY of those apply, please either run a Belief Blaster on them or run them via PSTEC Negative (remembering the very specific instructions for each product).

Eliminate one belief at a time and then layer in a positive suggestion and see how you get on with that approach - after doing this on a few beliefs, I would expect the changes to stack up for you.

The more core beliefs you eliminate, the more this whole pattern will collapse and eventually it will stay collapsed.

Please keep us updated, Kay, and feel free to ask any questions at all.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)



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Relationships and Rejection / Re: Women, Rejection and Beauty
« on: November 19, 2018, 05:06:32 PM »
Hi bjdutch,

Thanks for posting and for confirming the products you own.

The first thing I would recommend is to check whether the beliefs I suggested earlier in the thread resonate with you.

If they do, please put them into the past tense and run a Belief Blaster track on each of them while trying hard to believe the belief statement.

For each belief you blast, layer in a positive suggestion with PQT. So, blast a belief and then follow up with a PQT.

A suggestion like "I am absolutely attractive enough as I am now" will be very effective for most people, but play about with suggestions that really fire you up. This is your playground really.

How do you want to feel and behave when you see pretty girls?

Ease? Certainty? Worthiness?

What about when you look in the mirror?

"When I see myself now, I see that I am absolutely worthy"

This is your chance to layer in the suggestions that serve you. There is no universal truth here. If it feels like you are kidding yourself, ask what it is you don't like about your looks and BB that.

If there is any historical bullying, name-calling or teasing (particularly about your appearance), I recommend running a long CT2015 on these instances. CT down to 0.

Use all the PSTEC tools you have and create what you really want.

When you believe what you really want to believe at a core level, there is a subcommunication going on. People generally pick up on it.

The more you do this, the more the results and everyday miracles stack up.

I hope that helps.

Please keep us updated.

All the best,

Paul  :)


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Hi Jonny and Shugofrutos,

Thanks for posting.

Jonny, I've replied to your email and given a fair amount of detail. I didn't think it was beneficial to post the same reply here (without your permission), so maybe Brian will offer some additional perspectives.

Shugofrutos, as well as what Brian has suggested, I think it would be worthwhile to have a look at what beliefs you hold that may be supporting the pattern. This will help. From what you have written, you might wish to see if you hold any of the following beliefs:

- "I'm not deserving"
- "It is dangerous to be successful"
- "People are out to hurt me"
- "I'm not worthy"

If you say those out loud, you can see if they resonate and blast them.

Getting rid of beliefs like that can make a huge difference - especially as the PSTEC tools work so well together.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)

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PSTEC Positive Quantum Turbo / Re: Loneliness and Rejection
« on: November 02, 2018, 04:17:49 PM »
Hi Truman,

Thanks for your post.

There is no question that different parenting styles can have a huge impact on how we perceive ourselves, other people and the world.

To that end, every single fear we experience is perfectly rational to our subconscious mind.

It all makes sense and the subconscious is just trying to help us. It is all part of a big pattern. We have so many patterns. Some work well for us (in that we feel good), while others do not ("bad feelings", "unwanted behaviours" etc)

So, with this in mind, what beliefs seem to support the feelings and behaviours of being abandoned?

Really think this through and consider the core beliefs that contribute to the pattern.

"What would I have to believe about myself, relationships and people to feel and behave this way?"

There may well be beliefs like "I'm not OK", "I'm not safe in this world", "Relationships are scary", "I'm alone", "I'll be abandoned", "Nobody loves the real me", "I have to hide the real me to be accepted", "Love is conditional",  "Love is easily withdrawn", "If I don't do it right, I'll be rejected" and "I am worthless"

If any of those resonate, I recommend blasting them with the 18 minute Belief Blaster. Really, really try to believe them while blasting them.

For each belief you eliminate, I'd recommend layering in (with PQT) some suggestions around personal safety and empowerment.

You're a pro, so I'm sure you've some great ideas about the right type of suggestions for you.

Take out the beliefs that no longer serve you, layer in suggestions of change and how you wish to feel/act...and let the reprogramming embed. There really are no limits here.

Please keep us updated, Truman.

All the best,

Paul  :D







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Miscellaneous and Other Topics / Re: Motivation to do something
« on: October 25, 2018, 06:11:05 AM »
Hi Clearingman,

Thanks for posting.

Further to what Brian wrote, if someone approaches me with this common issue (or I find it within myself), I suggest CTing the "can't be bothered" or "resistant" feelings directly. Sometimes these pass on their own anyway, yet I find it is a useful step and will do either some or a lot of good.

It does not have to be a strong resistance or a strong sense of dread, but there is likely some feeling(s) there that discourage(s) you from doing certain things. I doubt there's a person reading this who can't relate to that sense of "knowing what I need to do, but putting it off."

If you'd prefer not to use the Click Tracks, however, you can dig down and see if any beliefs are impacting your choices.

From working with people, the following types of beliefs tend to undercut a feeling of demotivation:

- "Life is a struggle"
- "Nothing ever works out for me"
- "Doing things I don't enjoy is a waste of time"
- "If I don't do it perfectly, there's no point in trying"
- "People would judge me harshly, if I screwed up"
- "I'm not capable"
- "I'm not an action-taker"
- "Doing things which bore me is pointless"

Some of these will have different levels - a "why" underneath them, if you will.

There may be other beliefs that support your feelings and behaviour, but I would recommend checking in with these particular ones. If any of those beliefs resonate with you, you can rephrase them into the past tense and blast them.

Another consideration: you don't have to love what you need to do. If if was related to health and fitness, for instance, you can just layer in suggestions about it being good for you. If it was job or education-related (e.g. applying for jobs, colleges, studying or getting references etc.), you can layer in suggestions about taking the step "because it makes sense."

So, if you had to fill in paperwork, you can layer in something like "I'll get this done, because it makes sense" - be specific too. For example, "I'll call five companies this morning, because it makes sense", or "I'll do (behaviour), because it's for my greater good"

Another suggestion that can be helpful is "No matter how I feel about doing (behaviour), I'll get it done promptly now"

Hopefully you can extrapolate this and apply it to your own circumstances.

You don't have to feel good about it beforehand. Just prompt yourself to do it via PQT...and then you will likely feel better after you have done what you had been putting off.

So many of our thoughts and behaviours context-related too. So, you can also leverage the motivation you have had in other contexts and apply them to contexts where you need to get the  metaphorical wheels turning.

The PSTEC Peak Performance package is perfectly suited for this: http://bit.ly/pstecpeakperformance

There are so many different pathways with PSTEC, as you know.

You may find a combination of what we have suggested to be just what you need. Alternatively, you may devise another strategy. If you do, please let us know  :D

All the best,

Paul




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Hi Brian,

Thanks for your post and for shining a light on another great product.

I have been using the Time Machine tracks in sessions (or as part of their associated assignments) for a while now. They introduce a lot of novelty and even more variety. I suspect there are some other untapped uses.

So far, I have found that it is brilliant for:

- passing on lessons you have learned later in life to a "younger you"
- dealing with trauma (taking the lessons)
- resolving grief
- making peace with the past (in a different way)
- saying what you always wanted to say, but couldn't
- brainstorming
- seeing a problem in a different way
- taking on a third-party perspective

I hope some other people will contribute ways in which they have used the tracks that are in the Hypnotic Time Machine package.

Paul  :D



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Belief Blasters / Re: Control freak
« on: October 17, 2018, 06:35:18 AM »
Hi Truman,

Thanks for posting.

The usual "no one size fits all" caveat applies here, but I will offer some general suggestions that hopefully steer you in the desired direction.

I would recommend trying hard to evoke the feeling of not being in control and run this through the CT. Go back to when you were young and felt you were being controlled and see if any feelings of fear and vulnerability accompany this.

Imagine being controlled and/or punished.

You might intensify this by considering how you (as an adult) feel about and have interacted with your mother.

Try hard to make that as intense as possible, and keep CTing until you get the emotion/feeling to a 0 or 1.

I would recommend running this through the long CT2015 track.

From the belief point of view, please check whether the following beliefs resonate with you and blast those that do:

- "People took advantage of me"
- "What made me OK was being in control"
- "I'd have been hurt, if I'd lost control"
- "People were out to hurt me"
- "Being in control kept me safe"
- "The real me had to be hidden"
- "I was weak"
- "I was too sensitive"
- "I was not manly enough"
- "It was dangerous to be vulnerable"

And then PQT the following (re-word as appropriate):

- "I'm safe to trust people even more now"
- "When I think I have to control everything, I relax and let life unfold"
- "I now feel absolutely safe and relax my need to control others"
- "Mum just felt out of control, and her grip on me has gone now"
- "From this point on, I'm in absolute control of deciding how I react"
- "I'm already enough and good things come my way when I trust in myself"
- "No matter how out of control someone seems, I remain composed"

Please let us know how that goes, Truman.

Best Regards,

Paul  :D




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Belief Blasters / Re: Subjective truth
« on: October 12, 2018, 05:39:16 PM »

To hunt out the causal beliefs, you can ask:

"What would I have to believe about X to do Y and feel Z when it/they are around/happening?"


I find this post intriguing so a good bit of information here. One thing I wouldn't mind getting more of an idea on is how to hunt the "Causal" beliefs. Could you give a few examples on that method I quoted above please Paul?

Also how do you know which one is causal?

Because if I thought "Spiders are harmful" that would in turn lead me to believe that "Spiders are dangerous"

Also

If I thought "Spiders are dangerous" that would in turn lead me to believe "Spider are harmful"

Which one would be the cause or core belief? they both feed into each other, no?

Thanks guys

Hi Clearingman,

Thank you.

Jesse is spot on there.

"Spiders are harmful" and "spiders are dangerous" are both causal really. They are on the same plane.

It is not that there would be one causal belief, per se, but that hunting the causal and core beliefs tends to produce the best results in changework.

Another example that is quite pertinent here is the fear of public speaking.

"Public speaking is scary" is one of many beliefs that would contribute to public speaking fear.

"I feel really uncomfortable when I speak in public" might look like a belief in terms of its structure, but is actually a description of the pattern.

Further to what Jesse has written, you can notice the feeling to see if it is propped up by a belief.

Feel the feeling and ask:

- "What would I have to believe about (this/that/right now) to feel (emotion) or do (behaviour)?"

There may be more than one belief causing the emotion to show up. Alternatively, it may be a conditioned response that can be Click Tracked.

In a practical sense, "every time someone looks at me, I look away (behaviour). What would I have to believe about myself, that person, being looked at to do the behaviour?"

See what comes to mind.

I will give some real client examples here.

Some beliefs might be "I am not safe", "I am out of my element", "That person is judging me harshly", "It is bad to be looked at", "I am ugly", "It is dangerous to make eye contact with strangers."

The more you use this type of method, the more natural it gets.

Hope that helps,

Paul  :)

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Miscellaneous and Other Topics / Re: PDF Guides.
« on: October 10, 2018, 12:49:58 PM »
Hi Shane,

Thanks for your post and sorry for the late reply.

Which particular state are you trying to anchor? I don't want to presume.

Depending on what you wish to anchor, the following trigger words may help you get in touch with some resourceful states:

- first love
- complete ease
- laser focus
- the birth of a child
- winning a contest
- getting the house
- wedding day
- party
- chilled
- passing a test
- being at the beach
- working out
- bliss
- feeling connected
- sports team winning
- getting a promotion

There will have been times where you have experienced your desired state.

I look forward to your reply, as that will enable me to be more specific.

All the best,

Paul  :)

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