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Click Track 2015 / Re: Going to sleep during CT
« on: April 15, 2019, 05:37:27 PM »
Hi gdogg9999,

Thanks for your post.

I suspect I will need more information about this, as there different ways to approach this.

Would you be able to provide more information about when in the day (e.g. morning, afternoon or evening) you use the Click Tracks?

Do you tend to fall asleep, irrespective of which time of the day you run the Tracks?

Is there a particular issue/memory you are addressing at the moment that you hadn't addressed before?

I look forward to hearing from you.

All the best,

Paul  :)


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Hi Zolom7,

This is just an update.

Spanish speakers can now download the Spanish version of the PSTEC Click Tracks here:

https://www.pstec.org/pstec-spanish.php

Hope this helps.

All the best,

Paul  :D

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Miscellaneous and Other Topics / Re: Obsessed with Pstec ?
« on: April 15, 2019, 04:16:14 PM »
Hi Gabriel.

Thanks for posting.

I am sorry you have not yet gotten the desired results from PSTEC. It should be noted that PSTEC encompasses a suite of tools, and some tracks are tailored to creating belief-change.

I appreciate, however, you have been using the Spanish Version of the Click Tracks:

https://www.pstec.org/pstec-spanish.php

There are different ways to troubleshoot this, and you can try the Click Tracks on something less "heavy" first - a minor irritation, for instance.

You could also try to get annoyed that the tracks aren't working for you, and try hard to hold onto that annoyance while running the Click Track. This usually will give you a "proof of concept", and neutralise the annoyance.

This will create even more freedom.

There is no doubting your persistence, but occasionally annoyance about the tracks not working quickly enough or a desperation to change can slow progress. Both of these viewpoints are perfectly understandable, by the way, but it is useful to turn down the proverbial dial on them.

Beyond that, can you please advise if you have tried any other PSTEC tracks?

I look forward to your reply.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)




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Hi Truman,

Fantastic question. Much appreciated.

To a large extent, beliefs are never an absolute truth, but they shape and influence our reality and emotional experiences.

You can have a cluster of beliefs propping up an emotional or behavioural pattern.

We use shorthand like "good", "bad", "positive", "deep-rooted", "limiting" and "negative" to describe beliefs. They are really just decisions we made about ourselves, people, the world, life etc. based on what we have heard, watched, read, been told, learned and so forth.

Some serve us and the world in very beneficial ways (and thus are referred to as "positive"), while others help create uncomfortable feelings and experiences.

Core beliefs will tend to have more offshoot beliefs springing from them.

I have found that, when someone holds certain self-esteem beliefs, they will literally see things in a different way and notice things in the environment that someone else would likely perceive differently (or not notice at all). In other words, it might be mockery, or it might be banter. Or mockery (if established) might be "about me", whereas other people might see it as "about them" (e.g. the person who is mocking - think about online trolling).

Beliefs like "I'm a target", "I'm a joke", "There is something wrong with me", "Everybody thinks I'm a joke", "Attention is scary" and others don't *create* mockery, of course, but if something affects us and we have not resolved it, it tends to show up a lot in life (until resolved). Yes, that is a generalisation.

From what you have written, you may have formed some "people beliefs" over the years. Everyone has these, of course. Sometimes these come out in everyday conversation.

"People are going to be mean sooner or later" is an expectation, so underneath that might be beliefs like:

- "People are mean"
- "People are cruel"
- "People are out to pick me apart"

You could absolutely blast those beliefs.

Once resolved, it will either not show up at all or show up in a different way. If someone was deliberately trying to undermine or mock someone, they would soon stop if they realised it would have no effect whatsoever. It would be like trying to KO a boxer who was wearing a suit of armour - good luck!

So, you can then "try on" any belief, seeing how holding such a belief would serve you. Think it through. How would it serve you?

For example, "People can't be trusted" (even if consciously argued) might create distrust. It is a global belief. Of course, some people can't be trusted, but many others can. So, you could eliminate the global belief and then layer in:

"Most people can be trusted, and I can discern that better now"

Or

"I trust that I will find the people who have my best interests at heart"

Or

"I am safe to be and express myself in public now"

And even

"I now remain absolutely at ease, no matter what anyone says about me"

It is important also to note that there is no absolute truth here and it is subjective really, so "everyone is good with me" would still create a positive experience - even if it feels a bit too much of a stretch for you. If someone genuinely believed that at a subconscious level (not trying to affirm it), they would likely filter out times when that wasn't the case or just see the critics as outliers.

Of course, there are random events that show up, so you can also CT those if they affect you.

Hopefully that helps, Truman.

All the best,

Paul  :)

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Relationships and Rejection / Re: Parent's burden
« on: March 24, 2019, 01:19:20 PM »
Hi Truman,

Thanks for posting.

Maybe Freud was onto something there, but it is difficult for a great number of people to deal with and overcome how they were treated or mistreated by their parents - of course, he didn't have Click Tracks back then  ;)

Freud was dealing with the conscious mind, so I don't agree that everyone could just consciously decide to not be affected by the behaviours of the very people upon whom your survival once depended. Parents have a unique insight into their children and can have an incredibly powerful impact on them.

I have known and worked with people from a variety of age ranges and what their parents said, say, did or do to them can have profound and lasting consequences. It can really devastate them. And these are just the people who have that awareness. Other people blame themselves for everything.

If "blame" and "responsibility" are different ends of the spectrum, I personally think it is important not to venture too far into either over-blame or over-responsibility. I mean that in a general way.

With parents who had narcissistic characteristics, it is entirely possible you felt judged, second-best and not a priority. You would not be alone there, so well done on all the work you are doing on yourself and for the wisdom you have shared on the forum.

In this case, you could possibly just keep it very simple.

Simply imagine their behaviours, words and historical criticisms, try hard feel what you felt and CT it.

So, for example, you could try hard to feel like the 10-year old version of you whilst imagining your father's passive-aggressive behaviour...and then run the CT on it until it is completely neutral.

You could then do the same, running a separate CT whilst thinking your mother's behaviour.

I hope that helps, Truman.

All the best,

Paul  :)

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Miscellaneous and Other Topics / Re: Obsessed with Pstec ?
« on: March 24, 2019, 09:34:11 AM »
Hi Limage,

Thanks for posting. We are here to help.

So, in what ways do you feel you are your own enemy?

What have you been doing/not doing?

I look forward to your reply.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)

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Tell us About your PSTEC Story / Re: Accelerators
« on: March 24, 2019, 09:31:44 AM »
Hi Barry,

Thanks for posting and sorry for the late reply.

In general, it is much better to focus the tapping Accelerators on what you perceive to be a problem (e.g. a behaviour, memory, thought, belief, or emotion), as it gives your subconscious something more tangible to latch onto.

Then, just tap along. You may find that other memories come into your awareness.

Hope that helps, Barry.

All the best,

Paul  :)

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Hi Kimcha,

Thanks for your reply and apologies for my delay in responding.

In general, the Click Tracks on their own would handle experiences like this. If you felt panic or guilt about a trade, for instance, neutralising such emotions would likely have a positive impact on your behaviour....or just leave you feeling much freer.

Thanks again,

Paul


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Hi Kimcha,

Thanks for your post and question.

We are, by nature, meaning-makers and there will be feelings associated with the meanings we make/conclusions we reach - this is what we are hardwired to do.

The first meaning you made was that something negative happened to you. You probably based this on the feelings you had/have about the event.

In that case, you can "Click Track as things come up." As you were negatively impacted, you can try hard to feel the unwanted feelings and CT them down to 0 or 1. When you are neutral about something, you will naturally make different conclusions.

So, go with the feelings first.

To check in with any beliefs you may have formed or which might be influencing your experience, you may wish to ask "what did I conclude about myself, people or life based on this event?"

It will typically be something simple like "I am...", "People are...", "Life is..."

There may be more than one belief at play.

If it is something more context-based (e.g. around a certain person, or within work or school), it is probaby not a core belief. Core beliefs like "I am not capable" are typically formed in early childhood. They help influence our thoughts, actions and reactions.

Then, when you identify the belief or conclusion you reached, you can blast it.

These are different ways to achieve the same outcome, so you have some flexibility here.

I hope that helps.

All the best,

Paul  :)

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Hi Mercury62,

Thanks for posting.

The Belief Blasters are very different to the Click Tracks, as you do not have to do any tapping at all.  You do not need to write anything down.

Also, they are solely designed to work on eliminating beliefs, and not neutralising emotions. However, when you eliminate a belief, you may well find all the emotionality goes away - similarly, beliefs can go away when emotions are completely neutralised.

The Belief Blasters are closer in style to Quantum Turbo, and they work exceptionally well in tandem.  However, let yourself get some results with PQT first. Bring all your positive expectancy to this work, as it only helps.

As for the Belief Blasters, they are simple to use. Basic instructions:

- Identify the simple belief
- Put it into the past tense
- Run the track and try hard to believe the belief, while repeatedly mouthing the words of the belief (e.g. "I was a bad person") throughout the track

You can get even more details, as well as listening to Jeff's interview with Tim on the following page:

http://bit.ly/ppbeliefblastdesc

We are happy to help with any issues you may have encountered with PQT and the Click Tracks, so please feel free to share what you addressed and any difficulties you encountered.

I hope that helps.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)

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Miscellaneous and Other Topics / Re: PSTEC for suicidality & bipolar
« on: March 16, 2019, 06:18:12 AM »
Hi Jen,

Thanks for your updates.

Please keep them coming, as a lot of people who don't post on the forum will be reading and they learn from other people's experiences

We are also here for you, if you have any questions.

Paul  :)

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Miscellaneous and Other Topics / Re: Education- You're amazing
« on: March 12, 2019, 03:38:27 PM »
Hi Jen.

That's a pleasure.

Sorry. A bit of a typo on my part there.

I meant "layer in with PSTEC Positive Quantum Turbo."

This will be corrected by way of a retrospective edit  :)

For "layer in", read "install" or "add."

Hope that helps.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)

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Miscellaneous and Other Topics / Re: PSTEC for suicidality & bipolar
« on: March 12, 2019, 02:52:55 PM »
Hi Jen,

Thanks for your post and for sharing your story.

I appreciate your honesty. You are not alone here and please always feel free to reach out.

There are so many ways to approach this, and no "one size fits all" naturally.

However, instinctually, I would recommend CTing any guilt you have had:

- about your diagnosis

- about being in therapy

-  about not feeling you have achieved what you set out to achieve.

- about "not being grateful enough" (which tends to be evident in people who are generally happy with their life circumstances, but feel guilty for feeling bad)

- about feeling suicidal thoughts

There will be other memories, of course. Guilt is a huge emotion to clear.

You may wish to run a Tapping Accelerator on the question "what am I guilty about?"

See what else comes to mind, rate each memory from 0 to 10 and then run a EEF track on the guilt. CT until the SUD rating of 0 or 1.

You can run a CT on each "guilty memory", or could combine them and run it on the whole "guilt cluster."

It seems that your therapist moving stirred something up in you. It may have been a sense of abandonment or loss (e.g. losing an important person in your life). I suspect that, because it triggered you in some way, it is worth CTing any negative feelings you had about your therapist moving on.

Also, you may wish to spiral back in time to see if you can an earlier time where someone important left. Go back as far as you can and see if the following helps trigger some memories:

- abandonment
- loss
- death
- being left behind

If anything painful comes to mind, please CT it down to a 0 or 1.

Then, with the Belief Blasters, check to see whether any of the following beliefs resonate with you. Say them out loud, see if they feel true and, if they do, put them into the past tense and blast them:

- "I'm not important"
- "I don't matter"
- "I'm a failure"
- "I'm not good enough"
- "Life is a struggle"
- "Life is unfair"
- "I'm a disappointment"
- "Nothing ever works out for me"
- "I'm doomed"
- "Everyone is going to leave me"
- "People can't be trusted"
- "I'm a screw-up"
- "I'll lose everything"
- "I'm never going to be successful"
- "I'm not OK"
- "There's something wrong with me"
- "I'm deeply flawed"
- "I'm not fixable"

My recommendation would be to blast each belief that seems/feels true. Remember to put them into the past tense and, when running BB, try hard to believe the belief.

For each belief you blast, you may wish to run a PQT suggestion that really lights you up.

At the very least, though, run the Belief Blasters and Click Tracks. These will make a huge difference. You can absolutely get this handled.

I could write much more, but don't wish to overwhelm you. We can dialogue.

I hope that helps.

Please keep us updated.

All the best,

Paul  :)

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Miscellaneous and Other Topics / Re: Education- You're amazing
« on: March 12, 2019, 02:12:55 PM »
Hi Jen,

Thanks very much for your feedback.

It sounds like you are doing an amazing job.

You might actually wish to layer in the following suggestion with PSTEC Positive Quantum Turbo (as, in my experience, so many brilliant people - whether they be parents, kids or employees - don't get the acknowledgement they truly deserve):

- "I really can be proud of myself, as I am doing an amazing job"

Everyone does the very best they can given their context, so just layering in some positive encouragement is very beneficial. Treating yourself the way you would like your daughter to be treated is another way to make this real.

As for part 4 of "You are Amazing", it has not been released as of yet.

If you are on the PSTEC mailing list, you will get an email the day it is released. It may take a different form, however.

Hope that helps.

All the best,

Paul  :)

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Hi Truman,

Thanks for your post and suggestion.

It is always good to see tweaks, strategies and approaches that PSTEC users might utilise.

Just posting to acknowledge your contributions, which are always appreciated.

Best Regards.

Paul

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