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PSTEC Positive Quantum Turbo / Re: Fictional/Real Projections
« on: February 15, 2019, 06:04:28 PM »
Hi Truman,

Thanks for posting.

Good question and, yes, this is entirely possible. Indeed, this is referenced somewhat in PSTEC Advanced Part 2 (http://bit.ly/pstecadvanced2).

It is really important, I feel, that you are content with yourself initially. In other words, ensure it is not an avoidance or escape strategy.

Get really clear on why you want those particular characteristics (keeping in mind it's pure fiction in two of those examples) and, if they fit for you, you can mentally rehearse embodying them in various scenarios.

Then you could see what it is you like about those characteristics and layer in specific suggestions like:

- "I am completely comfortable with who I am"
- "No matter what anyone says, I remain unflappable"
- "I have a sense of adventure that draws people in"
- "I now notice all the ways people are drawn to me"

Or...
- "I have all the skills to be magnetic like Tony Stark"
- "It makes sense to act like my heroes sometimes"

Or whatever you want to create...

Those are just examples, of course, and I am sure you can come up with better, and more personally meaningful ones.

Feel free to experiment and innovate too, and let us know how it plays out.

Paul  :)

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Hi TheHealing,

Thanks for your updates.

You're doing really well, so you can just layer in some additional concepts.

You can change course a bit here and get really "core" on this.

Sex is the context where you experience the problem, but probably not the actual problem. It seems to me that the issue is really about self-worth and that sex was how you felt worthwhile, worthy and enough.

You possibly felt enough when you had sex and, without that strategy, you possibly felt bereft.

Thus, it might be a survival strategy.

This can be extrapolated to anything - making money, attention, approval, work. If we ever have to do something to be OK, good enough, worthy etc. it is a survival strategy. Everyone will create these, so it is absolutely normal and reasonable.

So, you may wish to see if any of these ring true (already in the past tense, but test them in the present tense):

- "I was not good enough"
- "I was inadequate"
- "What made me good enough/worthwhile was getting attention from women"
- "What made me good enough/worthwhile was having sex"
- "What made me good enough/worthwhile was being a great lover"
- "What made me good enough/worthwhile was having people thinking well of me"
- "I was not manly enough" (without sex)
- "I was deeply flawed"
- "I was powerless"
- "I was defective"
- "I was bad"
- "I was not right"
- "I was dirty"
- "I was not acceptable"
- "I was worthless"
- "I was not worthwhile"
- "I was not worthy"
- "I could not get my needs met"
- "I was hopeless"
- "Life was hopeless"

If any of those resonate with you, I recommend you blast them. See if any others come from this. "Feel what it feels like" to hold the belief, imagine it it absolutely the truth (use any "evidence" you can find and look throughout your whole life) and blast it. Check how it feels at the end of the track. Say the words of the belief again. It will likely feel neutral. If it feels even slightly true, run the track again.

You can do this for every belief you no longer want.

You can also take your time to go through this.

Hopefully this helps.

Please let us know how you get on.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)



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Miscellaneous and Other Topics / Re: Hair loss
« on: February 06, 2019, 07:22:45 AM »
Hi bjdutch,

Thanks for your post.

I addressed a similar enquiry a while back:

http://pstecforum.com/pf/miscellaneous-and-other-topics/hair-loss/

This was before the introduction of Quantum Turbo.

While you could layer in suggestions with PQT, it might be best simply to focus on the "freaking out" feelings and CT those. You could amp this up by making it as bad as possible.

You might also benefit from CTing while trying hard to feel that you are losing control - see if you can link this to hair loss, or other aspects of your life.

There are some conclusions you are making about yourself, other people and losing your hair that is likely reinforcing these feelings.

I would recommend having a dig around to see if you can these conclusions/beliefs and then BB them.

Another PSTEC tool is "Magic Sentences for Men Coping With Hair Loss":

http://bit.ly/magicsentences

Hope this helps.

I am interested in learning about your progress.

Please keep us updated.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)


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Confused and Not Sure Where to Start / Re: Success with women
« on: February 05, 2019, 06:19:03 AM »
Hi atomic310,

Thanks for your reply.

I appreciate Truman's reply too, so please look at that. There are beliefs that lead to your experiences.

It seems you are coming from a place that there is something wrong with you or that you are lacking.

So, what is it you believe about yourself, other people and the world to feel you can't speak freely?

Why is it you feel you need to follow someone else'e model of how you need to be?

Really check in with that.

I suspect there might be feelings/beliefs that you are alone, odd, deficient, not enough and that people aren't interested in you or what you have to say.

All these beliefs, although not consciously created, do tend to reinforce one another and cluster together. They create experience, as well as coming from experiences.

Beliefs like:

"I'm not good enough"
"I'm not interesting"
"I'm not important"
"I'm not attractive"
"I'm not worthy"
"I have nothing to offer"
"There's something wrong with me"
"People aren't interested in what I have to say"

We have lots of beliefs, so just take out the ones that no longer serve you.

If you take these out, piece by piece, it will transform your experience of yourself and life.

Hope this helps.

Please keep us updated.

Paul

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Tell us About your PSTEC Story / Re: Interesting reactions
« on: February 05, 2019, 05:59:07 AM »
Hi Ammy,

Thanks for your post and for sharing your experiences with the Click Tracks.

Yes, your experience is certainly not uncommon and, the more you immerse yourself in these tools, the more the results and "ah-has" stack up.

Some people do yawn when running the Click Tracks. Other people might cry, get teary, laugh, giggle, get annoyed, get elated...and I have seen numerous "affects." It is all good. It is all release.

I appreciate you wish to work on people-pleasing, as you feel shame when you feel you have let someone down or if they are annoyed at you (or something you did).

Work is the context in which fear of criticism or not meeting the expectations of others has shown up. Usually, it starts MUCH earlier than that, and then people-pleasing becomes the survival strategy.

So, you could also direct the Click Tracks at memories of times when you:

- were criticized by your parents, caretakers, old bosses, teachers, friends, romantic interests etc.

- felt the need to be "approved of" by all of the above (and anyone else that comes to mind)

- were shamed for not meeting the expectations of others

The Belief Blasters (http://bit.ly/ppbeliefblastdesc) are highly effective in getting rid of the very beliefs that lead to people-pleasing.

Wanting to help and please people is very noble and also very valuable in this world. It can, however, come at a high emotional price if you feel it is not reciprocated or appreciated.

When you get rid of the pattern, you have the freedom to help and please people and feel absolutely enough within yourself (irrespective of their reaction, lack of appreciation or even outright hostility). This, in turn, will help you in many other contexts.

Hope this reassures you.

You are on the right path here.

Please keep at this, Ammy, and you will get there. Please keep us updated.

Best Regards,

Paul

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Hi Shoutman,

Thanks for your post.

There is no one best way here, per se, but find the way that works best for you.

"One hundred thousand dollars" is effectively one "thing", so it does not have to be thought of as eating into the recommended word-limit. Personally, I would treat it as one word (in terms of the power word) but visualise it as $100,000. However, feel free to experiment.

On that note, pick a word-length and phrase that works well for you - memorable, impactful, meaningful etc.

Another way to phrase "one hundred thousand dollars" is "100k"

Again, another way is to not include specific amounts at all and layer in suggestions that create space for that or a greater amount to materialise.

The subconscious is very literal, for sure, so whether you feel the need to state "profit" will depend on the context of the suggestion and whatever else you have layered in.

Crucially, if you have any doubts about your goal coming to fruition, I recommend utilizing the other tracks - tackling any beliefs and emotions that might to be in the way.

Hope that helps.

Please let us know how you get on.

Paul


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PSTEC Positive Quantum Turbo / Re: Beliefs about resistence
« on: February 01, 2019, 06:10:15 PM »
Hi Truman,

Thanks for posting and sorry for the late reply.

Instead of beliefs, you would maybe be better served by Click Tracking the feeling of resistance - initially, at least.

The sort of beliefs that tend to create resistance seem to include the following:

- "It's dangerous to feel negative emotions"
- "Negative emotions are scary"
- "Being vulnerable is bad/scary/dangerous"
- "If I allow myself to show vulnerability, people will hurt/exploit/think less of me"
- "I have to control my emotions"
- "I have to hide what I really feel"
- "I have to hide who I truy am"

Not an exhaustive list, but those capture the essence.

With beliefs like those eliminated, you could layer in with PQT:

- "It is absolutely safe to feel what I need to feel now"
- "I let myself feel what needs to be felt"
- "I put my trust in the Click Tracks releasing me"
- "When I use the Click Tracks, I'm safe to feel what's needed"

Hope that helps.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)

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Confused and Not Sure Where to Start / Re: Success with women
« on: February 01, 2019, 05:55:42 PM »
Hi atomic310,

Thank you for posting. I am sorry for the very late reply.

If you want to learn how to talk to women, there are tons of courses, gurus and books which claim to have "the secret", "the answer" and "the code." This is not to dismiss anything. There are "how-tos" on pretty much everything these days and you will find that on YouTube and the like too.

However, I suspect this is not really what you are looking for. What I suspect you are looking for is a way to feel comfortable in and about yourself, so that you can talk to anyone without faking it or trying to memorise a script.

So that we can help you with suggestions more tailored to your requirements, please answer the following:

- Which PSTEC tracks do you currently own and what have you worked on thus far?

- What specifically are you wishing to achieve?

- What are you experiencing that you would prefer not to experience?

- What do you believe gets in the way of you making friends?

- What do you believe gets in the way of you speaking with women?

This is just, so we can offer some guidance.

There are lots of threads here too, where you can see how various people resolved their issues using the PSTEC tools.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)

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Hi pcguy730 and DarekKow,

Thanks for the posts and thanks very much for a great answer, Darek. I appreciate you helping out.

I used to leave pretty much everything to the last minute too and it was a real block. I find myself doing the opposite now (with most things), and I think it must be a function of eliminating beliefs and neutralising certain emotions.

Things can change very dramatically, even though it can work underneath the surface.

Yes, you can just CT while thinking directly about moving out, or even other times you had deadlines. There might be a mixture of emotions and feelings (fear, frustration, anger, stress, even apathy).

Allow yourself to feel those and run the CT directly while thinking about the deadline and moving out.

For beliefs, see if these resonate. Say the present tense version of these. If they do, I recommend that you blast them:

- "Everything had to be perfect"
- "Everything was a struggle"
- "I was lazy"
- "I was a disappointment"
- "Nothing was ever easy for me"
- "Nothing ever worked out"
- "Change was difficult"
- "I couldn't do anything right"
- "I had to be perfect"

And then, for every belief you blast, layer in at least one positive suggestion with PQT.

For example:

"I will absolutely start packing today, as it makes sense"

and

"Things are much easier now that I am getting them done"

Alternatively, you can just CT or run PQT.

Your call  :)

Hope that helps.

Please keep the thread updated.

All the best,

Paul  :)

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Miscellaneous and Other Topics / Re: Clicktracks and work-related issues
« on: January 18, 2019, 04:17:34 PM »
Hi DarekKow,

Great share.

Thanks for taking the time to post.

Yes, that is a great way to utilise the Click Tracks. Imagine the very worst things that can happen in a situation, try to hold onto the feelings while you run the track and neutralise it.

The Click Tracks allow you to "let it all out", so things tend to show up in a better way or you handle it better (as you had already dealt with it emotionally)

All the best,

Paul  :)

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Hi Kay,

Thanks for posting and for your kind words.Much appreciated   :D

Sorry for the late reply.

I appreciate your update and am pleases you are making good progress.

By all means, run a CT2015 on something unrelated to test out the affect and effect. I do think that CTing the weekly meeting directly could prove to be very beneficial. Imagine you will blush and that people will think less of you, your career will be hurt and try to feel how you would feel. CT until you get to a 0 or 1.

After this, try out the following beliefs and blast the ones that resonate. Say these out loud and see if they feel true. You may intellectually disagree with the statements, but check whether they feel true on a gut level. You will know:

- "The weekly meeting is scary"
- "I'm not safe to be me"
- "People don't respect blushers"
- "I have no control"
- "If I blush, I will be hurt"
- "Blushing harms my reputation"
- "I'm in danger"
- "Mistakes are bad"
- "I have to be perfect"

If they resonate, I recommend putting them into the past tense and blasting them.

Using Quantum Turbo, you can layer in a positive suggestion for every belief you blast.

For example, if blasting "If I blush, I'll be hurt", you can layer in "It is absolutely safe for me to blush, as I am safe"

Please keep us updated, Kay, and feel free to ask any questions at all.

Best Regards,

Paul   :)


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Hi Magsoltech,

Thanks for posting.

Sorry for the late reply.

I am glad you are making lots of progress. That is good to know and it shows you are on the right track.

With regards to your memory, you can run an Accelerator tapping track while thinking of the problem. This will typically stimulate recall.

You can also run a CT on the feelings you have when you can't remember something; the feelings might be fear, frustration, worry etc.

I sense these would be worth doing.

However, as per my earlier message, we may not remember any or all the causes. In such a case, where the memories seem to be inaccessible, just work with what you do know and how the problem manifests in your life.

Hope this helps. Please keep us updated.

Best Regards,

Paul  :D


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Hi Roman,

Thanks for posting.

Sorry for the late reply.

Firstly, with any physical issue, it is worth checking to see if there is a medical cause. It sounds like you have already done that and have not gotten a solution. I suspect that PSTEC will help.

Beliefs lead to all manner of behaviours, thoughts and feelings, so it is just a case of doing some "excavation" to find the causal beliefs and eliminate them. Beliefs account for so much of what we do.

Your instinct to CT the fear of being judged is a really good one.

Trawl through your personal history and see if you can locate times you have been judged harshly in public. I have not known a person who has not had some experience or concept of this.

Most people with whom I have worked have had some experience at school, where they were singled out and felt humiliated. Think of teachers or classmates doing this - name-calling, bullying etc. If it did happen, CT it down to 0 or 1.

See if this has come up at work too.

You may also benefit from running a separate CT on the imagined outcome of your symptoms being very severe in public.

What do you imagine people would say, think or do?

Incorporate this, making it as real as possible and trying hard to feel the feelings you would feel if it was really happening.

In terms of beliefs, say these out loud,  and see if they resonate/feel true. If so, put them into the past tense and blast them:

- "I'm not safe"
- "There's something wrong with me"
- "I'm not good enough"
- "I'm not OK"
- "I'm damaged"
- "I'm not fixable"
- "It's dangerous for people to focus on me"
- "I'm weird"
- "I'm out of control"
- "I have no control"
- "I'm powerless"
- "It's dangerous to show vulnerability"
- "Sweating is bad"

Really, really try to believe the beliefs when doing the Belief Blaster tracks and then check in with them after doing the tracks. Check to see whether they still feel or seem true.

Once you know a belief is gone, I recommend running a Quantum Turbo track. There are lots of examples on the forum, but pick something that really resonates with you.

For example, if you are blasting "I was powerless", you may wish to layer in a suggestion along the lines of "I have always been more powerful than I ever realised"

If you eliminate the causal beliefs and layer in the positives, you will notice all sorts of benefits in your life.

I hope this helps, Roman.

Please keep us updated and feel free to reply, if you need any clarifications.

All the best,

Paul  :)


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Hi Truman,

Thanks for posting.

Sorry for the late reply.

You addressed Brian, so hope you are OK with me replying.

You can absolutely change "I'm" to "I feel." It is a choice.

However, if "I'm extremely successful" feels like a delusion in any way, you might benefit by layering in something like "I will do whatever it takes to be extremely successful" and/or "I have everything it takes to be extremely successful."

This is likely to lessen any possible resistance.

Hope that helps,

Paul  :)

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Hi Sb_in_ca,

Thanks for your post.

"If I type a correct answer that they might've originally thought I don't know,  and now they see I am smart/good enough, this causes them to hate me, and to think I'm showing off by typing the right answer"  

This seems to be a collection of thoughts and beliefs, and shows a level of abstaction that would be beyond most children. Most core beliefs tend to be formed in early childhood and are quite simplistic in structure.

We can hold a mixture of beliefs. The more "core" you get, the more shifts you will get.

Looking at what you wrote, the core beliefs seem to be:

- "I am hated"
- "It is bad to be hated"
- "It is bad to disappoint people"
- "I'm a disappointment"
- "It is bad to show off"
- "I have to stay small to be safe"
- "People can't be trusted"
- "I'm a threat"
- "I'm not safe to be me"

Check in with these.

PSTEC Positive can help you layer in positive suggestions of change.

Belief Blasters helps you take away the beliefs you no longer want.

It is usually most efficient to eliminate the beliefs that feed into the problem, THEN layer in the positives.

Best Regards,

Paul

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