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Relationships and Rejection / Re: Male Insecurity
« on: August 13, 2018, 11:15:51 PM »
Also recommend would be to CT feelings of fear of meeting the expectations of others fear of not being good enough and fear of being inadequate. In general and in bed.


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Relationships and Rejection / Re: Male Insecurity
« on: August 13, 2018, 09:01:17 AM »
The issue here is around comparing which is a huge issue for men when they perceive a woman is comparing them in some way to another man.. It's also around a part of you that can't be physically changed e.g. height, bald etc

CT any feelings of comparison in this aspect and also shame, humiliation, embarrassment, not ok, not good enough, inadequate

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You can try as you would with any other pain. Focus on the feeling and CT. You can use the accelerators and try the "why technique"

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In your example the feelings could be regret, they could also be guilt but also more importantly, shame. Definitely one reason why we do things unconsciously. Very powerful piece to add to a pattern and yes it does work wonders..thank you for sharing.

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Thank you so much for replying! Yes I am so confused by all my issues and symptoms  that it’s hard to know where to start. I can actually pinpoint a few dizzy episodes to when I was pregnant with my son three years prior to it becoming chronic. I have the PSTEC level 1 and the accelerator programs.

Clearingman gave perfect advice on the long relaxing accelerator.

1.) Clicktrack back as far as you can to the earliest dizziest episodes. - get it to a 1 or 0
2.) Clicktrack any stress, trauma etc on any pregnancy or birthing experiences or any major events that happened during those experiences. If this was not your first child, go back and CT the first one and any previous children and the birthing/labor process. - get it to a 1 or 0
3.) Tim and other practitioners have suggested that if someone has experienced any miscarriages or abortions in their life - female or male - to clicktrack these to a 1 or 0.


if any flashes of faces/experiences from the past come up while CT, write it down and CT it immediately next.

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Belief Blasters / Re: Dealing with Oppositions
« on: July 30, 2018, 11:41:24 AM »
You can also get down to the beliefs such as...

I'm not funny
I'm not a funny person
I'm boring
I'm a boring person
I'm not exciting
I'm unexciting
I'm not an exciting person
I'm not fun
I'm no fun
I'm not a fun person

etc.


Another example of this is the belief that you must "do" or "be" something (good, nice, generous etc.) to get what you want - approval, acceptance, needs met etc. So of course people subconsciously attempt to behave in such a way to get their needs met. This is of course completely a false mask or a false sense of self.

We are good nice, etc just as we are but we don't believe we are good, nice etc just as we are. One could clicktrack this behavior and/or belief blast corresponding beliefs.

A wonderful suggestion for PQT is "I'm <word> now just as I am now  <good, nice, fun etc>





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Confused and Not Sure Where to Start / Re: Stuttering issues
« on: July 30, 2018, 11:31:35 AM »
The best course of action would be for you to clicktrack those feelings down to a 1 or a 0 ASAP.  Also CT any feelings of:

shame
humiliation
embarrassment,
Worry
anger

I would also strongly suggest you do a round where you have a tantrum (in your mind) about

1.) how freaking sick and tired you are of dealing with the stuttering issue.
2.) how freaking sick and tired you are of worrying about that issue.
3.) How sick and tired you are about feeling the way you do about it.

Use expletives, cry, really get into it as much as possible. Do these both on the issue of you stuttering and how other people make you feel about it.


If you have a family member or a close friend that you can get to volunteer to sit with you to get those feelings really stirred up that would be wonderful and beneficial.

If any flashes of memories come up when you CT write them down and clicktrack them next.

Some quantum turbo beliefs you can install - use the 15 min track.

I speak completely relaxed now I'm safe now
It's safe to talk to others now I'm relaxed now
I'm absolutely safe when I speak now it's easy now
Stuttering was no big deal now I'm completely over it now





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Confused and Not Sure Where to Start / Re: Migraine Headache
« on: July 30, 2018, 11:17:59 AM »
Either way will work. You don't have to feel the feeling. What matters is that you really try hard. As hard as you possibly can to feel it.

If any flashes of memories come up, write them down and clicktrack them down to a 1 or 0 next.

It's as simple as that.

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Belief Blasters / Re: How do I know it worked?
« on: July 28, 2018, 08:05:09 AM »
Another way to hit it is to remove the expectation that "others should be honest" also look at "people who loved me were dishonest" often times you can take a few similar beliefs out and collapse a larger structure.

You can also CT the feelings that because you are honest (good, nice, giving, loving, caring etc) you are entitled for others to be equally honest and reciprocate. As you know you can never expect this from another person.

Also did you do a round where you have a tantrum (in your mind) about 1.) how freaking tired you are of dealing with that issue. 2.) how freaking tired you are of worrying about that issue. 3.) How sick and tired you are about feeling the way you do. Use expletives, cry, really get into it as much as possible?

I'm sure it has anger associated with it that could be holding it up.

Also give a go on "women aren't reliable" "I can't rely on anyone" "people who loved me were unreliable"


Also for sure CT Feelings that your parents/caretaker were unreliable in meeting your needs, other people are unreliable in general and also relationships are unreliable.

The only thing that is reliable is your Self! :)






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Belief Blasters / Re: How do I know it worked?
« on: July 27, 2018, 10:27:31 PM »
The question would be is that truly the core belief? It could be "women are evil" "all women are liars" "never trust anyone" "I can't trust anyone" "people can't be trusted" "I can't rely on anyone to love me" "I can't rely on anyone to support me" "I couldn't trust myself" etc.

A lack of trust rust often comes from a childhood where you couldn’t rely on the adults around you to love and support you just as you were. Also people who didn't love or support you unless you were good.

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Hi Clearingman and Lee,

Beliefs usually feel like the absolute truth with lots of "evidence" to support them. Some beliefs, however, lie far beneath the surface and we may not be consciously aware we believe what we do. They do make sense at the time they were formed, however.


You can use some of the beliefs already suggested and you may have others like:

"I wasn't enough"
"I wasn't loveable"
"The world was a cruel place"
"I was a disappointment"
"I didn't belong in this world"

Paul

Paul is giving an example of what I described in this post. http://pstecforum.com/pf/miscellaneous-and-other-topics/forum-case-study-avoidant-personality-disorder-apd/msg4809/#msg4809

We are blind to our own issues. We are often in complete denial as a means to protect ourselves. These beliefs run so deep and we have so much going on in us emotionally we sometimes can't feel some of these issues - as of yet - but as we continue evolving we become more aware every day. Loneliness is a perfect example of this. A person can have so many negative feelings going on that they can't even realize/feel the loneliness yet even though it is at the root of their issues.

The belief "I didn't belong in this world" is also important to note how the sub can work because the phrase could be interpreted in different ways. This probably would affect your reality in many ways, from social issues to suicidal thoughts. Belief Blasters completely overrides that and takes it all out. The same goes for PQT. When you craft a proper suggestion for use with PQT you do not have to believe it at all. It can be installed in just the same (opposite) way. This is the beauty of Tim's ingenuity.






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Thank you, Brian and Paul, for taking the time to respond to my questions!
These are not only wonderfully helpful suggestions but your responses also deepened my understanding regarding how to use the BB as well as PQT in specific instances.

There is only one thing that I would love some clarification on regarding Brian's advice.. I took from Tim's tutorial that when coming up with a sentence to use with the belief blasters it is important not to use anything that was a 'fact', correct? I didn't mention in my original post that I felt indeed ashamed of myself (almost all the time), and that I was shamed by my parents (unless one thinks this is open to discussion and a belief rather than a fact...BUT, I know for a fact that it was their intent to shame me when they told me to be ashamed; they admitted to it, too).

Given that this was the case, I am assuming that some of Brian's suggestions don't lend themselves for use with the BB in my particular case, such as "I had been ashamed of myself", "I had been ashamed of who I was", and "People who loved me had shamed me"?

Thanks again!
Lee

You are correct. They do not. If you wanted to install a positive you could do something along the lines of:

I was ashamed of who I was now I'm good now
I'm ok now just the way I am now
I love myself now just the way I am now
I accept myself now just the way I am now
I'm proud of who I am now I'm ok now

etc.

Paul has an interesting suggestion pattern he provided to me and I have used a few times myself. Here are examples.

I thought I was a shameful person but I was wrong now.
Other people had shamed me but they were wrong now.

To add to Paul's list, some other beliefs that feed shame. (In past tense already)

I had been a disgrace
I had been a disappointment
I had been bad
I had been a bad person
There had ben something wrong with me
There had been something wrong with who I was
I had been no good
I wasn't a good person
I had been wrong
I wasn't ok way the way I had been
I hated myself
I had hated who I had been
I had been humiliated
People who loved me had humiliated me
I had been an embarrassment

A REALLY good one is: I had been ashamed of being ashamed

Even... people who loved me had been ashamed of me or others had been ashamed of me


The list could run long and deep. Unaccepted, worthless, unloveable, defective, broken, flawed, mistake etc. I'm certain if you work on these above you will see a major shift. Once that happens you will likely realize even more in yourself.

There are so many ways to go after an issue with the various tools.

It is always a good idea to get really extremely angry at feeling shameful while clicktracking. Shame carries a load of anger and rage. So it can be much easier to clear it out when you address the anger and rage with the CT because it will hold the shame in place.

Even the most stubborn issues will finally clear if you do a round where you have a tantrum (in your mind) about 1.) how freaking tired you are of dealing with that issue. 2.) how freaking tired you are of worrying about that issue. 3.) How sick and tired you are about feeling the way you do. Use expletives, cry, really get into it as much as possible.

Just keep doing the work and keep going.



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Belief Blasters / Re: How do I know it worked?
« on: July 25, 2018, 05:55:49 PM »
Can you give an example of the belief you tried but still have feelings? Often times there could be a bigger belief about life or the world that supersedes it.

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Dear Brian,
I have a couple of questions regarding the belief blasters, and looked at other threads, but wasn't able to find any answers pertaining to the exact problems, hence I am posting them here:

I was wondering how to use the BB for a belief that resulted from being told almost daily, "You should feel ashamed of yourself!". I'm not sure if I'm doing it correctly with regard to putting it in past tense when saying, "I should have felt ashamed of myself".
I used the BB this way several times but without 'obvious' success. Any suggestions?


1.) Give these beliefs a go - Already in past tense

I should have been ashamed of myself
I had been ashamed of myself
I had been shameful
I had been ashamed of who I was
I had been a shameful person
People who loved me had shamed me



The other question I have is regarding using the BB with beliefs that pertain to the future. For example, during her childhood a friend of mine was constantly told by her mother, "What you want most, you'll never have!". I suggested first using the CT to clear the emotions with regard to her mother as well as the anger about having been 'programmed' with such a belief, and then already starting to use PSTEC PQT to 'perforate' the negative belief, so to speak.
However, best case scenario, she would be able to use the BB to erase the negative belief before installing a new, positive one. We both weren't sure how to reword the negative belief for use with the BB, though. (Another example for a belief from childhood pertaining to the future would be, "I'll never be successful / wealthy/ amount to anything")
I'd greatly appreciate any pointers! Thank you :)
Lee

I would have never had what I had wanted most
I couldn't have had what I wanted

The other question I would ask is what was the reasoning behind it? e.g. didn't deserve, unworthy, you were bad etc.

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