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PSTEC Positive Quantum Turbo / Re: Fictional/Real Projections
« on: February 19, 2019, 09:21:17 AM »
Further to what Paul has offered.

Write down the 5-7 traits that you feel best/most strongly about Tony Stark.

e.g.

Invincible
Heroic
Brave
Smart
Successful
Mysterious
Attractive


Then write a suggestion for each.

I really do find myself invincible just like Tony Stark now
I become even more heroic than Tony Stark every day
From this point forward I'm now just as brave as Tony Stark
There's something really mysterious about me in a Tony Stark way
I really do have all the attractive qualities of Tony Stark now

and/or

I really do know I'm a very smart person now


 

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PSTEC Positive Quantum Turbo / Re: Handling the future
« on: January 20, 2019, 06:38:34 PM »
I prefer to be successful from now on

Another way to do this. Using the word prefer in this example is very beneficial in that a big belief many people have is "I must be successful" well when this doesn't happen all sorts of nasty things start to happen in the sub. This shifts all of that away and using the phrase"from now on" takes it into the future.

Also can add in "I can be more successful every time" "I find myself succeeding more all the time"

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Your last sentence is an indicator you might want to blast the beliefs - listed in past tense alr3ady
Life was a struggle
I couldn't have enjoyed myself
I didn't deserve to be happy
I didn't deserve to have enjoyed myself
I couldn't have lived without sex
I would have died without sex
Going without sex was hard
I couldn't have gone very long without sex

4
Another great suggestion:

Every time I succeed the more I realize how easy success is


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You can also blast the belief (in past tense) "I would have started sweating" and really think of every possible example you can think of and really feel the feelings the entire time associated with the thoughts, as extreme as you can.

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Definitely blast

"Others were jealous of me"
"Others envied me"
"Others hated my success"

When you blast these, 1.) think of every possible think you can come up with that applies to each belief as far back as you can remember and 2.) Really feel the feeling the entire time while you are blasting


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Also try blasting - Already in past tense

I wasn't good enough to succeed
I didn't deserve success
If I made a mistake I would have been rejected
If I failed I would have been rejected
Errors were bad
Others would have judged me
Being judged was dangerous

"If I type a correct answer that they might've originally thought I don't know,  and now they see I am smart/good enough, this causes them to hate me, and to think I'm showing off by typing the right answer" 
^^ CT This to a 1 or 0


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Relationships and Rejection / Re: Women, Rejection and Beauty
« on: December 23, 2018, 08:25:43 AM »
Another sneaky belief that could be holding you hostage is "I'm unappealing" run the 18 min belief blaster on it and think of every possible thing about yourself that you think would be unappealing (including your looks) and make sure to really feel those feelings the entire time.


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Also some great money beliefs to belief blast

I would have starved to death
There wouldn't have been enough to go around
There wasn't any more for me
It was feast or famine

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A great way to phrase it is as if it has already happened.

I really can make 10k every month now it's absolutely true
I really will safely generate 10k by December 31 now
I really will easily surpass my goal of 10k by Dec 31 now
I really do develop ways to create 10k by Dec 31 right now
I really did find more ways to make 10k by Dec 31 now

I tend to stay away from have and want because they have an element of expectation and when those are not met it becomes emotionally problematic.

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Relationships and Rejection / Re: Women, Rejection and Beauty
« on: December 09, 2018, 04:21:46 PM »
Thanks Brian I’ll give these a shot...

A little update too...so I’ve been able to let go lots of bad feelings/perceptions about my physical appearance which is good.

But with the girl I’m talking to, sometimes it seems like she’s interested and other times it feels like I’m just a friend to her. I’ve been getting frustrated with thoughts why isn’t this going the way I want? And will she ever warm up to the idea of being with me?

Oh man love is a battlefield haha

Thanks again for the helpful ideas!!!

Things must have always went perfectly
Things should never have gone wrong
I couldn't have handled uncertain outcomes
I couldn't have handled bad outcomes
Things should have gone the way I wanted them to
Women didn't want to be with me
Others weren't interested in me
I wasn't interesting
I had nothing to offer


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Relationships and Rejection / Re: Women, Rejection and Beauty
« on: December 09, 2018, 12:24:37 PM »
Bjdutch try blasting these beliefs too

I must have had the approval of others
I must have had approval or they would have abandoned me
They would have rejected me
Rejection was bad
They would have abandoned me
I must not have been flawed or they wouldn't have loved me
I wouldn't have been loved because I was shameful
There was something to be ashamed of
I must have looked good
I must have been worthy of love and had kept them there
I must have been attractive so they would have loved me and stayed
I must have been pleasing so they would have loved me and stayed

Be sure to feel the feelings really hard as you think about everything you possibly can come up with around these phrases with the most extreme emotions you can come up with.

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Hey Paul and Brian thanks for your responses.

I think there probably were a few underlying beliefs as you mentioned Paul.

I do want to be clear I am actually feeling quite good about the whole thing at the moment. A couple of months ago I actually started to feel like I'm finally getting over her and then I discovered PSTEC and probably about a week ago I done the free click track and was amazed at how it neutralized the negative feelings and then got the EEFs and used them on certain painful memories/fights/situations and feel good.

There hasn't been any of the emotional or painful memories since I started using PSTEC like replaying old scenarios in my head, that was all before PSTEC so I am hoping they are gone.  The only thing that still really happens is things will remind me of her and I'll be like damn I thought of her again but I'm finding there isn't really much of an emotional charge behind it.

I just started doing the belief blasters today, the ones I used (which may not have been in the correct format) were:

I couldn’t let go of her
I couldn’t get over her
I had thought about her everyday
Things had reminded me of her
I had missed being in a relationship with her
I couldn’t move on from her
I had been scared of never hearing from her again
I couldn’t get a girl as hot as her
I couldn’t get a girl hotter than her
I couldn't get a girl as cool as her
I couldn't get a girl as good as her
(I replaced her with her actual name when doing the tracks)

We lived together for 4 years and were engaged. To explain the breakup...

It started 3 months into the relationship when I found out she had been sleeping with another guy and me at the same time when we first met, before we were officially together.


Blast the beliefs:

I had been betrayed
I had been wronged
Others should be faithful



The issue was that I had asked her about this at the time and she said no so we became official and 3 months later madly in love and had just moved in together and I come across dirty emails from her to this guy and I match up the dates and from there it pretty much done my head in (oh how I wish I knew about PSTEC then haha). I made the mistake of thinking if I slept with someone else we would be even and I would feel better, which it didn't and just made me feel guilty. Then about a year later she found out and that was pretty much the beginning of the end.

Blast
I had to get even
I had to get revenge

She moved out suddenly which caught me off guard and about 6 months later we properly broke up. Because I'm not from the same country I flew home. This was end of 2014.

Blast I was abandoned

We agreed to wait a few months and get back in touch and see how we felt, so we did and we both decided to get back together. She was going to come and see me.


Except it dragged on and on where she would tell me she was coming and then I wouldn't hear from her and then we would skype and it would be all good and this dragged on through all of 2015. Which I had then found out she had a new boyfriend during that time.

People took advantage of me
People let me on
Others should be honest

So in 2016 I flew over there and she had a different new boyfriend but we talked and decided we would be together again, she would pack up and move back to her home town I wold fly back home get things organized and then fly back over and we would be together again. So at this stage it was all good, she did move back to her home town and we were making wedding plans.

So at the start of 2017 I flew over and lived with her for 3 months but it was horrible, she wasn't interested in me at all. We slept together once during the whole 3 months and I found pictures on her phone in bed with other guys, I found male sex toys in the bathroom, she was always working extremely late and she was also on tinder.

It obviously didn't work out so I flew home and we properly broke up May 2017. I was pretty much a mess after that, even messaged her a few times wanting to get back together. Then I found out she had a new boyfriend about a month after I left.

By the end of the year I had started to accept the fact it was over and was seeing other girls but nothing serious.

We emailed a couple of times and it was nice but I found myself checking my email a million times a day to see if she had replied. I last heard from her about 8 months ago, she didn't reply to my last email.

A couple of months ago I moved and started getting out there and going on dates which has helped a lot but she was always still in the back of my mind so I was extremely happy when I tried the free click tracks and they worked.

An issue I have had was thinking I would never get a girl as cool and as attractive as her, as she was objectively very attractive and I find myself comparing her to other girls I'm seeing and then feeling bad when they are not as good.

I would never have found love again
I wouldn't ever have been that happy again

Even when sleeping with other girls I'm comparing their bodies to hers and on occasion I've had to think about my ex to actually finish.

I also had this fear of never talking to or seeing her again, I think I got comfort in the thought that we could still be friends and check in with each other and see how we were going but I haven't heard from her in ages. She also has my dog which sometimes I miss.

Like I said I only discovered PSTEC about a week ago so the majority of all these thoughts and feelings are pre-PSTEC but I definitely want to move on and just feel ok with everything.

I think I'm on the right track but I would definitely love any advice on what to do next.

I don't really feel sad or hurt anymore I kind of just want to move on, I'm sick of it being an issue I'm more excited to use PSTEC in other areas of my life I just want to be done with this part but I want to make sure I "fix" it properly if that makes sense.

Again thanks for all the help.

Also apologies for the super long post.

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Belief Blasters / Re: Super Ego beliefs
« on: November 29, 2018, 06:51:59 AM »
Add to that...

The world is...
Life is...
People are...

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Relationships and Rejection / Re: Women, Rejection and Beauty
« on: November 29, 2018, 06:50:46 AM »
BJDutch -

Sometimes it helps to go deeper than what is going on with the problem.

Try this little experiment...

Think about everything around this situation, the most extreme worst care thoughts you can while blasting the belief "I couldn't handle it" Really feel those extreme feelings while you try as hard as you can to believe what you are saying about all of this is true. Rejection, abandonment, embarrassment, shame not feeling good enough, being ugly/unattractive etc.

You can even branch out into anything else you can think of that you believe you can't handle. Really feel those feelings you can't handle it.

Let us know.



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