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Belief Blasters / Beliefs about men/women
« on: June 24, 2019, 05:48:24 PM »
the first role models we had about men and women were mom and dad.

so, it is reasonable that we construe two different maps of the world based on who we are interacting with.

i relate to women different to men.

for example,

my dad never gave me approval or supported me during childhood because he was and still is emotionally numb. the same way his father was to him.

my mom was over protective and very anxious, this led me to try to fix her and made me afraid to her anger and verbal abuse.

so, i grew up searching for the approval of men and being afraid to women.


i think it is very different to work on "beliefs about others" than working specifically on beliefs about men and women. because the last two don't fit in the category of people as general but people as groups that construe our maps of the world and relationships.

maybe i am not afraid of men and i am looking for the approval of them, which makes me to hunt women to get men's approval.

or i am not looking for the approval of women but i am afraid of them, which makes me harder to get the approval of men by getting women.

both work on different structures and both are synergetic but are not the same.

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Belief Blasters / Metapsychological Beliefs
« on: June 12, 2019, 05:07:42 PM »
if we follow Freud's notion of dynamic unconscious we suffer mainly because we value pleasure over pain (who wouldn't).

So, I thought that maybe if we erase some beliefs about pleasure and pain we could achieve more spiritual freedom from ID and superego.


My problem is that I don't know how to locate these beliefs about pleasure and pain because those are unconscious.

I would like to erase any belief that goes against not wanting to feel pain.

For example

"I couldn't have handled pain"

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Hey. I remember Tim said something like beliefs are like a balance in which we have two poles. Positive and negative. And we have to add more suggestions to our positive side to change a belief.


What I realized is that sometimes some beliefs are more difficult to change because those are deep.

For example.

If someone mocks me I could have the belief that they are doing it out of insecurity or that I am a bad person.

But if I install the belief "Everyone is good with me" that seems an unstable belief because reality won't match to that (people are going to be mean sooner or later).

So, how can I create positive beliefs that are difficult to change even when reality presents itself as the opposite of what I would like.

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Relationships and Rejection / Parent's burden
« on: March 23, 2019, 11:22:27 AM »
well, I remember Freud said something about parents, that we are never fully adults until our parent's words stop affecting us or we stop placing them on pedestals.


my main issue is that I had 2 very narcissistic parents that crippled my self esteem. luckly I had became aware of these patterns and I fixed them with PSTEC, now my self esteem is much higher and I am a different person now.

the thing is that the actions of my parents still affecting me.

it's is like I take 10 steps foward with PSTEC but then when I go to drink coffee with my mother she starts critizising and being intrusive in my life and I regress into a 10 year old boy.

the same way when my father gets passive-agressive with me because of some stupid random shit and I regress into a 10 year old boy.


I believe their actions still shape me deeply and I would like to start placing bonudaries around them and cut the shit right from the beginning.

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Wayne Cook Posture is a technique to reduce distress and resistance that engages both brain emispheres to reduce fight or flight responses and induces a sense of inner peace and serenity.

It is really powerful to do before any Clicktrack and while doing Positive Quantum Turbo and Belief Blasters.

It helps you to get more focused and attentive.

One side of the brain controls half of the body while the other side does the same.

When you engage both sides of the brain simultaneously you disengage from stress, anxiety and stuckness to allow the flow of energy.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=W8Ns-2yENgc

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PSTEC Positive Quantum Turbo / Subjective VS Objective statements
« on: March 06, 2019, 12:42:15 PM »
Hello, I would like to know if it is preferable to create subjective statements instead of objective ones.

For example

"I am extremely happy when I meet new women"

Insead of

"I am a social person that feels good meeting new women"

The second one has a more discriptive and objective vibe


The first seems like something that someone would think when their are in that situation

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PSTEC Positive Quantum Turbo / Fictional/Real Projections
« on: February 13, 2019, 03:50:28 PM »
my question is,

to which degree is it possible to create characteristics from fictional or real people we project stuff into.

for example.

if I admire a fictional character from movies or pop culture such as Tony Stark (iron man).


can I create characteristics that I project into him with PQT?

for example:

instead of using the statement:

- "I am very confident"

saying:

- "I am as confident and charismatic as tony stark".


or

"I am as adventurous as indiana jones".

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PSTEC Positive Quantum Turbo / Beliefs about resistence
« on: January 23, 2019, 11:55:51 AM »
Personally I think resistence it is a meta issue when it comes to using PSTEC.

Resisting emotions leads to the majority of problems.

Which beliefs about resistance do y'all recommend to work on to become more resilient and able to feel instead of blocking ourselves to painful experiences?

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PSTEC Positive Quantum Turbo / Handling the future
« on: January 20, 2019, 01:34:15 PM »
I realized that after doing PQT sometimes I am afraid that I won't be this way in the future.

For this I recommend always asking yourself.

Could this [belief statement] will be still possible in the future?

If the answer is YES dont bother. but if the answer is NO, reformulate your belief to be able for you in future. for example

I am always successful in my daily life

For the future will be

I will always be successful in my daily life in the future

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Belief Blasters / Super Ego beliefs
« on: November 27, 2018, 02:13:31 PM »
hey. i discovered that a great way to frame beliefs and stuff thay keeps you from expressing your potential is:

- was bad.
- was wrong.

for example

"being happy was wrong"

"being agressive was wrong"

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Relationships and Rejection / Not being able to trust
« on: November 24, 2018, 08:34:01 PM »
I have a girlfriend who I really like and I can relate a lot (thanks pstec).

But sometimes I notice she hides stuff from their family and acts in weird ways (hiding information, not being 100% honest) which makes me untrust her.

For example, I percieve that she deletes chats from her cellphone talking to guys and then acts as if nothing happened.

I don't know what to do in this situation. If I can't trust her I shouldn't be in a relationship, but I don't know how much of this untrust feelings come from my own projections.

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PSTEC Positive Quantum Turbo / Loneliness and Rejection
« on: November 02, 2018, 12:55:39 PM »
this is a major issue for me.

i've been doing PSTEC on a daily basis for 7 months and I still have lots of irrational fears related to being abandoned or left alone.

so, I project this a lot into relationships, I expect others to fulfill my needs to feel safe around them, I expect them to be there for me always, and if not, i get really upset, dissapointed and angry.

there's always the fear that they will leave me in the back of my mind.

I suspect this is because I had very narcissistic parents that used love and afection as a condition to make me do what they wanted me to do, instead of giving it away unconditionally.

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Belief Blasters / Control freak
« on: October 16, 2018, 03:35:01 PM »
I've noticed that most of my problems and compulsions (eating, sex, fetishes and defecation) are related to control issues.

When I was a kid i had a very anxious mother who was very controlling over me, to the point i felt emasculated all my adolescense.

So, I have lots of beliefs related to being controlled and not being able to control myself and other people.


Which would be a good way to get rid of all these beliefs related to wanting to control and not being able to control.

Also some PQT would be great too.


Thanks.

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I had been working on this with the CTs but it still is a general issue for me.

For example, when I am participating in class talking directly to the professor I am stuck in a fight or flight mode which I cannot address. I also feel the need to dominate or put down and impress authority figures and create confict with them.

I tried to BB it but the word "Authority" doesn't resonate with me


I think this problem has a lot to do with my dad who was a very autoritarian figure when I grew up, very insensitive and he was trying to dominate me and being on top of me on every move I made. And getting really angry when I didn't do what he wanted.

This also made me very rebelious towards authority figures and in my relationship with men (I don't have almost any male friends).

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Belief Blasters / Beliefs and Dogma
« on: September 20, 2018, 11:41:15 PM »
I've realized thru trial and error and also support from people on this forum such as Brian and Paul that belief structures have a dogmatic element that assumes completition.

So it is useful to do BBs adding dogma to it.

Words such as:

- Everything
- Nothing
- Everyone
- Always
- Never
- Everybody
- Nobody

this helps to clean beliefs faster.

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