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PSTEC Positive Quantum Turbo / Re: Loneliness and Rejection
« on: November 05, 2018, 06:02:38 PM »
thank you brian. great advice to implement right now

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PSTEC Positive Quantum Turbo / Re: Loneliness and Rejection
« on: November 03, 2018, 07:51:28 PM »
thank you for your elaborated answer paul. i will update when i finish with your advice.

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PSTEC Positive Quantum Turbo / Loneliness and Rejection
« on: November 02, 2018, 12:55:39 PM »
this is a major issue for me.

i've been doing PSTEC on a daily basis for 7 months and I still have lots of irrational fears related to being abandoned or left alone.

so, I project this a lot into relationships, I expect others to fulfill my needs to feel safe around them, I expect them to be there for me always, and if not, i get really upset, dissapointed and angry.

there's always the fear that they will leave me in the back of my mind.

I suspect this is because I had very narcissistic parents that used love and afection as a condition to make me do what they wanted me to do, instead of giving it away unconditionally.

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Belief Blasters / Re: Control freak
« on: October 17, 2018, 01:55:40 PM »
Awesome. Thank you Paul and Brian. I will update in the future when I finish with all of your recomendations.

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Belief Blasters / Control freak
« on: October 16, 2018, 03:35:01 PM »
I've noticed that most of my problems and compulsions (eating, sex, fetishes and defecation) are related to control issues.

When I was a kid i had a very anxious mother who was very controlling over me, to the point i felt emasculated all my adolescense.

So, I have lots of beliefs related to being controlled and not being able to control myself and other people.


Which would be a good way to get rid of all these beliefs related to wanting to control and not being able to control.

Also some PQT would be great too.


Thanks.

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Thanks a lot Brian. This is gold

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thank you paul. your support is always appreciated  :D

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I had been working on this with the CTs but it still is a general issue for me.

For example, when I am participating in class talking directly to the professor I am stuck in a fight or flight mode which I cannot address. I also feel the need to dominate or put down and impress authority figures and create confict with them.

I tried to BB it but the word "Authority" doesn't resonate with me


I think this problem has a lot to do with my dad who was a very autoritarian figure when I grew up, very insensitive and he was trying to dominate me and being on top of me on every move I made. And getting really angry when I didn't do what he wanted.

This also made me very rebelious towards authority figures and in my relationship with men (I don't have almost any male friends).

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Belief Blasters / Beliefs and Dogma
« on: September 20, 2018, 11:41:15 PM »
I've realized thru trial and error and also support from people on this forum such as Brian and Paul that belief structures have a dogmatic element that assumes completition.

So it is useful to do BBs adding dogma to it.

Words such as:

- Everything
- Nothing
- Everyone
- Always
- Never
- Everybody
- Nobody

this helps to clean beliefs faster.

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General Anxiety...Social Anxiety... Panic Attacks...Agoraphobia / Re: Sex
« on: September 09, 2018, 02:26:19 PM »
Thank you Paul. this really resonates with me because I always been told what to do by my parents and felt the need to fulfill their expectations on me.

Sometimes I still feel being watched when I am with my father, as if I have to act in the way he expects me to act.

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If you feel it is a stubborn belief I recommend you to use several BBs from different angles to attack the same issue.

For example

"I had to be a good person"

"I had to be good to others"

"I had to avoid being bad to people"

"I was a bad person"


These 4 beliefs attack the same kind of behavior.

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General Anxiety...Social Anxiety... Panic Attacks...Agoraphobia / Sex
« on: September 06, 2018, 08:43:29 PM »
I had been developing more trust with women lately thanks to PSTEC and Paul's and Brian's advice on how to delete some core issues and insecurities.

this allowed me to be with women with a non judgemental frame of mind and they started to tell me that most of guys don't know how to make them cum.

and while having sex with them i found they don't do it with me either.

this created some insecurities that i would like to work on to be more free and being able to lose inhibitions enough to do all kinds of stuff with women that would make them cum with me.

like talking dirty or manipulating their bodies and knowing how to do stuff to make them cum with me.


which kind of beliefs could i work on to be more free during intercourse and being able to "fuck" women better?

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Relationships and Rejection / Re: Overcompensation
« on: August 21, 2018, 09:08:27 PM »
hey paul. thank you for answering.

to be more precise i overcompensate a lot around people whom i want something from them (i.e. sex or dates from women) or i percieve as higher status than me (i.e. hot women or men whom i percieve to be better than i am).

when i percieve people as lower or equal status than me i don't have the triggers that makes me want to be more than i am for others.

i end up over thinking and investing a lot for women, which makes them don't answer me or avoid me when they used to show interest. and i end up feeling resentment towards them for showing interest and then taking it back.

the only way to get what i want from women is by being very manipulative in the way that i invest with them. i think carefully how much investment i will give to them so they don't dissappear as they always do. this leads me to some success, but when i decide to drop the mask and i invest the way i would really do, they dissappear.

women banishing only reinforces my defense mechanism that makes me avoid and consciously invest really low in them to get them around me.

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Relationships and Rejection / Overcompensation
« on: August 19, 2018, 02:30:32 PM »
this problem had been significately reduced by working with pstec but there is still some of it.

i feel as if i have to be more than i already am to not get rejected or to be liked by others.

this leads me to self sabotage a lot of my relationships pursuing being liked or not rejected.

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Relationships and Rejection / Re: Male Insecurity
« on: August 13, 2018, 02:05:41 AM »
with pqt you could try

i know i can handle women everywhere i go

women come to me in an easy and fun way

being with women it was always natural to me


and bb

i had to be a good lover

i had to satisfy women

i had to be strong

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