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Belief Blasters / Re: Metapsychological Beliefs
« on: June 14, 2019, 08:25:00 AM »
Hi Truman,

Thanks for posting.

It is all a model, really. Pain and pleasure, to an extent, are entirely subjective. What one person finds painful, another finds pleasurable...and vice versa.

Of course, there are certain experiences which seem to be universally painful. If you were neutral about everything, which could be achievable, is that the best outcome for you? Judging by your question, I don't think so.

It seems you want to sit with the pain, allow it to be there and to resolve.

As I understand it, however, more spiritual freedom can be attained from giving up the attachment to certain outcomes.

Beliefs are often below conscious awareness, but we can bring them to conscious awareness.

A belief that tends to get in the way is "everything needs to go my way", allied with "I have to be perfect" and "pain is bad."

Eliminating these from your model of reality can create freedom and allow pain to be experienced...and cleared.

Some good suggestions for PQT:

"I now safely navigate pain to be who I was meant to be"
"I am safe to be me now"
"I can absolutely handle and resolve my pain now"
"Pain has a message for me, so I listen to it"
"I am definitely made of strong stuff"
"I use all pain to create a pleasurable life"

Hope that helps, Truman.

All the best,

Paul

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Tell us About your PSTEC Story / Re: nothing works
« on: June 10, 2019, 03:28:59 PM »
Hi Alakh,

Thanks for your post.

I am sorry you have not had any results yet.

We have corresponded before, so I know you have tried many different modalities.

Sometimes a desperate desire to change, while coming from a good place, CAN impede progress. It can get in the way because, when someone is desperate for something to work (whether it is a modality or a social interaction), it tends to take them out of the present moment.

So, the first thing I would recommend is to CT the annoyance that "nothing works" and that you have had zero results from your efforts and expenses. Allow yourself the opportunity to get really annoyed at this. You may need to run the CT several times.

Also, you could try saying "It is safe to be happy" and see if any thoughts that run counter to that show up.

These can be run through the Belief Blasters.

Also, you may wish to see if these beliefs resonate with you:

- "Nothing could have ever worked for me"
- "Change was impossible"
- "My mind was against me"
- "I was defeated"
- "I could never have been who I wanted to be"
- "Everything was a waste of time"
- "Everything was a waste of money"
- "It was all pointless"

If they do resonate, try hard to believe them whilst running each statement through BB.

I know you have tried various modalities, and this can occasionally lead to confusion, overwhelm etc. when you are using them simultaneously. They all have different methodologies.

Tapping, for example, is just a very small part of PSTEC. It's not a tapping or energy modality. The tapping is just there as a pattern interrupt.

PSTEC's core tracks are composed of many complex and proven psychological elements.

Generally, if PSTEC hasn't worked at all for someone, they:

a) misunderstood the instructions or assumed it WAS a tapping/energy modality....and so incorporated other elements of other modalities.
 b) gave up too soon. Sometimes more persistence is needed.
c) didn't really try to feel the feelings (too painful or too difficult)
d) wanted it to not work in some way, as a way to prove their problem was too complex/unsolvable and thus that nothing worked for them...or ever could.
e) encountered a modality that just didn't resonate with them
f) were not focused on the issue at hand

 or

g) they wanted to retain the problem for some reason (e.g. to make someone "pay for what they did", as getting rid of the problem might let them off the hook)

I recommend giving PSTEC another go, Alakh. Even 15 mins a day can have an impact, as you will be chipping away at everything that bothers you.

Even if you decide not to do that, you absolutely can resolve all your fears and make the changes you desire to make.

Please keep us updated.

Best Regards,

Paul

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Hi Magsoltech,

Thanks for posting.

I suspect that, if you continue to CT the fear, you will eradicate it. It may just be a case that there are various references to this.

Have you been able to locate any childhood instances where you were called upon to perform (e.g. at school), or put into unfamiliar situations that stretched beyond your comfort zone?

There may be a fear of being embarrassed or humiliated here, so use that in the CTs. Try hard to feel the anticipatory anxiety of getting up to speak and it not going as well as expected.

if you have Belief Blasters, you may be able to get this resolved even more quickly.

The following beliefs would be worth exploring:

- "Mistakes were bad"
- "Failure was bad"
- "I had to be perfect"
- "I had to be slick"
- "I had to be in control"

If you don't, then you could still use PSTEC Positive or PQT on the following:

- "I am now completely at ease when I am asked to speak"
- "When I think about managing the class, I relax deeply now"
- "I will be so calm when managing this class"
- "Everything is going to go so much better than I realised"

Please let us know how you get on with that, Magsoltech.

All the best,

Paul

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Hi Alistairok,

Thank you for posting, and for your feedback.

Do you have any conscious memory about when you started bracing your midsection around other people?

There will be a reason and subconscious explanation, of course, but you don't have to figure it all out.

Perhaps it was a habit you developed when you felt threatened by or "less than" others.

A couple of approaches with the CTs:

- Try hard to feel those feelings while thinking about other people being around

- Try hard to feel what you normally feel whenever you have braced your midsection. For example, some people feel ashamed or embarrassed if they have exhibited a behaviour they consciously wish to stop.

- Try hard to feel disgust when you think about your body

You could also benefit enormously from tackling this at a belief level. Check in and "feel into" the following beliefs (say them out loud, and see if they feel true or uncomfortable):

- "I wasn't acceptable"
- "I was weird"
- "I was not OK"
- "I had to hold myself in"
- "I was in danger"
- "I had to guard myself"
- "I was unattractive"
- "I looked bad"
- "I was less than others"

If any of these feel true, I recommend running them through the Belief Blasters.

When doing this, try hard to believe the beliefs as "everything up to this point in time."

Check in with the belief after running the BB.

There is quite a bit of work to do here, and you can take your time with it.

Please let us know how you get on with this.

All the best,

Paul  :)

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Hi princesuxx,

Thanks for your post.

Brian nailed it.

You don't have to feel the feelings when doing the CTs, per se.

Crucially, you just have to TRY hard to feel them.  This is where the gold can be mined.

How might you have felt when you found out about your dad's diagnosis?

Paul  :)

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Hi princesuxx,

Thanks for your reply.

I am sorry for my late reply. I appreciate your patience.

Based on your answers, I suggest the following:

1) CT any feelings you had around your dad's cancer diagnosis, treatment and recovery. But really, try hard to feel into the shock of it all (as you experienced it then) while running the CT. Getting a diagnosis like that, especially in such an unexpected context, would be shocking for anyone. CT this down to 0 or 1. It may require a few CT rounds.

2) CT how you feel when your family overreact to everything. Our upbringing can influence how we react to people, as we are always modelling others (especially when we are young and impressionable). So, you saw people overreacting, panicking etc. and it probably left you feeling a bit frenzied or on-edge. Moreover, this probably felt normal. Try hard to evoke those feelings while doing the CT.  CT this down to 0 or 1. It may require a few CT rounds.

3) PSTEC works on memories and imagined outcomes. Imagine the worst here and try hard to convince yourself you have a disease, illness etc. Feel how that feels and run a CT on this. CT this down to 0 or 1. Again, this may require a few CT rounds.

4) CT any worries you have about going to the dentist and doctor.

Even though these are written like bullet points, you will have plenty to do here. The key thing is to really try to feel the feelings while thinking about the events/memories/imagined outcomes.

Please let us know how you get on with that.

Best Regards,

Paul  

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Hi princesuxx,

Thanks for your post.

I am sorry you are experiencing hypochondria, as I appreciate it can be very consuming.

It can be very helpful to find causal memories and, if those don't seem to be too accessible, the Accelerator tracks can be very helpful:

http://bit.ly/pstecaccelerators

They help aid recall and, in general, make all the PSTEC tracks work even more efficiently.

I may need a bit more information about how the hypochondria presents itself. For starters:

- can you recall any specific traumas in your early life?
- what is the payoff to worrying about your health?
- have you or your loved ones had any serious or life-threatening health issues in their lives?
- how did your family react when things didn't go well?
- do you feel worried or anxious about anything else?
- what specifically did you CT?
- what do you believe about yourself?

I look forward to your reply.

Paul  :)


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Hi MamaC,

Thanks for your post.

I am sorry your son has been feeling so stressed about his operation. I appreciate it is very difficult to see your loved ones in distress.

I can confirm that PSTEC can absolutely be used by children, and is extremely effective. There are lots of case studies too, and PSTEC has been and is being used very successfully in schools with children as young as 6.

Our kids have used and do use the Click Tracks, and they work brilliantly on a variety of issues.

I recommend just talking your son through how to use the tracks, and ask him to focus on the operation (and being sedated) while running the CT.

Ask him the SUD before and after running the CT.

You could also demo how he can use the tracks - by tapping along yourself. Perhaps you could play the track out loud (no headphones) for the first time. Doing this also helps normalise working through these sorts of worries. Your son can then use the tracks for anything else which bothers him.

I hope this helps and that you also feel reassured.

Please let us know how you get on.

Kind Regards,

Paul  :)

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Hi Delfino,

That's an absolute pleasure.

I am glad you nailed the anxiety around your eyesight. This is a brilliant starting point.

I suspect that, if you keep digging, you will get some great results.

There are some excellent PSTEC tutorials about physical pain and physical issues:

http://bit.ly/pstecphysical (FREE)

http://bit.ly/pstecphysicalissues (Paid)

Please keep us updated, Delfino.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)


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Hi Delfino,

Thanks very much for posting and apologies for the late reply.

As is often the case with PSTEC, there are various ways to approach this.

Do you have any feelings (e.g. fear, sadness) about your deteriorating eyesight?

If you do, you may wish to imagine the worst aspects of your eyesight deteriorating and CT those..For example, "fear around never being able to see again."

For the BBs, you might benefit from going more core. Some people who receive an undesirable prognosis may hold beliefs like:

"I am defective"
"I am broken"
"Life is unfair"
"I am falling apart"
"I am not OK"
"There is something wrong with me"

You may wish to say those out loud, check if they feel true and, if so, put them into the past tense and blast them.

I'd also recomment a Quantum Turbo suggestion along the lines of:

"I am calm and relaxed about the future starting now"

Please let us know how you get on with those, Delfino.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)

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Hi Jen,

Just to echo what Shoutman already advised...

Your 10-year-old could absolutely use BB.

The best beliefs to clear tend to be quite childlike in construction, as it happens.

So, an adult might say "I'm terribly blocked when it comes to completing my assignments"

A child would just say something like "I'm dumb" or "My brain is bad"

These beliefs are very core.

An adult or child can also CT the fear of forgetting things, as fear can certainly impact recall.

I hope that helps.

All the best,

Paul  :)


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Belief Blasters / Re: Rewording in past generic beliefs
« on: May 07, 2019, 01:05:22 PM »
Hi Kiltro,

Thanks for your reply.

"Mistakes and failure are bad" is the belief you are addressing with the BB tracks.

Say it out loud, feel how it feels (before and after running BB). That is the feeling you might wish to evoke when running BB.

You then put the statement into the past tense. This is a mechanism of BB.

So, you are trying hard to believe "Mistakes and failure were bad"

The past is 1 second ago, 10 years ago, 40 years ago etc. I started this reply in the past  :)

To simplify this, I advise people to think of the past tense sentence/statement as "everything up to this point in time."  You use all "evidence" up to this point in time. It does not have to be an exhaustive list but go with the "proof."

For the core beliefs, try to aim for early childhood experiences.

So much of our "evidence" for beliefs being the truth is derived from past events.

Hopefully the following example illuminates this idea: someone might believe "I'm not wanted", as they made that conclusion (usually subconsciously) many years ago. They may not even be consciously aware of that belief, and may do a lot to avoid facing the feelings associated with it.

If someone was running that belief through BB, it would typically be phrased in the past tense as "I was not wanted" (up to now) and they would try hard to believe it while thinking of the so-called evidence.

I hope this helps.

If not, please let me know.

All the best,

Paul  :)


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Belief Blasters / Re: Rewording in past generic beliefs
« on: May 07, 2019, 11:45:04 AM »
Hi Kiltro,

Thanks for posting.

Although there are some innovative ways to use the Belief Blasters, I recommend that you keep it as succinct as possible when running a belief statement.

This tends to get a better result, as it makes it easier to recall the statement and eliminate the belief.

Moreover, "I thought mistakes and failure were bad" describes the consequence of holding the causal belief. In other words, "mistakes and failure were bad" would cause the thought and the associated behavior.

You would think it because you believe it and your behaviour would tend to be consistent with holding such a belief (e.g. feeling bad when you make a mistake, trying to avoid anything that does not come naturally).

So, I recommend blasting "mistakes and failure were bad", while trying hard to believe that statement and feeling what it feels like to hold such a belief.

This would apply to other similarly-worded beliefs too. Try hard to tap into the experience of these beliefs too. They influence our reality.

I hope that helps. If it is not clear enough, please let me know.

All the best,

Paul  :)

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Hi gdogg9999,

Thanks for posting.

If you are comfortable sharing, please let us know the "evidence" you have for the beliefs you formed. Often, when we have concrete examples, it helps others see how these constructs can be taken down.

Further to what Brian wrote, you may wish to try the following:

- really think of the beliefs as "more than just words" and try hard to feel what they feel like. For example, what does "I am a failure" feel like?  Really "feel into" this. Try hard to believe the statement while running the track. It will likely have certain feelings attached (you can CT these, as Brian suggested) and certain "evidence."

- go back as far as you possibly can to when these type of self-concepts would have been formed (e.g. early childhood) and see if you can pinpoint the type of experiences that led to your conclusions. You may wish to look at "being compared unfavourably to others", "being criticised", "being punished for making mistakes", "only being acknowledged when achieving something."

"I've accomplished nothing" gives importance to accomplishment so, while I am pretty sure you will have accomplished a lot of things in your life, what do you feel you need to accomplish to be OK?

Is it lots of money, fame, qualifications etc.?

On the flip side, if you accomplished nothing at all, that does not mean you *have* to feel bad. Some of the most joyful people I've ever met didn't have a laundry list of material achievements (e.g. credentials, millions in the bank) and felt good in and about themselves. You can get to that place with PSTEC.

As you do feel bad about your perception that you have failed, however, some other beliefs might include:

- "What makes me good enough is accomplishing things"
- "I am not acceptable"
- "I am a disappointment"
- "People think less of me for not achieving"
- "I have let myself down"

All these beliefs are decisions you made about yourself, based on your experiences and interpretations. They are stored in the subconscious and they can be eliminated.

Even though the Belief Blasters typically work first time on a given belief statement, there is no harm in running the same belief through more than one play of the track. If a belief still seems or feels somewhat true after running a BB, you can certainly run it again. Some people find this very beneficial.

So, to recap, please try the BBs and CTs initially. Let us know when you have done this and then we can suggest PQTs.

I hope that helps for now.

All the best,

Paul

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Miscellaneous and Other Topics / Re: PSTEC and Tinnitis
« on: April 26, 2019, 07:33:09 AM »
Hi Bezas,

Thanks for your question and hopefully you hear about some user experiences soon.

I know that, when physical pains and sensations have a subconscious origin, they can certainly be resolved by using a subconscious change tool.

I apologise if I am off-base, but I am assuming you have experienced tinnitus yourself.

If so, how long have you been experiencing tinnitus?

Have you tried any of the PSTEC tools to address this?

Which PSTEC tools do you currently own?

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best.

Paul  :)


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