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Hi Jonny and Shugofrutos,

Thanks for posting.

Jonny, I've replied to your email and given a fair amount of detail. I didn't think it was beneficial to post the same reply here (without your permission), so maybe Brian will offer some additional perspectives.

Shugofrutos, as well as what Brian has suggested, I think it would be worthwhile to have a look at what beliefs you hold that may be supporting the pattern. This will help. From what you have written, you might wish to see if you hold any of the following beliefs:

- "I'm not deserving"
- "It is dangerous to be successful"
- "People are out to hurt me"
- "I'm not worthy"

If you say those out loud, you can see if they resonate and blast them.

Getting rid of beliefs like that can make a huge difference - especially as the PSTEC tools work so well together.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)

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PSTEC Positive Quantum Turbo / Re: Loneliness and Rejection
« on: November 02, 2018, 04:17:49 PM »
Hi Truman,

Thanks for your post.

There is no question that different parenting styles can have a huge impact on how we perceive ourselves, other people and the world.

To that end, every single fear we experience is perfectly rational to our subconscious mind.

It all makes sense and the subconscious is just trying to help us. It is all part of a big pattern. We have so many patterns. Some work well for us (in that we feel good), while others do not ("bad feelings", "unwanted behaviours" etc)

So, with this in mind, what beliefs seem to support the feelings and behaviours of being abandoned?

Really think this through and consider the core beliefs that contribute to the pattern.

"What would I have to believe about myself, relationships and people to feel and behave this way?"

There may well be beliefs like "I'm not OK", "I'm not safe in this world", "Relationships are scary", "I'm alone", "I'll be abandoned", "Nobody loves the real me", "I have to hide the real me to be accepted", "Love is conditional",  "Love is easily withdrawn", "If I don't do it right, I'll be rejected" and "I am worthless"

If any of those resonate, I recommend blasting them with the 18 minute Belief Blaster. Really, really try to believe them while blasting them.

For each belief you eliminate, I'd recommend layering in (with PQT) some suggestions around personal safety and empowerment.

You're a pro, so I'm sure you've some great ideas about the right type of suggestions for you.

Take out the beliefs that no longer serve you, layer in suggestions of change and how you wish to feel/act...and let the reprogramming embed. There really are no limits here.

Please keep us updated, Truman.

All the best,

Paul  :D







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Miscellaneous and Other Topics / Re: Motivation to do something
« on: October 25, 2018, 06:11:05 AM »
Hi Clearingman,

Thanks for posting.

Further to what Brian wrote, if someone approaches me with this common issue (or I find it within myself), I suggest CTing the "can't be bothered" or "resistant" feelings directly. Sometimes these pass on their own anyway, yet I find it is a useful step and will do either some or a lot of good.

It does not have to be a strong resistance or a strong sense of dread, but there is likely some feeling(s) there that discourage(s) you from doing certain things. I doubt there's a person reading this who can't relate to that sense of "knowing what I need to do, but putting it off."

If you'd prefer not to use the Click Tracks, however, you can dig down and see if any beliefs are impacting your choices.

From working with people, the following types of beliefs tend to undercut a feeling of demotivation:

- "Life is a struggle"
- "Nothing ever works out for me"
- "Doing things I don't enjoy is a waste of time"
- "If I don't do it perfectly, there's no point in trying"
- "People would judge me harshly, if I screwed up"
- "I'm not capable"
- "I'm not an action-taker"
- "Doing things which bore me is pointless"

Some of these will have different levels - a "why" underneath them, if you will.

There may be other beliefs that support your feelings and behaviour, but I would recommend checking in with these particular ones. If any of those beliefs resonate with you, you can rephrase them into the past tense and blast them.

Another consideration: you don't have to love what you need to do. If if was related to health and fitness, for instance, you can just layer in suggestions about it being good for you. If it was job or education-related (e.g. applying for jobs, colleges, studying or getting references etc.), you can layer in suggestions about taking the step "because it makes sense."

So, if you had to fill in paperwork, you can layer in something like "I'll get this done, because it makes sense" - be specific too. For example, "I'll call five companies this morning, because it makes sense", or "I'll do (behaviour), because it's for my greater good"

Another suggestion that can be helpful is "No matter how I feel about doing (behaviour), I'll get it done promptly now"

Hopefully you can extrapolate this and apply it to your own circumstances.

You don't have to feel good about it beforehand. Just prompt yourself to do it via PQT...and then you will likely feel better after you have done what you had been putting off.

So many of our thoughts and behaviours context-related too. So, you can also leverage the motivation you have had in other contexts and apply them to contexts where you need to get the  metaphorical wheels turning.

The PSTEC Peak Performance package is perfectly suited for this: http://bit.ly/pstecpeakperformance

There are so many different pathways with PSTEC, as you know.

You may find a combination of what we have suggested to be just what you need. Alternatively, you may devise another strategy. If you do, please let us know  :D

All the best,

Paul




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Hi Brian,

Thanks for your post and for shining a light on another great product.

I have been using the Time Machine tracks in sessions (or as part of their associated assignments) for a while now. They introduce a lot of novelty and even more variety. I suspect there are some other untapped uses.

So far, I have found that it is brilliant for:

- passing on lessons you have learned later in life to a "younger you"
- dealing with trauma (taking the lessons)
- resolving grief
- making peace with the past (in a different way)
- saying what you always wanted to say, but couldn't
- brainstorming
- seeing a problem in a different way
- taking on a third-party perspective

I hope some other people will contribute ways in which they have used the tracks that are in the Hypnotic Time Machine package.

Paul  :D



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Belief Blasters / Re: Control freak
« on: October 17, 2018, 06:35:18 AM »
Hi Truman,

Thanks for posting.

The usual "no one size fits all" caveat applies here, but I will offer some general suggestions that hopefully steer you in the desired direction.

I would recommend trying hard to evoke the feeling of not being in control and run this through the CT. Go back to when you were young and felt you were being controlled and see if any feelings of fear and vulnerability accompany this.

Imagine being controlled and/or punished.

You might intensify this by considering how you (as an adult) feel about and have interacted with your mother.

Try hard to make that as intense as possible, and keep CTing until you get the emotion/feeling to a 0 or 1.

I would recommend running this through the long CT2015 track.

From the belief point of view, please check whether the following beliefs resonate with you and blast those that do:

- "People took advantage of me"
- "What made me OK was being in control"
- "I'd have been hurt, if I'd lost control"
- "People were out to hurt me"
- "Being in control kept me safe"
- "The real me had to be hidden"
- "I was weak"
- "I was too sensitive"
- "I was not manly enough"
- "It was dangerous to be vulnerable"

And then PQT the following (re-word as appropriate):

- "I'm safe to trust people even more now"
- "When I think I have to control everything, I relax and let life unfold"
- "I now feel absolutely safe and relax my need to control others"
- "Mum just felt out of control, and her grip on me has gone now"
- "From this point on, I'm in absolute control of deciding how I react"
- "I'm already enough and good things come my way when I trust in myself"
- "No matter how out of control someone seems, I remain composed"

Please let us know how that goes, Truman.

Best Regards,

Paul  :D




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Belief Blasters / Re: Subjective truth
« on: October 12, 2018, 05:39:16 PM »

To hunt out the causal beliefs, you can ask:

"What would I have to believe about X to do Y and feel Z when it/they are around/happening?"


I find this post intriguing so a good bit of information here. One thing I wouldn't mind getting more of an idea on is how to hunt the "Causal" beliefs. Could you give a few examples on that method I quoted above please Paul?

Also how do you know which one is causal?

Because if I thought "Spiders are harmful" that would in turn lead me to believe that "Spiders are dangerous"

Also

If I thought "Spiders are dangerous" that would in turn lead me to believe "Spider are harmful"

Which one would be the cause or core belief? they both feed into each other, no?

Thanks guys

Hi Clearingman,

Thank you.

Jesse is spot on there.

"Spiders are harmful" and "spiders are dangerous" are both causal really. They are on the same plane.

It is not that there would be one causal belief, per se, but that hunting the causal and core beliefs tends to produce the best results in changework.

Another example that is quite pertinent here is the fear of public speaking.

"Public speaking is scary" is one of many beliefs that would contribute to public speaking fear.

"I feel really uncomfortable when I speak in public" might look like a belief in terms of its structure, but is actually a description of the pattern.

Further to what Jesse has written, you can notice the feeling to see if it is propped up by a belief.

Feel the feeling and ask:

- "What would I have to believe about (this/that/right now) to feel (emotion) or do (behaviour)?"

There may be more than one belief causing the emotion to show up. Alternatively, it may be a conditioned response that can be Click Tracked.

In a practical sense, "every time someone looks at me, I look away (behaviour). What would I have to believe about myself, that person, being looked at to do the behaviour?"

See what comes to mind.

I will give some real client examples here.

Some beliefs might be "I am not safe", "I am out of my element", "That person is judging me harshly", "It is bad to be looked at", "I am ugly", "It is dangerous to make eye contact with strangers."

The more you use this type of method, the more natural it gets.

Hope that helps,

Paul  :)

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Miscellaneous and Other Topics / Re: PDF Guides.
« on: October 10, 2018, 12:49:58 PM »
Hi Shane,

Thanks for your post and sorry for the late reply.

Which particular state are you trying to anchor? I don't want to presume.

Depending on what you wish to anchor, the following trigger words may help you get in touch with some resourceful states:

- first love
- complete ease
- laser focus
- the birth of a child
- winning a contest
- getting the house
- wedding day
- party
- chilled
- passing a test
- being at the beach
- working out
- bliss
- feeling connected
- sports team winning
- getting a promotion

There will have been times where you have experienced your desired state.

I look forward to your reply, as that will enable me to be more specific.

All the best,

Paul  :)

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Belief Blasters / Re: Re-phrasing Global Beliefs for BB?
« on: October 10, 2018, 12:36:31 PM »
Hi M,

Thanks for posting. Great questions.

Just to add to Brian and Tomas' posts, it may be useful to think that putting the belief into the past tense is a deliberate mechanism. There are so many psychological principles interwoven into Belief Blasters.

You are effectively making the belief part of your past, so it no longer impacts your present and future.

The past was five minutes ago, five months ago and, quite literally, five seconds ago.

All your belief "evidence" will be based on past events and memories, and these will help produce future expectations. Simply use that "evidence" while trying hard to believe the belief.

So, "cute women were never single" creates "cute women are never single", and tomorrow is a new day  ;)

You can dig into those beliefs even further, by the way. One way is to pretend that "cute women are never single" is the absolute truth, get annoyed about it and CT away the emotion.

What if someone you found cute WAS single?

Do any feelings or other beliefs seem to limit your actions?

What would it mean about you, life and relationships if cute women were never single?

Think about this in terms of "being rejected, "being vulnerable" and "being thought less of."

If it helps, Tim has said you can use "has/have been" instead of "was/were." Maybe the phrasing will make the sentence more palatable for you, as it has more of a "continuous" quality to it.

Please keep us updated, M.

All the best,

Paul  :D

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Miscellaneous and Other Topics / Re: PDF Guides.
« on: October 03, 2018, 12:27:30 PM »
Hi Shane,

Thanks for posting.

I know that PDF guides have been requested in the past. However, with PSTEC, so much of the benefits are derived from the listening experience.

I like having documentation too, as it is another learning resource, so I do appreciate the request.

It would be quite tricky with Peak Performance, though, as the instructions are actually part of the overall package and are embedded with certain suggestions that might lose their effectiveness in written form. So, these need to be absorbed periodically as part of the protocol.

Even if you zone out once in a while, there will be a part of your mind that absorbs the instructions.

Pro-tip, though: this has not been mentioned elsewhere, as far as I'm aware, but you may benefit from playing the instructions at a faster speed. There are many free apps and programs that allow you to adjust the playback speed- VLC, Podcast Addict etc.

You might wish to play the track instructions at 2.0x speed. This will, I suspect, sound sufficiently novel to you, so as to engage your attention. You will also be able to pick up the essential information.

Of course, only do this with the instructions or tutorials (and not the PSTEC tools), if it is effective for you.

The best way to use the package is for a big upcoming event - interview, sporting event, public speaking engagement etc.

With this package, you anchor yourself to a peak state and follow Tim's suggestions.

You are required to use all tracks (instructions, PP CT, PP Loop, Hypnosis track) regularly and proportionally, as they work synergistically.

As for PDF guides, in general, would you like a transcript of the instructions or a standalone guide (like the one included with PSTEC Negative)?

I look forward to your reply and hope what I did suggest proves helpful.

All the best,

Paul

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Miscellaneous and Other Topics / Re: Falling asleep
« on: October 03, 2018, 11:58:58 AM »
Hi Tomas,

Thank you for your post and question.

Some people do feel very tired when doing the tracks. This is because your mind is doing a lot of work. It is good that you are making the conscious effort.

Other people feel lighter and more energised, as they clear unwanted and "heavy" emotions.

The tiredness could be a sign of resistance, or it could just be that the conscious effort is tiring for you. It could also be that you anticipate difficulty and react in accordance with that expectation.

Do you also experience this when running Quantum Turbo or PSTEC Positive?

Even if you do, it would be worth layering in some suggestions with these non-tapping tracks about doing the other tracks. For example:

"From now on, I am now completely alert when using the PSTEC tools"

"I use PSTEC to resolve my problems, because it makes absolute sense"

"It is absolutely safe to feel better about myself now"

"Even if I feel tired, the work is worth it"

Please let us know if you're able to do that and, if you do layer in the suggestions, please report on the results you achieve.

All the best,

Paul




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Success with PSTEC and PSTEC Positive / Re: I can't believe this! Amazing
« on: October 03, 2018, 11:38:35 AM »
Hi Oliver,

Thanks very much for your update.

It can be truly astonishing what can show up when people immerse themselves in the PSTEC tools - patterns emerge, the origins of problems reveal themselves, metaphorical constructs might appear alongside long-repressed memories.

It will be interesting to learn what impact resolving the memory will have on your everyday experience. Rest assured, it will likely lead to something positive.

Your experience emphasises the way in which the Click Tracks are designed to work - they don't remove or deny the memory. They effectively remove the unwanted emotion(s) that is/are linked to the memory. As you mentioned, all significance of the memory is eroded.

It becomes just something that happened that means nothing about you or life.

All the best, Oliver.

Paul


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Belief Blasters / Re: Subjective truth
« on: October 02, 2018, 04:34:48 AM »
Hi Jesse,

Thanks for your message.

I appreciate the way you have considered this.

Hunting out and eliminating the core and causal beliefs will generally knock out the emotionally descriptive beliefs.

So, by getting rid of "spiders are dangerous", "spiders will harm me" etc, it will generally eliminate the experience of being afraid of spiders. Also, the CTs will neutralise the conditioned responses.

"I was scared of spiders" is objectively true for you, as you felt fear and behaved in accordance with that fear. I am sure that people you know and trust would have recognised your fear. However, that is just my belief that it was objectively true.  :D

It can get a little philosophical, so I will try to keep it on-point.

Some modalities maintain there is NO objective truth at all.  This is a fair point. Other modalities claim "it might be that you weren't scared. Maybe you were excited." There are physiological similarities, of course. What I mean is that, as much as it could be claimed that "scared" exists, that was your experience (based on beliefs).

The label itself is not too important here, in my experience. Whenever you find the beliefs that trigger the behaviours and thoughts, you can easily blast them away.

Before doing that, you can consider what benefits holding the beliefs can provide and, indeed, whether the pros outweigh the cons.

I have identified beliefs in myself that I see as beneficial, but may decide to remove at some point in the future.

I do think that eliminating the causal beliefs produces the quickest and most profound shifts. That has been my experience.

Finding what you would need to believe to act in a certain way gets to the core of the issue. It is rarely just one belief and the beliefs are formed based on what we heard, read, were told and experienced, of course.

To hunt out the causal beliefs, you can ask:

"What would I have to believe about X to do Y and feel Z when it/they are around/happening?"

That is one way to do it. You can also disconnect from it and describe your behaviour and thoughts, as though it were a third person (e.g. "what would that person likely believe to...?")

I hope that clarifies this for you, Jesse. Please feel free to keep the thread updated.

Best Regards,

Paul


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Belief Blasters / Re: Have been / had been / was
« on: September 27, 2018, 03:42:12 PM »
Hi Tomas,

It's always a pleasure, so you're very welcome.

Yes, you've got it spot on.

I think you'll be surprised at what beliefs you discover when you hunt for them.

A quick way to tap into this is to ask "what would I have to believe about myself, life, the world etc. to believe...I'll never be/do/have...?"

Just ask that for each expectation-style belief.

Best Regards,

Paul



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Hi Truman,

Thank you for posting.

It might be worthwhile focusing on current and historical interactions with people in a position of authority, and CTing the feelings linked to that down to 0. There will be patterns linked to this which probably run deeper than just general authority.

Go back to your childhood where you perhaps felt powerless or belittled.

Think also of the following concepts:

- people bossing you around
- the idea that you were being undermined
- the idea you are being patronised
- feeling judged
- the idea you are being mocked
- feeling weak or vulnerable
- feeling threatened in social situations
- feeling people are angry with you
- feeling subservient
- feeling "I can't let them think they've won"
- people dominating you (physically or simply shouting you down)
- feeling that someone was trying to take liberties with you to look "stronger" or "the alpha"

You could bundle these together and run a long CT2015 or run each concept individually via a another Click Track (e.g. one play while focusing on "feeling judged" etc.)

As well as this, check in with the following beliefs:

"It was dangerous to let others have control"
"What made me OK was dominating others"
"I was not safe in group situations"
"Group situations were scary"
"I was not worth respecting"
"Anger was scary"
"People thought less of me when I wasn't rebellious"
"Being rebellious kept me safe"
"Men couldn't be trusted"
"Dominant men were dangerous"
"People in powerful positions wanted to harm me"

If any of those resonate, I recommend BBing them and layering in some positives with PQT.

I hope that helps, Truman. Please let us know how you get on.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)

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Belief Blasters / Re: Have been / had been / was
« on: September 27, 2018, 11:09:15 AM »
Hi Tomas,

Thanks for posting.

With regards to Belief Blasters and the instruction to put the belief phrase into the past tense, any version of the past tense will suffice.

Whether it is "had to", "have to", "was" or otherwise, it will still work.  As long as you personally recognise a sentence as being in the past tense, that will do.

You do not need to be grammatically or word perfect either. In lots of regions of the UK, we use incorrect grammar and colloquialisms when speaking. Someone told me recently that "I were in the army..." It is just a regional dialect. I knew that he "was" in the army, but that is just how he speaks.

Keep it natural for you.

Expectation-style beliefs, such as "I will never get what I want", do lend themselves more naturally to PSTEC Negative - from a linguistic point of view. You may wish to run those through PSTEC Negative.

They will still work with Belief Blasters ("I would never have gotten what I wanted"), so you have a choice how you wish to proceed.

The expectation-style beliefs are built from existing beliefs. If someone had a belief like "I will never be happy", that is probably linked to beliefs like "life is unfair", "I'm an unhappy person", "I'm doomed" etc.

Look for the "why" that feeds into each of the expectation beliefs and you will find so many core beliefs.

"I couldn't be a doctor" could be understood as past tense, and this would depend on the context and how you construe the sentence. "I couldn't have been a doctor" is universally accepted as being in the past tense, but both of these could work with Belief Blasters.

I hope that helps, Tomas.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)



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