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Hi Kay,

Thanks for posting and for your kind words.Much appreciated   :D

Sorry for the late reply.

I appreciate your update and am pleases you are making good progress.

By all means, run a CT2015 on something unrelated to test out the affect and effect. I do think that CTing the weekly meeting directly could prove to be very beneficial. Imagine you will blush and that people will think less of you, your career will be hurt and try to feel how you would feel. CT until you get to a 0 or 1.

After this, try out the following beliefs and blast the ones that resonate. Say these out loud and see if they feel true. You may intellectually disagree with the statements, but check whether they feel true on a gut level. You will know:

- "The weekly meeting is scary"
- "I'm not safe to be me"
- "People don't respect blushers"
- "I have no control"
- "If I blush, I will be hurt"
- "Blushing harms my reputation"
- "I'm in danger"
- "Mistakes are bad"
- "I have to be perfect"

If they resonate, I recommend putting them into the past tense and blasting them.

Using Quantum Turbo, you can layer in a positive suggestion for every belief you blast.

For example, if blasting "If I blush, I'll be hurt", you can layer in "It is absolutely safe for me to blush, as I am safe"

Please keep us updated, Kay, and feel free to ask any questions at all.

Best Regards,

Paul   :)


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Hi Magsoltech,

Thanks for posting.

Sorry for the late reply.

I am glad you are making lots of progress. That is good to know and it shows you are on the right track.

With regards to your memory, you can run an Accelerator tapping track while thinking of the problem. This will typically stimulate recall.

You can also run a CT on the feelings you have when you can't remember something; the feelings might be fear, frustration, worry etc.

I sense these would be worth doing.

However, as per my earlier message, we may not remember any or all the causes. In such a case, where the memories seem to be inaccessible, just work with what you do know and how the problem manifests in your life.

Hope this helps. Please keep us updated.

Best Regards,

Paul  :D


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Hi Roman,

Thanks for posting.

Sorry for the late reply.

Firstly, with any physical issue, it is worth checking to see if there is a medical cause. It sounds like you have already done that and have not gotten a solution. I suspect that PSTEC will help.

Beliefs lead to all manner of behaviours, thoughts and feelings, so it is just a case of doing some "excavation" to find the causal beliefs and eliminate them. Beliefs account for so much of what we do.

Your instinct to CT the fear of being judged is a really good one.

Trawl through your personal history and see if you can locate times you have been judged harshly in public. I have not known a person who has not had some experience or concept of this.

Most people with whom I have worked have had some experience at school, where they were singled out and felt humiliated. Think of teachers or classmates doing this - name-calling, bullying etc. If it did happen, CT it down to 0 or 1.

See if this has come up at work too.

You may also benefit from running a separate CT on the imagined outcome of your symptoms being very severe in public.

What do you imagine people would say, think or do?

Incorporate this, making it as real as possible and trying hard to feel the feelings you would feel if it was really happening.

In terms of beliefs, say these out loud,  and see if they resonate/feel true. If so, put them into the past tense and blast them:

- "I'm not safe"
- "There's something wrong with me"
- "I'm not good enough"
- "I'm not OK"
- "I'm damaged"
- "I'm not fixable"
- "It's dangerous for people to focus on me"
- "I'm weird"
- "I'm out of control"
- "I have no control"
- "I'm powerless"
- "It's dangerous to show vulnerability"
- "Sweating is bad"

Really, really try to believe the beliefs when doing the Belief Blaster tracks and then check in with them after doing the tracks. Check to see whether they still feel or seem true.

Once you know a belief is gone, I recommend running a Quantum Turbo track. There are lots of examples on the forum, but pick something that really resonates with you.

For example, if you are blasting "I was powerless", you may wish to layer in a suggestion along the lines of "I have always been more powerful than I ever realised"

If you eliminate the causal beliefs and layer in the positives, you will notice all sorts of benefits in your life.

I hope this helps, Roman.

Please keep us updated and feel free to reply, if you need any clarifications.

All the best,

Paul  :)


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Hi Truman,

Thanks for posting.

Sorry for the late reply.

You addressed Brian, so hope you are OK with me replying.

You can absolutely change "I'm" to "I feel." It is a choice.

However, if "I'm extremely successful" feels like a delusion in any way, you might benefit by layering in something like "I will do whatever it takes to be extremely successful" and/or "I have everything it takes to be extremely successful."

This is likely to lessen any possible resistance.

Hope that helps,

Paul  :)

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Hi Sb_in_ca,

Thanks for your post.

"If I type a correct answer that they might've originally thought I don't know,  and now they see I am smart/good enough, this causes them to hate me, and to think I'm showing off by typing the right answer"  

This seems to be a collection of thoughts and beliefs, and shows a level of abstaction that would be beyond most children. Most core beliefs tend to be formed in early childhood and are quite simplistic in structure.

We can hold a mixture of beliefs. The more "core" you get, the more shifts you will get.

Looking at what you wrote, the core beliefs seem to be:

- "I am hated"
- "It is bad to be hated"
- "It is bad to disappoint people"
- "I'm a disappointment"
- "It is bad to show off"
- "I have to stay small to be safe"
- "People can't be trusted"
- "I'm a threat"
- "I'm not safe to be me"

Check in with these.

PSTEC Positive can help you layer in positive suggestions of change.

Belief Blasters helps you take away the beliefs you no longer want.

It is usually most efficient to eliminate the beliefs that feed into the problem, THEN layer in the positives.

Best Regards,

Paul

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Hi Sb_in_ca,

Thanks for your post.

It sounds like you are experiencing a degree of performance anxiety, which shows up as a fear of making a mistake or being judged harshly by others. Of course, we might say that consciously a behaviour or thought makes no sense (and may feel embarrassed or uncomfortable about feeling or acting a certain way), but it will make sense on a subconscious level.

This pattern is perfectly common and can be resolved in quite a straightforward way.

In fact, as with many things, there will be more than one way to resolve this pattern. Your first instinct looks to be spot on and, indeed, the Click Tracks may be all you require.

You can simply run a CT on these type of scenarios and the feelings associated with them:

- being judged harshly
- public performance
- job interviews
- tests/exams
- criticism based on making mistakes

There will be historical causes and memories around these concepts, I suspect. Use those and CT while thinking about them, trying to bring up and feel the unwanted feelings (e.g. fear).

CT down to 0 or 1.

You can also CT embarrassment about feeling this way, or the worry that people might be thinking less of you when you are fearful or making a mistakes.

Another, highly recommended way to approach this is from the belief perspective. You can clear the causal beliefs with PSTEC Negative or Belief Blasters (http://bit.ly/beliefblasters)

There are different instructions for each program, of course, but they are both very effective for eliminating beliefs.

The sort of beliefs that typically feed into a public performance (e.g. job interview or test) fear include:

- "I'm not good enough"
- "I can't do anything right"
- "I'm a failure"
- "I have to do everything perfectly"
- "I'm not capable"
- "I'm not competent"
- "It's scary for people to focus on me"
- "What makes me good enough is having people think well of me"
- "Mistakes are bad"
- "Failure is bad"
- "I'm a fearful person"
- "Tests are scary"

If you have either of the aforementioned programs, I recommend saying those beliefs out loud to see whether they feel or seem true.

If any of them do, follow the instructions in the individual tracks to eliminate the beliefs. For Belief Blasters, put the beliefs into the past tense and really, really try to believe the belief while running the track.

Then, if you have any of the PSTEC Positive tracks, you may wish to layer in some things you really wish to feel and believe in this particular context (or, better, at the identity level).

Something along the lines of:

- "I now feel absolutely at ease when doing live programming tests"
- "These tests are my chance to calmly show how good I really am"

This is not an exhaustive list, nor the only way you can approach this, but I am confident you will get this handled.

Hope this helps.

Please keep the thread updated with your progress and feel free to ask for any clarifications, if you require them.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)

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Hi Shoutman and Clearingman,

Thanks to both of you for dialoguing and supporting one another.

I have reached out to Jeff Harding to see if he can answer some of your enquiries (particularly about the TGR forum).

With regards to the past, present and future phrasings, I think context is crucial.

There are numerous different pathways with PSTEC, and therefore there is no "one right way." Writing goals in the present tense works with that particular program and has been shown to work.

With the tracks that have been created in recent years, we have so many options and shortcuts.

You can add in time triggers to any suggestion, and this will be very effective in a range of contexts.

For instance, "At the interview tomorrow, I will be completely calm and confident" can be layered in with PSTEC Positive, Positive Extra or Quantum Turbo. This is, of course, future tense and context-specific.

Equally, you could layer in a suggestion like "I am now completely calm and confident when out in public" (present tense)

You can even reframe past incidents with some artful suggestions.

One of the caveats in Quantum Turbo's instructions is that you will have other concepts and beliefs in your mind. This is not to be overlooked, as clearance is so important.

So, while "believability" opens up a Pandora's Box, if you're 5'1 and want to be the next NBA superstar, it might be a tall order.  Nevertheless, history is full of stories of people who defied the odds and thus changed the concept of what is possible.

This doesn't mean that miracles, exceptions and moments of grace don't happen, because they can and do, but sometimes it might be useful to take a more gradient approach. Sometimes.

Being able to see that is really possible for you and that you will put in the work required is often the most reliable formula.

In the realms of money, there is a social component and also a lot of beliefs around it - family, cultural, personal etc. In a sense, money is its own belief system.

Thus, you can have a good look to see what beliefs you hold about money. Most of these will be stored in the subconscious.

In many cases, we can have a mixed reality. We desire something, but feel a bit "icky" (family forum!) about it.  Certain beliefs about money, the self and the world will create that:

- "Money is dirty"
- "Money is a burden"
- "Money is bad"
- "Money is evil"
- "It is bad to ask for money"
- "Money is hard to get"
- "You have to be lucky to be rich"
- "You have to be greedy to be rich"
- "Rich people are bad"
- "If I'm greedy, I'll be punished"
- "I'll never get what I want"

Blast every unwanted/unhelpful belief you have about money, yourself or your goals and layer in what you really do want. It makes a difference and can make a truly profound difference.

Hopefully this has helped.

All the best,

Paul  :)




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Hi Shoutman,

Thanks for posting and for your questions.

I am glad that what you have been doing with the Click Tracks has been working well for you.

The aim is not to suppress your memories, but to eventually look at your relationship anew - without the grief, sadness and regret attached. In other words, you look at the same events and feel completely differently. That is very achievable with these tools and your subconscious will do this for you.

The beliefs you cited initially are more in the "emotionally descriptive" category, as opposed to being "emotionally causal."

In other words, "I can't/couldn't move on" reflects and is descriptive of your experience, but perhaps "It is dangerous to move on" would be more causal.

"I had missed her" also describes your emotional experience, whereas another belief (or set of beliefs) would likely be causing you to miss her.  The beliefs effectively describe the same experience. Perhaps beliefs like "I will never be in a good relationship again" or  "I lost my shot at love" will be feeding into missing your ex-girlfriend.

The other thing I would suggest is that you look for the beliefs beneath the beliefs you have cited.

So, "I couldn't get over her", for example: why? What would someone have to believe to come to that conclusion?

What would they believe about themselves, their relationship, life, people and love?

Extrapolate this for the other beliefs.

Essentially, you would be best-served, I sense, by hunting out the self-esteem, life and relationship beliefs.

Beliefs like the following MAY fit the pattern:

- "Relationships don't work"
- "People can't be trusted"
- "I'm not good enough"
- "I'm not wanted"
- "I don't measure up"
- "I'm not acceptable"
- "If I don't do what's needed, I'll be rejected"
- "Nothing ever works out for me"
- "Life is unfair"
- "There's something wrong with me"

There will be others.

All beliefs shape our reality, so hunt out the ones causing the unwanted emotional experience, put them into the past tense, blast them and continue to use the Click Tracks.

For every belief you blast, I also recommend layering in at least one positive suggestion with Quantum Turbo.

Hope that helps.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)

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PSTEC Positive Quantum Turbo / Re: Interrupted While Listening
« on: November 29, 2018, 03:33:09 AM »
Hi Shoutman,

Thanks for posting.

In real life, therapy sessions can get interrupted due to things like fire alarms,  technical issues  (if done remotely) and the natural environment (external noises or "Mother Nature calling")

Your phone ringing was one of life's natural pattern interrupts  :D

So, no, it won't have screwed anything up. It happens.

You will have gotten the effect up to the point of interruption.

However, to get the full effect of the track, you can put your phone into flight mode and run the track again from start to finish.

I hope that reassures you.

Paul  :)


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Belief Blasters / Re: Super Ego beliefs
« on: November 28, 2018, 12:15:39 PM »
Hi Truman,

Thanks for posting.

Yes, that is a good distinction. Thanks for sharing.

You can even go down the proverbial rabbit hole here.

"Anger is..."
"Happiness is..."
"Aggression is..."
"Fear is..."
"Helplessness is..."
"Embarrassment is..."

etc.

Fill in the blanks for each one and pick out the beliefs that are feeding the pattern.

For example, if someone held a belief like "aggression is dangerous", they might consider how this would impact their life.

All aggression? In every context? At every point of life? From every person?

Then, put each relevant belief into the past tense and blast it.

Best Regards,

Paul

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PSTEC Positive Quantum Turbo / Re: Should I add "now" to suggestions?
« on: November 28, 2018, 10:00:09 AM »
Hi Shoutman,

Thanks for posting.

You can put "now" in as a little time-trigger. It just brings the attention to the present. If you feel that it contradicts the suggestion, you can leave it out.

As Quantum Turbo is so effective, you can even make your suggestions stronger.

- "I have everything it takes to be absolutely successful now" etc

You can leave the "now" out or put it elsewhere in the suggestion.

Of course, you would be best to define success on your own terms and be very clear on what that looks like for you - specifics.

You would use the CTs and Belief Blasters on any barriers you notice.

Hope that helps.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)

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Miscellaneous and Other Topics / Re: PSTEC with good memories
« on: November 26, 2018, 12:44:31 PM »
Hi James,

Thank you for your post and question, and apologies for the late reply.

Focus can occasionally drift when someone is running a CT. Some people might take a quick and unrelated detour down memory lane, or briefly think about an upcoming event. That's all fine.

In my experience and, based on the design of the Click Tracks, only the things you are focusing on with conscious effort will have the associated, UNWANTED emotion neutralised.

This is why conscious effort and focus is so important when running the tracks.

I have never seen positive emotions slip away erronerously.

You can remove positive emotions, of course, but this is a conscious choice - for instance, elation feels positive, but someone may consciously decide to remove it when they feel elated when gambling, drinking alcohol, doing drugs etc etc.

Hope that helps.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)

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Relationships and Rejection / Re: Women, Rejection and Beauty
« on: November 26, 2018, 12:32:58 PM »
Hi bjdutch,

Thank you for the update.

In addition to what Brian has suggested, when you are running the BBs, really try to FEEL "I am ugly"

Beliefs always go beyond mere words and are abstractions we make about ourselves, the world and other people. They will be linked to certain behaviours and emotions. Use all of it when trying hard to believe the belief.

If it is easier for you to process, CT while you look at yourself in a mirror and try hard to "feel ugly" and disgust while CTing. Imagine how you would feel if everyone thought this about you and CT those feelings. When you get to a 0 or 1, you will feel free.

There is a different goal for everyone, but a sense of well-being ALWAYS comes from within. When you FEEL good enough and acceptable at a core level, it will emanate from you and people will pick up on it.

You don't have to be flexing in the mirror or be consumed with self-love (unless you want to!), but being cool with yourself will be a game-changer for you.

Additional beliefs you may wish to blast might include:

"It was impossible to be attracted to someone like me"
"I was not wanted"
"I was not desirable"
"I was unacceptable"
"I was inferior"
"I looked horrible"
"I was not worthy"
"I was worthless"
"I wasn't what women wanted"
"I didn't look good enough as I was"
"I was flawed"

Then chunk down on the features you don't like and blast beliefs related to those. Hint: anything negative you perceive in your or anyone else's physical appearance is not a universal truth. It is just a preference and those are usually built on a foundation of beliefs and emotions.

For every belief you blast, layer a positive suggestion.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)

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Hi Kay,

Thanks for posting and for sharing your story and great vibes.

There are so many modalities, methodologies and approaches that it can be a little dizzying.

I am sure there are many ways to get rid of the causes of the blushing - hypnotic approaches and getting at this at the core belief level would probably be the most effective and efficient way to do this. You will benefit more from "inside out", rather than "outside in" approaches, I would contend.

There are pills, potions and all sorts of interventions that can lessen or even eliminate blushing in some people... apparently. However, if it is not a medical cause, the medical solution will probably not be necessary.

There is no "one right way", per se, and the approach you take can be highly effective for you. Yet someone else may need to take a different approach. Horses for courses  :)

Acceptance is just one way, and it does help some people. It stops this need to push, pull, fight, deny etc and then the behaviour or physiological effect, once accepted, CAN go away on its own. It can certainly take the heat away, as resistance can lead to issues persisting in some cases.

Other people set out to "obliterate/annihilate/wipe out the blushing" and that can help too. It depends on the person and what is right for them, and there is always a way.

You can see the blushing as something that is sending you a message. So, instead of seeing it as the problem, consider it as the solution to another problem or part of a pattern.

What is the pattern?

When do you tend to blush and how do you feel about yourself when you do blush?

You can test out the suggestion you referenced and see what affect it has. You will have a better idea when you do that, of course.

Also CT any feelings of embarrassment and shame down to 0. That may take a little while, so target that systematically. Look at historical times where you felt ashamed or that you were being targeted, teased, picked on or humiliated.

You can also CT while imagining you will blush and what people will say, think or do if you did.

I think your instincts are spot on here, by the way, as belief work has HUGE benefits and can collapse the whole pattern.

Hitting it at the belief level, if you have Belief Blasters or PSTEC Negative, you may wish to see if you hold any of the following beliefs:

- "I'm not safe"
- "There's something wrong with me"
- "I'm not good enough"
- "I'm not OK"
- "I'm helpless"
- "I'm not fixable"
- "It's dangerous for people to focus on me"
- "i'm weird"
- "I'm out of control"
- "I'm powerless"
- "It's dangerous to show vulnerability"
- "Blushing is bad"

See if any of these resonate with you. Say them out loud.

If ANY of those apply, please either run a Belief Blaster on them or run them via PSTEC Negative (remembering the very specific instructions for each product).

Eliminate one belief at a time and then layer in a positive suggestion and see how you get on with that approach - after doing this on a few beliefs, I would expect the changes to stack up for you.

The more core beliefs you eliminate, the more this whole pattern will collapse and eventually it will stay collapsed.

Please keep us updated, Kay, and feel free to ask any questions at all.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)



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Relationships and Rejection / Re: Women, Rejection and Beauty
« on: November 19, 2018, 05:06:32 PM »
Hi bjdutch,

Thanks for posting and for confirming the products you own.

The first thing I would recommend is to check whether the beliefs I suggested earlier in the thread resonate with you.

If they do, please put them into the past tense and run a Belief Blaster track on each of them while trying hard to believe the belief statement.

For each belief you blast, layer in a positive suggestion with PQT. So, blast a belief and then follow up with a PQT.

A suggestion like "I am absolutely attractive enough as I am now" will be very effective for most people, but play about with suggestions that really fire you up. This is your playground really.

How do you want to feel and behave when you see pretty girls?

Ease? Certainty? Worthiness?

What about when you look in the mirror?

"When I see myself now, I see that I am absolutely worthy"

This is your chance to layer in the suggestions that serve you. There is no universal truth here. If it feels like you are kidding yourself, ask what it is you don't like about your looks and BB that.

If there is any historical bullying, name-calling or teasing (particularly about your appearance), I recommend running a long CT2015 on these instances. CT down to 0.

Use all the PSTEC tools you have and create what you really want.

When you believe what you really want to believe at a core level, there is a subcommunication going on. People generally pick up on it.

The more you do this, the more the results and everyday miracles stack up.

I hope that helps.

Please keep us updated.

All the best,

Paul  :)


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