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PSTEC Positive Quantum Turbo / Re: HOW to eliminate anxiety with BB and PQT?
« on: September 18, 2018, 04:09:57 PM »
Hi Adam,

Firstly, I would like to thank Clearingman for an outstanding response - honest, clear and on-point. I really appreciate it.

When you mention anxiety, Adam, is it more of a generalised anxiety or is it particularly triggered by any thoughts, events or does it show up in specific contexts?

It would be useful to know more about the anxiety and how, when and where it shows up for you.

If it is generalised anxiety, I recommend making No More Anxiety (http://bit.ly/pstecnomoreanxiety) part of your daily listening diet.

There are SO many effective ways to resolve anxiety with PSTEC.

I would typically suggest starting with the Click Tracks while thinking of the times/contexts where you feel the anxiety. As Clearingman mentioned, every piece of work you do will make the difference. It may be profound, or may take a while longer to filter into your awareness.

Click Tracking "in the moment" can also be highly effective. So, even if it doesn't feel natural for you to use the tracks in those moments, those are often the optimum times to use them. It will chip away the proverbial block of anxiety.

I would need to do know more about the anxiety before offering specific beliefs and suggestions. However, in general, these have proved very beneficial in private client work:

BB:

"I was an anxious person"
"Anxiety was always going to be part of me"
"It was not safe to get rid of anxiety"
"I was not safe in this world"

PQT:

"No matter how I felt before, it is safe to feel OK now"
"All anxiety is gone now, as I relax completely now"
"It is absolutely safe for me to feel safe now"
"I have always been bigger than any emotion I once felt"
"It makes absolute sense to feel at ease when I wake up now"

I hope that helps, Adam.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)


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Hi Eslima,

Thanks for your post and sorry for the very late reply.

Yes, I do believe that PQT can make space for other positive suggestions to be layered in.

I think this is simply because you are tipping the metaphorical scales in the positive direction.

You can also run any affirmations you have through PQT to leverage its effectiveness.

When you mention doing a PQT session, how many times do you use the track per session?

Paul

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General Anxiety...Social Anxiety... Panic Attacks...Agoraphobia / Re: Sex
« on: September 08, 2018, 07:56:29 AM »
Hi Truman,

Thanks for your question and also for sharing your progress.

I'm not a huge fan of attributing labels but, being human, I'll be a bit inconsistent here  ;)

It sounds like this is what might be labelled a perfectionism pattern and also some need to be well-thought of by women.

You may wish to hit the insecure feelings directly with the CTs and keep going until you get to a 0 or 1. That tends to be a great starting-point.

Some aspects you may wish to address:

- women being disappointed with you in general
- the idea that women will speak disparagingly about you to other people
- the idea you didn't do things as well as you wanted
- the idea that you failed in some way

This may bring up other memories. Keep clearing as you go.

Also see if the following beliefs feel true and, if so, blast them:

"I was a letdown"
"I always got it wrong"
"It was bad to disappoint a woman"
"What made me good enough was pleasing women"
"I was a disappointment sexually"
"I always had to be the best"

Then you can layer in:

"If I don't do things perfectly, I can still relax"
"It's not just my job to make everything amazing"
"It takes two, and I'm absolutely comfortable with women now"
"I'm absolutely at ease talking dirty to women now"

You may find some more. You can also "spice" some of these suggestions up, if you catch my meaning. Make the wording specific to the language that most resonates with you.

Get creative.  :D

All the best,

Paul  :)


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Hi Shugofrutos,

Thanks for your question.

Good advice there from Truman.

In general, once per belief statement is enough. Check to see if the belief feels true in any way after running the track - say the words out loud.

However, as Truman suggested, the belief can be part of a bigger behavioural or emotional pattern.

Just out of interest, is there a particular belief (or a set of beliefs) you ran through the track that didn't seem to shift?

If so, please share (either here or via PM), so we can troubleshoot it/them.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)



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Miscellaneous and Other Topics / Re: Media
« on: September 08, 2018, 06:49:24 AM »
Hi Clearingman,

Thanks for your question, which is certainly very pertinent to a great number of people.

Further to what Brian suggested, you can treat what is presented in the media as you would with anything else you wish to run through PSTEC - keep what you find useful, and neutralise the unwanted parts.

The media (in their many guises) do have an agenda, for sure, and you can buy into it, ignore it (as best you can) or simply neutralise any unwanted emotional reactions you have to it. The term "media" - the way I am thinking about it -applies to print, visual and social media.

So, in answer to your question, it is 100% possible to bypass the bombardment of fear-mongering, doom and gloom and general negativity - not that it's always presented like that. You can do that, whether it's from the media or the culture. Set your own frame and choose to accept what seems useful to you.

It can take some conscious effort, but I know it can be achieved. I am affected by human interest stories (as I wish to keep that reaction), but am not affected by all the "proclamations of doom." I think that is a consequence of work I have done, and also having the conscious awareness that so many of the negative predictions have not come to fruition.

Resolving this can be a matter of taking an inventory of the sort of messages you have picked up from the media and accepted as an absolute truth (e.g. a belief). If I had just arrived from Mars and absorbed a few days of Western media, I'd personally conclude:

- "Everyone in authority is corrupt"
- "There is not enough money"
- "Money is the most important thing in the world"
- "The world is a dangerous place"
- "Everything is getting worse"
- "Your neighbours can't be trusted"
- "Terror is a constant threat"
- "The people who are happy have to look a certain way"
- "He who shouts loudest gets the most attention"

It can all be quite dizzying.

The media will bombard us all with thoughts, predictions and certain viewpoints. It can be helpful to know that these are framed for maximum sensationslism, ratings, advertising and to frame certain ideologies.

So, without getting too off-topic here, you can recognise that what you see in the media is just a version of reality.  You can also CT all unwanted reactions to the media - even if what is presented relates to a massacre, tragedy or prediction of doom.

CT this down to 0 or 1 - as and when it comes up.

You can also do a Belief Blaster on any beliefs you hold about what is presented in the media:

"The world was a dangerous place"
"Everything was going go get worse"
"People were always being exploited by Wall Street"
"The crooks always got away with it"

These type of beliefs might seem and feel true, but you can find counterexamples. When you blast them, you can see and feel they are not absolute truths.

You can then leverage what the various media do and layer in some powerful suggestions. With PQT, you could layer in suggestions about the future and personal safety:

"The world is safer than it's ever been, so I can relax"
"I can be calm, even when people are being hysterical"

etc.

I hope that is helpful.

All the best,

Paul



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Hi PhotoguyOC,

Thanks for your updates.

Further to what Brian has written, I just want to point out a few other distinctions.

Something is only a problem, if you perceive it to be. One person's problem is another person's dream.

Consciously, it seems that getting rid of those beliefs would invite more danger. In truth, they would get rid of the emotional experiences and the meanings you attribute to certain events. You can still consciously assess situations but, with the panic removed, it frees you up to discern if something genuinely does seem dangerous. It is one reason why top surgeons are so vital - they can assess based on facts.

A belief like "fear kept me safe" is not inherently true. Fear can get triggered for any reason, and can sometimes prevent people from making rational decisions. However, if you do see a value in feeling fearful in some contexts, you can choose to keep ANY emotion or response you deem to be valuable.

Everything makes sense to your subconscious mind and it can be programmed. Similar to Pavlov's Dogs who salivated every time the bell was rung, as they expected a serving of food, you are conditioned to expect danger every time you hear (what you perceive to be) aggressive exchanges or cursing. You do NOT have to have that response.

There is a logic to this - as you were bullied, aggression and cursing were probably present. You were hurt and felt endangered. This makes absolute sense. Most people who had similar experiences to you would typically respond with "fight or flight", which is actually the dilemma you proposed in your example.

As you may have consciously assessed, however, there are times when aggression and cursing did not result in any danger to you.  Your sub just did the pattern-matching for you - "when there is shouting, danger is imminent."

As well as helping ensure your survival, your subconscious also deals with permanent memory and emotions.

I sense that you perceive this to be a problem, as doing the whole "fight or flight" dance can be exhausting. It is like a smoke alarm that is set to high sensitivity. Imagine how quickly the battery would run down if, at the first sign of steam or smoke (e.g. when taking a shower, or boiling an egg) the alarm would be triggered.

I had this happen to me earlier in the year actually and, while it was good to know the alarm worked well, I was less thrilled when it got triggered every 30 minutes when it detected dust  :D

You would surely want the alarm to be programmed to only be able to discern real smoke.

This is analogous to your subconscious. It works, it keeps you safe but it seems to be overactive in this particular case.

Eliminating the beliefs I cited does not turn off the "alarm", as it were. It makes everything work more efficiently and allows you to respond to situations more appropriately.

In other words, if you were literally being attacked, you would have more than two options and could respond in creative ways - you can use PSTEC to imagine those.

Additionally, whenever you dissolve your fears, you might be pleasantly surprised that they very rarely come to fruition anyway. Even if they did, as you have already dealt with them in mind, they show up differently and you would find new resources within yourself.

So, if you have CT2015 (http://bit.ly/ct2015desc) I would recommend that you use those. They have additional suggestions about safety. And you can blast the associated beliefs. Again, it is a matter of choice and my intention is not go dictate what you must do, but providing a context of what is possible.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)





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Hi PhotoguyOC,

Thanks for your update and it is great to learn you have made some shifts.

Sometimes it is just a case of using the Click Tracks in a slightly different way , or targeting a repressed emotion and making it as visceral as possible.

I would suggest that clearing the anger first would be the smart play and then go for the fear.

Some of the beliefs I suggested will have both been born from the fear and created more of it. It can become like a loop.

The reason I would suggest getting rid of those beliefs is that beliefs shape our experience of the world.

You may hold a belief like "It was dangerous to feel safe."

If someone walks into a nightclub or bar and feels safe and believes that they are safe...they will have a different experience than someone who believed they were in danger and that people were out to get them.

The delusion we all have or have had is that having the fear (and behaving in accordance with it) and the beliefs has kept us safe.

We can have the knowledge and make a more informed decision when we feel neutral or more neutral in a situation.

So, if we believe we are going to be attacked, that belief creates an expectation and creates behaviours. It would mean you are always on-guard and in "reactive mode." Moreover, it robs you of presence and enjoyment.

Eliminating a belief like "people were out to get me" moves it from an absolute to just one possibility that "maybe those people were out to get you, but it didn't mean everyone was or would be."

You can come up with numerous counterexamples for every unwanted belief you hold.

In general, I have found that a more powerful frame is:

"Anything can happen to anyone at any time, so I'll enjoy life as best as I can"

That is a really powerful perspective, I have discovered - not Pollyanna in the slightest. It accepts that anything can happen (you can CT the worst-case scenarios and, because of that, you can embrace life more)

The truth is, that people can act in a multitude of ways, but being conditioned to expect danger does not make it any less likely to happen.

I can assure you that, not only will you enjoy your experience of life more when you decondition the fear and eliminate the beliefs, you will likely be better able to discern the real danger and be able to respond to it.

This will be experiential, however, so once the fear is eradicated...you'll see how this plays out.

Please keep the thread updated with your progress.

All the best,

Paul  :)







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Hi PhotoguyOC,

Thanks for posting.

Your experience is common and, while it may seem insurmountable, I have every confidence you can smash this.

There will be experiences that feed into this pattern, and your subconscious mind has revealed some of them and may be obscuring others. Ultimately, its intent is to keep you safe.

Aside from the bullying, you may wish to look at times in your childhood when you were scolded or physically punished.

I appreciate that witnessing aggression, even if it's intended playfully, can be a little jarring for most people. I assure you, though, that PSTEC can really give you a sense of ease about this and you will be able to respond from a place of greater calmness whilst being able to discern real danger from male bravado.

Just to add to what Brian has suggested, I would recommend having a look at the following thread:

http://pstecforum.com/pf/social-anxiety/social-anxiety-and-ptsd-suggestions/

In other words, you may find a quicker pathway to resolving this issue by eliminating beliefs. The easiest tool for the job is the Belief Blasters package (http://bit.ly/beliefblasters)

You could check in with some of the suggested beliefs in that thread and, if they resonate (feel true) and you have the BB package, blast them away. It will make a huge difference, I expect.

Some other beliefs you may wish to check:

"It was not safe to change"
"Everyone was out to get me"
"I was annoying to people"
"I was under constant threat"
"It was dangerous to have people focus their attention on me"
"Fear kept me safe"
"It was dangerous to let go of the fear"
"Loud people were dangerous"
"Aggression was scary"
"Anger was scary"
"It was dangerous to show vulnerability"
"If people had seen my fear, they would have hurt me more"
"Groups were scary"
"I was an easy target"

There are counterexamples and alternatives to each and every one of those beliefs.

Once the beliefs are blasted, this can make a huge difference to your everyday experience.

Please let us know how you get on, or if you have any further questions.

All the best,

Paul  :)

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Hi Jay,

Always a pleasure.

Thanks for your reply.

The other aspect of consequence beliefs is that "I was embarrassed" looks like a standard belief, and it would not be an absolute truth that someone was always embarrassed (24/7, in every context etc.), but the consequences will tend to just disappear from your experience when the core beliefs are cleared.

As for using "was not" or "wasn't", it would make no discernible difference (in my experience). In other words, contractions are fine. I recommend just saying what is more natural for you.

Some of the generic beliefs (e.g. "I'm not good enough") tend to be universal, yet some people capture the essence more readily by finding words that encapsulate their experience (e.g. "I'm a schmuck", "I was good for nothing").

There is no issue at all with using negatives in BB, because you are actively trying to believe the belief (e.g "I was not safe") while running the track. You can change the wording to "I was unsafe", if you prefer.

For habits, I think that it would be useful to blast all the beliefs you cited, even though eliminating just one of them may prove to be sufficient. I would say that "I am an addict" is held at the identity level and would be very limiting.  It gives the impression of permanence.

It would be very useful, if you did feel addicted to something and wanted to eliminate it, to Click Track the feelings (strong desires). On its own, this can clear the feelings and the addictions.

For the PTSD issue, you may wish to address how you know you have PTSD. Are there certain feelings, thoughts and behaviours which trigger this and are triggered by it? Pay attention to these and just run it through the CT as best as you can.

Feel free to PM me about the PTSD issue you are addressing and I'll see if I can help you figure it out. There will be a pathway to resolve this.

Thanks again, Jay.

All the best,

Paul  :)



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Hi Jay,

Thanks for posting.

I just have a few distinctions to add to what you have written.

Some of the beliefs you cited are what I would call "offshoot" or consequence beliefs.

They may describe the behavioural or emotional pattern, but not really cause it.

For example, "I was afraid of people" is a consequence of holding certain beliefs about people, the world and yourself. It is a consequence of social anxiety and unlikely to be a cause.

The cause of being afraid of people might include beliefs like "People were out to get me", "I was not safe in this world", "The world was a dangerous place", "I was not OK."

You may wish to assess whether you hold those beliefs by saying them out loud. If they feel true, uncomfortable or have any sort of negative resonance, blast them.

What I wrote above also applies to "I didn't like attention" and "I was shy" - those are consequences.

See if you can find the "why" that props up the embarrassment and shyness.

It might be a mixture of beliefs and conditioned responses.

Some other beliefs you may wish to consider blasting are:

"If I had made a mistake, people mocked me"
"Mistakes were bad"
"I was inadequate"
"Being the centre of attention was dangerous"
"I was not important"
"I was not capable"

For PTSD, I definitely recommend starting with the Click Tracks and go through the causal memories. Extract all the unwanted emotions from the memories.

This might remove the need to some of the belief work.

With the BB statements you cited, however, I would advise that you don't argue against your emotional experience. "I was scared" presumably describes your emotional experience, so you aren't trying to tell yourself you weren't scared.

You would be best looking at what beliefs contribute(d) to the fear.

The beliefs would largely depend upon the nature and causes of the PTSD you are addressing, of course.

The PQT suggestions you compiled look good to me; I would recommend checking that they are compelling for you, however. Feel free to personalise them.

I hope that helps, Jay.

All the best,

Paul  :)






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Confused and Not Sure Where to Start / Building Blocks of the Mind
« on: August 29, 2018, 02:37:09 PM »
Hi,

Some of you may have already received Tim's email about this. For those who have not, I just wanted to shine the spotlight on a brilliant new book that has been written about PSTEC.

"Building Blocks of the Mind: A Powerful Protocol For Clearing Mental Distress" was written by PSTEC Master Practitioner, Peter Owen, and comes with my highest recommendation.

It really is a truly excellent book, crammed full of useful tips, case studies, innovation and wisdom. It is also extremely accessible and very well written.

I have already reviewed the book and know it will help a great number of people - either those who are interested in personal change or others who work as therapists or practitioners. Peter has already helped thousands of clients and has generously shared his many insights.

Amongst many other things, this book further illustrates the incredible effectiveness of PSTEC, the strength of the human spirit and how everyone has the inbuilt capacity to change.

I have included the purchase details below:

Link for the paperback book
http://www.lulu.com/shop/peter-owen/building-blocks-of-the-minda-powerful-protocol-for-clearing-mental-distress/paperback/product-23743323.html

Link to Lulu ePub e-book 
http://www.lulu.com/shop/peter-owen/building-blocks-of-the-minda-powerful-protocol-for-clearing-mental-distress/ebook/product-23743345.html

Link to Amazon Kindle eBook
https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B07GBFZBTH/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_SX-FBbSXXCGSM

I look forward to reading the additional feedback.

If there are any questions, please feel free to ask.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)

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Confused and Not Sure Where to Start / Re: PSTEC Positive Track2
« on: August 23, 2018, 07:20:08 AM »
Hi Kiltro,

Thanks for your question.

I see what you mean. For self-help and just to ensure everyone has a grounding in the fundamentals, it is advisable to listen to the available tutorials (those included on Level 1 are excellent, by the way) and become acquainted with the tracks.

I know that many newcomers to PSTEC have gotten brilliant results from PQT, without having used the other Positive tracks first. As long as you are clear on the suggestions you wish to layer in, it is all good. You have already used the first Positive tracks, which I see as advantageous. It just gives you greater variety.

So, I would say that "advanced user" is more of a suggestion than a prerequisite.

This is another excellent PSTEC tutorial, and it is absolutely free:

http://bit.ly/pstecmindfulness

The advanced aspect of Quantum Turbo really resides in its level of sophistication.

Take care,

Paul  :)

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Confused and Not Sure Where to Start / Re: PSTEC Positive Track2
« on: August 22, 2018, 03:11:18 PM »
Hi Kiltro,

Thanks for posting.

As Brian mentioned, there are clicks included in that track by design.

Tim released a new version of PSTEC Positive this year - PSTEC Positive Quantum Turbo (http://bit.ly/ppquantumturbodesc)

It requires none of the steps outlined in your post and specified in the Level 1 instructions (no need to write down the statement, nor tapping etc.). PQT is easy to use and incredibly effective.

You can read more about it in the link above and check out the forum topics about it here:

http://pstecforum.com/pf/pstec-positive-quantum-turbo/

The Positive tracks in Level 1 are still excellent, however, and could well be all you require.

Take care,

Paul  :D


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Great stuff, Brian.

Thanks for sharing that.

Just an additional few points for the readers.

There is a lot there and it may look daunting, but a lot of what Brian mentioned (jealousy, fear of being alone etc.) will feed into other patterns. So, working on unwanted beliefs or toxic emotions will have many helpful side benefits...and impact MANY areas of life (financial, social, relationships, health etc.)

Also to very briefly expand upon Brian's point about "growth vs fixed mindset", that is one of THE most important aspects of personal change. On some level, those who are interested in and inclined towards personal change already have a concept of the growth mindset.

A growth mindset can be cultivated and strengthened...and leads to all manner of progress. It enables people to keep going and can help to broaden perspectives in difficult situations.

It can also be approached from the belief perspective (http://bit.ly/beliefblasters) In other words, some people have more of a fixed mindset, as they were brought up listening to things like "you're stupid and you'll always be stupid", "nothing ever works out for people like us", "we'll never be good with money" etc.

"Growth mindset" is another conceptual model or theory (if you will), but it is a useful one, I have found.

Here is a very useful, printable infographic about the different mindsets:

http://bit.ly/growthvfixedmindset

Paul  :)



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Tell us About your PSTEC Story / Re: VICTORY Over Fear Of Heights
« on: August 21, 2018, 07:11:39 AM »
Hi Scott,

Thanks for that update and for mapping out what you did to achieve that outcome.

I know that will help so many people who read this.

For some people, a fear of heights can actually be formed via a metaphorical construct (a fear of "climbing the ladder" or "fear of uncertainty", for example)

What tends to happen is that, as you immerse yourself in PSTEC, the patterns emerge and your faith in yourself and in resolving issues increases. I have seen and heard this a lot too.

Thanks for giving another great demonstration for what is possible with PSTEC (in the heat of the moment too).

I look forward to reading more from you, Scott.

Paul 😀

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