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Relationships and Rejection / Re: Women, Rejection and Beauty
« on: December 09, 2018, 04:21:46 PM »
Thanks Brian I’ll give these a shot...

A little update I’ve been able to let go lots of bad feelings/perceptions about my physical appearance which is good.

But with the girl I’m talking to, sometimes it seems like she’s interested and other times it feels like I’m just a friend to her. I’ve been getting frustrated with thoughts why isn’t this going the way I want? And will she ever warm up to the idea of being with me?

Oh man love is a battlefield haha

Thanks again for the helpful ideas!!!

Things must have always went perfectly
Things should never have gone wrong
I couldn't have handled uncertain outcomes
I couldn't have handled bad outcomes
Things should have gone the way I wanted them to
Women didn't want to be with me
Others weren't interested in me
I wasn't interesting
I had nothing to offer

Relationships and Rejection / Re: Women, Rejection and Beauty
« on: December 09, 2018, 12:24:37 PM »
Bjdutch try blasting these beliefs too

I must have had the approval of others
I must have had approval or they would have abandoned me
They would have rejected me
Rejection was bad
They would have abandoned me
I must not have been flawed or they wouldn't have loved me
I wouldn't have been loved because I was shameful
There was something to be ashamed of
I must have looked good
I must have been worthy of love and had kept them there
I must have been attractive so they would have loved me and stayed
I must have been pleasing so they would have loved me and stayed

Be sure to feel the feelings really hard as you think about everything you possibly can come up with around these phrases with the most extreme emotions you can come up with.

Hey Paul and Brian thanks for your responses.

I think there probably were a few underlying beliefs as you mentioned Paul.

I do want to be clear I am actually feeling quite good about the whole thing at the moment. A couple of months ago I actually started to feel like I'm finally getting over her and then I discovered PSTEC and probably about a week ago I done the free click track and was amazed at how it neutralized the negative feelings and then got the EEFs and used them on certain painful memories/fights/situations and feel good.

There hasn't been any of the emotional or painful memories since I started using PSTEC like replaying old scenarios in my head, that was all before PSTEC so I am hoping they are gone.  The only thing that still really happens is things will remind me of her and I'll be like damn I thought of her again but I'm finding there isn't really much of an emotional charge behind it.

I just started doing the belief blasters today, the ones I used (which may not have been in the correct format) were:

I couldn’t let go of her
I couldn’t get over her
I had thought about her everyday
Things had reminded me of her
I had missed being in a relationship with her
I couldn’t move on from her
I had been scared of never hearing from her again
I couldn’t get a girl as hot as her
I couldn’t get a girl hotter than her
I couldn't get a girl as cool as her
I couldn't get a girl as good as her
(I replaced her with her actual name when doing the tracks)

We lived together for 4 years and were engaged. To explain the breakup...

It started 3 months into the relationship when I found out she had been sleeping with another guy and me at the same time when we first met, before we were officially together.

Blast the beliefs:

I had been betrayed
I had been wronged
Others should be faithful

The issue was that I had asked her about this at the time and she said no so we became official and 3 months later madly in love and had just moved in together and I come across dirty emails from her to this guy and I match up the dates and from there it pretty much done my head in (oh how I wish I knew about PSTEC then haha). I made the mistake of thinking if I slept with someone else we would be even and I would feel better, which it didn't and just made me feel guilty. Then about a year later she found out and that was pretty much the beginning of the end.

I had to get even
I had to get revenge

She moved out suddenly which caught me off guard and about 6 months later we properly broke up. Because I'm not from the same country I flew home. This was end of 2014.

Blast I was abandoned

We agreed to wait a few months and get back in touch and see how we felt, so we did and we both decided to get back together. She was going to come and see me.

Except it dragged on and on where she would tell me she was coming and then I wouldn't hear from her and then we would skype and it would be all good and this dragged on through all of 2015. Which I had then found out she had a new boyfriend during that time.

People took advantage of me
People let me on
Others should be honest

So in 2016 I flew over there and she had a different new boyfriend but we talked and decided we would be together again, she would pack up and move back to her home town I wold fly back home get things organized and then fly back over and we would be together again. So at this stage it was all good, she did move back to her home town and we were making wedding plans.

So at the start of 2017 I flew over and lived with her for 3 months but it was horrible, she wasn't interested in me at all. We slept together once during the whole 3 months and I found pictures on her phone in bed with other guys, I found male sex toys in the bathroom, she was always working extremely late and she was also on tinder.

It obviously didn't work out so I flew home and we properly broke up May 2017. I was pretty much a mess after that, even messaged her a few times wanting to get back together. Then I found out she had a new boyfriend about a month after I left.

By the end of the year I had started to accept the fact it was over and was seeing other girls but nothing serious.

We emailed a couple of times and it was nice but I found myself checking my email a million times a day to see if she had replied. I last heard from her about 8 months ago, she didn't reply to my last email.

A couple of months ago I moved and started getting out there and going on dates which has helped a lot but she was always still in the back of my mind so I was extremely happy when I tried the free click tracks and they worked.

An issue I have had was thinking I would never get a girl as cool and as attractive as her, as she was objectively very attractive and I find myself comparing her to other girls I'm seeing and then feeling bad when they are not as good.

I would never have found love again
I wouldn't ever have been that happy again

Even when sleeping with other girls I'm comparing their bodies to hers and on occasion I've had to think about my ex to actually finish.

I also had this fear of never talking to or seeing her again, I think I got comfort in the thought that we could still be friends and check in with each other and see how we were going but I haven't heard from her in ages. She also has my dog which sometimes I miss.

Like I said I only discovered PSTEC about a week ago so the majority of all these thoughts and feelings are pre-PSTEC but I definitely want to move on and just feel ok with everything.

I think I'm on the right track but I would definitely love any advice on what to do next.

I don't really feel sad or hurt anymore I kind of just want to move on, I'm sick of it being an issue I'm more excited to use PSTEC in other areas of my life I just want to be done with this part but I want to make sure I "fix" it properly if that makes sense.

Again thanks for all the help.

Also apologies for the super long post.

Belief Blasters / Re: Super Ego beliefs
« on: November 29, 2018, 06:51:59 AM »
Add to that...

The world is...
Life is...
People are...

Relationships and Rejection / Re: Women, Rejection and Beauty
« on: November 29, 2018, 06:50:46 AM »
BJDutch -

Sometimes it helps to go deeper than what is going on with the problem.

Try this little experiment...

Think about everything around this situation, the most extreme worst care thoughts you can while blasting the belief "I couldn't handle it" Really feel those extreme feelings while you try as hard as you can to believe what you are saying about all of this is true. Rejection, abandonment, embarrassment, shame not feeling good enough, being ugly/unattractive etc.

You can even branch out into anything else you can think of that you believe you can't handle. Really feel those feelings you can't handle it.

Let us know.

Been there!

Try these beliefs

It was hard to let go
It was dangerous to let go
It was scary to let go
It was sad to let go
I couldn't get over it
I couldn't handle it

Really think about these beliefs when you blast them, the worst possible thoughts you can and really feel the extreme feelings associated wit the belief the entire time while you try as hard as you can to believe whet you are saying is true.

It's important to really feel those feelings.

Can you please provide a little more detail around what happened with the breakup? Was there another person? Did she abandon you? Were you rejected etc?

It sounds like there is some resentment and grief which can cause stuck/obsessive thinking.

Let us know.


PSTEC Positive Quantum Turbo / Re: Should I add "now" to suggestions?
« on: November 28, 2018, 11:54:59 AM »
Hi Shoutman,

Thanks for posting.

You can put "now" in as a little time-trigger. It just brings the attention to the present. If you feel that it contradicts the suggestion, you can leave it out.

As Quantum Turbo is so effective, you can even make your suggestions stronger.

- "I have everything it takes to be absolutely successful now" etc

You can leave the "now" out or put it elsewhere in the suggestion.

Of course, you would be best to define success on your own terms and be very clear on what that looks like for you - specifics.

You would use the CTs and Belief Blasters on any barriers you notice.

Hope that helps.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)

In my opinion PQT has made softeners obsolete because of it's power.

The stronger and more direct the suggestion the better.

Relationships and Rejection / Re: Women, Rejection and Beauty
« on: November 28, 2018, 11:52:12 AM »
It's nice you are getting results! To expand on Paul's post:

I have a lot of people ask me if they are doing Belief Blaster “right”

As a general rule, this is how I use BB and get MAXIMUM effectiveness:

1.)   Think about the belief you are saying in past tense e.g. “I was/had been worthless” and repeat it over and over

2.)   Think about all of the worst experiences in your life that this has occurred (or will occur) and really feel the worst/most extreme possible thoughts and feelings you can about that belief as you think about all of those experiences. Try as hard as you can to believe what you are saying is true about those experiences and the feelings as you think about all of those memories.

Example: Life was/had been unfair: Think about all of the things in your life that have been unfair, really feel those feelings of unfairness as far back and as bad as you can remember the entire time as you really try hard to feel them and believe what you are saying is true.

You can even throw in worst care extreme imagined future events.

You will see profound results using BB this way! It really is easy!

Belief Blasters / Re: Questions we ask ourselves
« on: November 26, 2018, 07:46:14 AM »
Try clicktracking any feelings of uncertainty, as extreme as you can imagine and feel. Also feelings of self doubt.

Try blasting the belief "Life should be certain" and "I don't know what to do" "I am unable to decide" in past tense of course.

Relationships and Rejection / Re: Women, Rejection and Beauty
« on: November 25, 2018, 09:42:01 AM »
A little update...I’ve been running BB tracks like crazy. I feel some relief for awhile then feel bad again.

I just can’t shake the belief that I’m ugly/not attractive enough...mainly because of my skin (acne scars from when I was younger)

Try blasting "there was something about me that wasn't attractive" Full credit to Paul McCabe for this type of phrase.

Also CT any feelings of shame, embarrassment, humiliation on the looks from the past.

I’ve ran “I was ugly.” “I hated my face.” “I couldn’t love my skin.” “I wasn’t handsome enough.” But these things still feel true to me. Is it like the click tracks where I just keep repeating a BB track until it doesn’t feel true anymore?

Also, any advice on Belief statements on a specific person? If that can be applied. I’m so caught up on this girl whom I was talking to and that has come to a hault and it’s been really hard to cope.

I felt like not being good enough/handsome enough for her, she’ll never want me...consumed my mind when we were talking and it became a self-fulfilling procephy as she stopped talking to me and trying to hang out.

Blast the belief "there was something about me that wasn't good enough"

Clicktrack any feelings of expectation you have around her to a 1 or 0.

I’m so discouraged after running a bunch of these beliefs and still feeling the same when I look in the mirror.

Clicktrack feelings of discouragement around the issue and the feelings of "still feeling the same when I look in the mirror"

Blast the beliefs "I couldn't change""there was something about me I couldn't change" "nothing ever works out for me"  "nothing ever works for me" "things never get any better"

If I can’t love myself, I can’t expect her to...(which is where I want to be at the end of this)

Belief blast "I didn't deserve to be loved" "I wasn't worthy of love" "I couldn't love myself"

Again changing my perception about my attractiveness seems impossible.

Belief blast "change was impossible" or "it was impossible for me to change"

For years I’ve always wished i looked differently...I just count never accept what I see in the mirror. I just can’t accept I could be handsome with my facial flaws.

Belief blast "I couldn't accept myself" "there was something about me people couldn't accept" "I looked awful in the mirror" "I couldn't accept my flaws" "I was flawed" "I had to be perfect to be loved"

EDIT: I saw on Brian’s post on the list of Belief statements to blast “pretty girls didn’t like me. And “women wouldn’t have found me attractive.” Could these beliefs contribute to not liking my physical appearance? If I believed the girl I want to be with would find me attractive/want me as I am now...would I still be critical of myself?

Belief blast: "I had to be perfect to be loved" "I had to be perfect to be wanted"

 Or the right approach is getting to the point of loving what I see in the mirror/feeling handome enough first and then I’d approach the situation more confidently, believing she’d want me?

I was hoping it would’ve been as simple for me as removing “I was ugly.” And installing “I am handsome enough exactly as I am now.” And then i could go out an get my girl lol.

Any input would be greatly appreciated...

Try these positive suggestions:

Thinking I looked bad was absolutely false now I'm attractive
I really do look extremely handsome now it's absolutely true
My looks really are completely safe now it's absolutely true
I really do feel extremely great about my looks now it's absolutely true
Women really do want me safely now it's absolutely true
I really am extremely desirable now it's absolutely true
I really am extremely attractive now it's absolutely true
Women really go crazy about the way I look now it's absolutely true
Women really do love the way I look now it's absolutely true
Women really do safely love me now it's absolutely true
Women really do safely want me now it's absolutely true
I really did completely overcome the way I looked safely now it's absolutely true
I really did totally conquer how I looked safely now it's absolutely true
I really am totally beyond the way I looked now it's absolutely true

Relationships and Rejection / Re: Not being able to trust
« on: November 25, 2018, 09:06:56 AM »
I have a girlfriend who I really like and I can relate a lot (thanks pstec).

But sometimes I notice she hides stuff from their family and acts in weird ways (hiding information, not being 100% honest) which makes me untrust her.

Belief blast people can't be trusted, women can't be trusted, I can't trust anyone, people should be trustworthy, peiple should be honest, people should be faithful, people should be loyal etc

For example, I percieve that she deletes chats from her cellphone talking to guys and then acts as if nothing happened.

See above and clicktrack any feelings of expectation you have around any of this and with her.

I don't know what to do in this situation.

Belief blast "I don't know what to do" and CT any feelings of uncertainty.

If I can't trust her I shouldn't be in a relationship, but I don't know how much of this untrust feelings come from my own projections.

Feelings are all in you. If this is something you don't want in your reality then you can let it go. If you are afraid to, CT that or BB "It's hard to let go"

All BB here need to be put in past tense of course as per the instructions

Relationships and Rejection / Re: Women, Rejection and Beauty
« on: November 20, 2018, 05:23:45 PM »
Try blasting these beliefs already in past tense

I was ugly
I wasn't attractive
Women didn't find me attractive
Pretty girls wouldn't have liked me
Pretty girls wouldn't have talked to me
I didn't like who I was
I didn't appreciate myself
I didn't love myself
I didn't accept myself
I was always alone in the end
Rejection had something to do with me
I would have rather been alone than rejected
I would have rather been alone than abandoned
Love was too painful
I couldn't have accepted love
Women hated me
People could tell what I was thinking

Definitely want to Ct the feelings of doubt that PSTEC does not work to a 1 or 0. You can even belief blast "pstec didn't work for me" and/or "pstec wasn't working for me"

Clicktrack the fear that you have of the problem happening again or coming back. As we call a "fear of the fear"

For the blushing coming back, Get extremely angry at the worst blushing incident you can  remember, and the blushing coming back as well as worrying about the blushing and worrying about the blushing coming back gone. The anger is likely holding it in place.

You might also CT the feelings that blushing is a completely involuntary response. That you have no control over it and are powerless to it. You can also CT the feelings of being noticeably nervous and that people know what you are thinking.. These as a result could reduce the amount of blushing that occurs.

You may also CT the feelings that a blush is a character flaw and that when a blush occurs the flaw is revealed. Belief blast or ct "I had been flawed" or "I was a flawed person" and/or "I had a lot of flaws" whatever you might find yourself thinking or even saying. and "Blushing was bad, blushing was embarrassing/humiliating" "There had been something wrong with me" is another good one too.

Another trick I've seen that can sometimes shift a problem is to blast the belief "Blushing had something to do with me" or "my character" or "who I was" you can of course CT this too.

Blast the belief I wasn't grateful and I was ungrateful - same for thankful/unthankful then pop in with pqt something like

I really am extremely grateful now it's absolutely true - same for thankful

PSTEC Positive Quantum Turbo / Re: Loneliness and Rejection
« on: November 16, 2018, 08:48:43 AM »
If you want another one or two to feel certain "I really do feel extremely safe when I'm rejected now it's absolutely true" and the same with "relaxed". The 10 min PQT will absolutely suffice for these provided you put much force on the power words.

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