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PSTEC for Self-Love
« on: October 18, 2015, 02:43:10 PM »
I did a test and I wanted to know what you guys think.
I basically asked my mind to bring up any feeling that is stopping me from "loving myself 100% in this moment." And then I focused on that feeling as hard as I could to keep it there and ran the click track on it. I feel lighter and more self-love. Is this a good way to do stuff in general when there is no memory present just general sad feelings? I will also try this with goals. like "mind bring up feeling that is stopping me from getting a great job, great girl, etc"

Thoughts? I am want to keep doing this daily as I think one round is not enough to clear these deep issues.

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Re: PSTEC for Self-Love
« Reply #1 on: October 21, 2015, 11:05:44 AM »
Hi obstruktion


While thinking of your goal it is likely that all sorts of fears and anxieties come to mind these generate negative thoughts and reasons why you will not achieve that goal. This sabotages any progress towards that gaol or even stops it all together. So Yes! Keep on going clicking away any  negative feelings and self-limiting thoughts.


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Re: PSTEC for Self-Love
« Reply #2 on: December 28, 2015, 03:42:34 PM »
I was really glad to see this post topic here. Surprised as well that there is only 1 post on it. Self love is a major battle for me. I feel if I truly loved myself I wouldn't continue on this negative path.
Does anyone else has this problem of loving themselves? And if so are there any tips you can give me on which tracks I should be using?
Thanks for your help in advance.

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Re: PSTEC for Self-Love
« Reply #3 on: December 29, 2015, 10:32:46 AM »
Hi Lisa


Self Love seems at first to be a difficult topic, but let me perhaps simplify it. Here I am going to stick my neck out and say that self love = high self esteem/self worth = spirituality = JEEP = happiness. The problems are all caused by how people interpret the words which come with so many different connotations. Rather than see differences I try to see what all these have in common. To me the commonalities are far bigger than any differences.


This means that the route to achieving any or all of these things is the same. This starts by removing all the negative emotions from all of your past. Although there are others since this is a PSTEC forum then the tools to use first are any of the PSTEC Click Tracks. Supporting these are Wealth of Abundance and PSTEC Negative. When progress has been made then any of the PSTEC Positive tracks can be introduced. PSTEC Accelerators help the whole process along. While working at removing the negatives you can start work on defining a goal or series of, what do you want out of life and why do you want it. You need to have a purpose in life, a reason to exist. Self love sounds almost selfish, but it is not. If you can love yourself then you can love others and they in turn will find you an awful lot easier to love. The world needs more of it!


Keep asking the questions
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Re: PSTEC for Self-Love
« Reply #4 on: December 29, 2015, 01:45:14 PM »
Thank you Peter for the response. As a child you were told to do for others never for myself or that would be considered selfish. It's hard to turn that around definitely need to CT that.
I have the Wealth of Abundance track and the negative tracks. I have started using the negative track and then followed up with the positive because I assumed after you erase a negative belief you need to install a new positive belief. Is this correct?
Thank you again for your helpful answer.

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Re: PSTEC for Self-Love
« Reply #5 on: December 29, 2015, 04:19:28 PM »
Hi Lisa

Self love is for one's self not for what others may think of you. Self improvement so that you can leave the world a slightly better place than when you arrived.

 If you can still hear your parents sayings, where they are self limiting or unhelpful as your example then this would be a good target for PSTEC Negative.

Listen to WofA it is about gratitude which is an aspsct of self love helping to build it.

You do not need to follow the Negative with a Positive but it is a good time. If you have a belief that goes like "I'm no good at..." this is usually associated with failure at "...". So Click Track the sense and memories of failure. Run Negative with that belief "I'm no good at..." then a Positive "I might be able to do that..." and then another Positive "I can do that. ..". Hopefully you can see the system and alter it for your own needs.

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Re: PSTEC for Self-Love
« Reply #6 on: December 29, 2015, 07:06:54 PM »
Thank you so much Peter! I love your definition of self love about leaving the world a better place than when I arrived.
Those are some great ideas to CT about the things my parents said, wow I could click forever on the things they said to me ha ha.
I ran one of the new 2015 ct on me being a failure today. I like the way you told me to use the positive in steps where you said "I might" then "I can" great ideas thank you!
One more question please: when I had the feeling of failure today and I started ct using 1 of the old basic tracks and I wasn't getting any relief using it so I put it up for a few then I used 1 of the new 2015 tracks and it finally eased up. So my question is, why didn't I get any positive results using the old ct but did when using the new? Could it be that my subconscious or whatever has gotten to used to the old that it's not working or could it be something else? Thank you again

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Re: PSTEC for Self-Love
« Reply #7 on: December 30, 2015, 05:49:59 AM »
Hi Lisa
It is certainly possible to get used to the Click Tracks and it is strongly recommended to keep on swapping the tracks. You can also keep it different by tapping on different parts of your body, by using your feet instead of hands. By just using one finger, different fingers etc. Crossing arms over as in 2015. These things help break the habit patterns that build up with lots of use.


If you have the Basic, the eef's and 2015 you can experiment to see which is the most effective. It seems that the different Click Tracks work better for some things than others but I have no information as to what or how this comes to be. I can only surmise that Tim's words resonate better for different issues for different people.


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Re: PSTEC for Self-Love
« Reply #8 on: December 30, 2015, 08:08:09 AM »
Great thank you!

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Re: PSTEC for Self-Love
« Reply #9 on: February 05, 2016, 08:50:49 AM »
Good topic and one that will resonate with a lot of people, I'm sure.

With regards to self-love, I think a good place to start is to ask the question "how do I KNOW I don't love myself?"

Wait for what comes up and write down the "evidence." I highly recommend making a list in this way, as it allows things to be more clear and gives you aspects to work on. It could be negative feelings, things that have happened (or were said) in the past or situations that are happening right now.

A lot of the core self-esteem/self-concept beliefs we subconsciously hold seem to have been formed in very early childhood and around our parents or caregivers. There's been a fair amount of research into this.

To shortcut this a bit, I'd recommend looking into whether you have the beliefs "I'm not loveable" or "I'm not worth loving." There are probably other beliefs at the root of this, but try those, or see if you hold something similar.

You may intellectually dismiss having such beliefs, or feel uncomfortable about the prospect of holding them. That's normal.

A good way to check whether you hold any belief is to say the belief out loud. If it holds any charge/resonance, you most likely hold the belief. You can also test this by contrasting the feeling of saying something absurd like "I'm a Martian" or "I'm 8 feet tall."

So, if you find that you hold the belief, I'd recommend going back to the source of it. I've found that this is highly effective. A belief like "I'm not loveable" would typically be formed when parents withdrew their love from us, or if they were critical of us. You could look back at your childhood experiences and see how that holds up for you and capture the essence of what was happening at that stage of your life.

I'd recommend Click Tracking every experience where you didn't feel loved or that you weren't worth loving. Every single one that you can find - going right back to the original source.

Then, I'd suggest using PSTEC Negative on the beliefs "My belief is that I'm not loveable/worth loving" (try these separately).

I'd suggest that, instead of writing 4 counterexamples of how you're loveable/worth loving now, you write 4 counterexamples of the events in childhood. That's when you would have formed such a belief.

To make this more clear, you most probably formed a concept of yourself in childhood. Perhaps your parents were strict or you got the sense they were withdrawing from you when you did something they didn't like. Perhaps you formed the belief because your parents were not there as much as you needed them to be, or one of your parents left the household when you were young. These are just possible scenarios, of course.

Once you've established the source, write four counterexamples. For example, if the belief was formed due to a parent not being around too much, a counterexample might be "Dad just needed to work hard and wasn't around as much as I wanted. It didn't mean I wasn't loveable." If it was because you were criticised by your parents, a good counterexample would be "I am loveable, but my parents didn't have the skills to show me that when I was young."

After you find four counterexamples, I'd recommend using the PSTEC Negative track to linguistically deconstruct the belief.

After you've done that, check for any more evidence of "I'm not loveable." Do the events that provided the "evidence" for "I'm not loveable" still have the same emotional charge? If there's ANY emotion, Click Track it down to 0 or, to put it another way, until you can view the events and feel no emotion at all. It may take a few rounds and I'd personally recommend, if you are doing a few rounds of click tracking, to mix up the tracks.

After doing this, the separate uses of PSTEC Positive on "I'm worth loving" and "I love and accept myself completely" are likely to give you a huge emotional boost, as you'd have eradicated the limiting belief, the emotional charge around all the events that "evidenced" the belief and have given your mind a suggestion for how you wish to feel in future.

I hope this is clear. If not, please let me know. 
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Re: PSTEC for Self-Love
« Reply #10 on: February 05, 2016, 10:00:59 AM »
Hi Paul


Thanks for a great contribution. My thoughts to add in are: If you still get an emotional charge from a thought like "I am unlovable or not worthy of love" then it still needs Click Tracking first. Following that with PSTEC Positive is good, but possibly more than just creating a form of words that you like to"tap in", you need to attach some good feelings to it while running the positive. So imagining the statement to be true with a scenario that shows it to be true and feels good will be more effective than a string of words you would like to be true.


Some people might get "hung up" on the self love word/s. Self worth, confidence, happiness are much the same thing. It is not about the the dictionary definition but the feeling. This is not rational, logical, language but the non logical emotion. If love comes with too many confusing connotations then use another word that creates the same effect.


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Re: PSTEC for Self-Love
« Reply #11 on: February 05, 2016, 12:32:38 PM »
Thanks very much, Peter.

I've been reading here for nearly a year now (since discovering PSTEC), so felt a bit rude not contributing :-) I really appreciate and value  all your insights and contributions.

I agree about it being about the "essence" of the feeling. "Self love" could mean acceptance or it could mean just learning to live with who you are. It could also be taken to mean something quite ego-centric, but the words (as you mentioned) will mean different things to different people.

That actually got me thinking how the specificity of language is very important. So, it might help anyone who wants to experience more acceptance of and love for themselves to get very specific on what that looks like, feels like and might offer them.

Something that I've personally found very beneficial is, after eliminating a negative (subjective) emotion is to focus on a sense of gratitude for life and the people in it. I do this every time. It's like a spiritual practice yet, the more you experience love for others, the more you will feel love for yourself.
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Re: PSTEC for Self-Love
« Reply #12 on: February 05, 2016, 02:51:57 PM »
Hi Paul


Gratitude! Why not go the whole way and listen to Wealth of Abundance by Tim, this is a totally free, no sign up, no email required download from www.peter-bunyan.com/wealth-of-abundance this is about impoving gratitude not just for what you have but for what you have not yet got. This helps to improve self worth/confidence/happiness/self love, it is another aspect/facet/element/part of that. Without gratitude you will not have the rest of it


Self love can sound to some people like narcissism but narcissism is a mask for low self worth/self love. Rather than the self admiration of narcissism self love is more like being happy with yourself as you are even if it is "work in progress". Or as Jeff would say more "JEEP Joy Excitement Enthusiasm and Peace and if it ain't JEEP Click track it". (Aloha Jeff).


"Love and accept myself completely" you must be an EFTer! IMO in order to get the best out of EFT you need to put as much positive emotion as you can into that setup statement rather than just mouth a form of words. "And not a lot of EFTers will tell you that" to misquote Michael Caine this time.  :D


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Re: PSTEC for Self-Love
« Reply #13 on: February 05, 2016, 03:51:38 PM »
Hi Peter,

I've listened to that and have gotten a lot out of it.

I've nearly got the full suite of products. The only products I haven't YET gotten are Advanced 2, Magic Sentences, Peak Performance and some of the more specialised products (smoking cessation, weight loss etc.)

Haha. No, although I do respect a lot of modalities (the intention to heal and help others is a great one), I didn't much personal value from EFT, or maybe I just missed a step. I know it's effective for a great number of people.

 I've been studying different modalties/teachers for a good number of years, with the intent to practice what I know works in a lasting and.meaningful way, and PSTEC is absolutely superb in its simplicity, effectiveness and range of uses.

It's a therapy that really deserves even greater prominence, in my humble opinion.
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Re: PSTEC for Self-Love
« Reply #14 on: February 05, 2016, 05:02:59 PM »
Thank you Paul


We could do with a lot more like you!


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