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Porn Induced ED
« on: January 26, 2015, 06:12:35 AM »
Hi everyone, I have been using PSTEC on and off for a while, The results have been great, especially in removing some negative stuff.

     I have a huge issue. I have quit porn completely, (I used pstec Level1) and some subs. Works well, I have lost interest in porn completley.
Many of you might be aware of porn induced ED.

At the moment, I am rebooting by not watching porn nor masturbating anyway.
I brought PSTEC How To Solve Almost Any Sexual Problem The Easy Way, Thats where I found the information for using quitting porn. It was useful.

How ever, my ED is porn induced. I hope someone here and help me out to recover asap. Cos there are a bunch of girls interested in me and its not even spring!  :D
HELP PLEASE

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Re: Porn Induced ED
« Reply #1 on: January 27, 2015, 04:45:51 AM »
Did you ct all the emotions?

Feeling embarrassed sad guilty ashamed of it happening?

What about the feelings you get when you look at her and it happens?

And the after effects of her leaving you or making fun of you and telling all her friends about it?

Ct the worst case scenario, every single aspect of it. Even the frustration of it not getting up and anger toward yourself etc.


Every single scenario you can think of which is affected by this issue or how this issue maybe affects everything outside of the bedroom should be click tracked.

Ruling out any physical issues you should look at beliefs that might cause it.

Fear of failure
Fear of rejection
"I'm not good enough"

These are all huge beliefs that are difficult to clear but do your best and pick away at the small ones


Try positives like

"I will be calm and relaxed when intimate with a woman"
"My penis is perfect in every way"
"I love receiving pleasure from women"
"Women easily excite me"
"I release unrealistic expectations of sex"
"I can trust that my penis is in working order"


It could be happening because subconsciously you have hidden beliefs about your expectations. Your mind created them from porn. It might not be that you exactly numbed your penis but that you have high expectations of yourself or your partner or you subconsciously compare yourself to other pornstars. Maybe you have a deep fear of rejection which puts pressure on you to perform because if you don't she will leave you.

Look at all those things. Keep digging and see what happens.


I had ridiculously unrealistic expectations of myself and sex. What I did was craft statements to lower them and I feel more confident that all will be ok next time I have sex. And if not, I'll try again and won't judge myself.

Try these as well they should help


I can release myself from unrealistic expectations of sex

Porn is an unrealistic representation of sex

Today I set healthy realistic expectations of sex

Today My sex life can get better and better


If you truly feel that it might not be about that then try..


"Nothing turns me on more than real women"
"Women seem to arouse me easily"
"My erections come easily when Im with women"

Do any affirmatioms that get you to be more turned on.
« Last Edit: January 27, 2015, 04:52:01 AM by SeratoBeats »

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Re: Porn Induced ED
« Reply #2 on: January 27, 2015, 10:42:41 AM »
 Thanks a lot for the reply, I am really greatful for the fact that you took your time to reply.
 I read your post twice  to make sure I understood but I got to say that the erections are spontaneous. Its not at all consistent. Morning wood is improving. When I text the girls and get a bit intimate, things seem to get rock solid,
But when I am with the girl and even if shes 10/10 the erection lasts for few seconds, once I wear the condom, it all goes down. Sometimes just hard enough to penitrate for two thrusts.

What happened to me is an ED caused by watching too much porn over the years.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=99RGE4OEqlg

Above is the link of Gary Wilson giving an interview about the problems of porn induced ED.
There seems to be thousands of people like me. Most guys need more than 6 months to reboot. Its a very painful process.
I understand what you are trying to say but our problems are much deeper than that.
If you go to sites like http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/ you will understand how messed up our life is.


I have used some similar affirmations  with Basic clicks and level 1 tracks, to help me clear up the fear associated with failure, trust me, it works. These days I don't care what others think.
I have also used positive affirmation with level1.
This does not help me with errections with the real girls.

Had a medical checkup just to make sure I was okay and the doctor says I am more than perfect for my age.

I hope someone can understand the science behind this and help us with even more precise affirmation or techniques.

Thanks a lot

:)
« Last Edit: January 27, 2015, 10:45:42 AM by woodman »

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Re: Porn Induced ED
« Reply #3 on: January 27, 2015, 01:07:34 PM »
No problem man

Just keep digging

Don't stress yourself out too much because I know stress has a lot to do with it.

Good luck with this

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Re: Porn Induced ED
« Reply #4 on: January 29, 2015, 12:00:13 PM »
Hi Woodman


Just a couple of thoughts.


The belief that you cannot have a successful relationship "because you have porn induced ED" is a negative belief in-itself, a self fulfilling prophesy. Something else to CT perhaps.


Could it be that your ED is a form of self sabotage related to procrastination that is not only a fear of failure but possibly a fear of success. That is it might make you into a new and different person, take you into a new and frightening world scary enough for your sub to create reasons to fail?


Peter
"When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." Max Planck (possibly).

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Re: Porn Induced ED
« Reply #5 on: January 30, 2015, 03:18:11 AM »
Before I understood the dynamics of my problem I never understood why I am not able to have a successful relationship. Why I was creeping out the girls, why I had issues with confidence, Why I had social anxiety for no reason. it took me a while to understand they were all symptoms of porno addiction. The doctors who I visited were not able to point preciesly why I had ED, when I had morning wood and medically I was perfect. So these issues were there even before I started to understand why.

  These days, I am a much better person, after quitting porn I am able to have much better communtication. I found few forums where they helped me understand how my brain got re wired to porn from the real thing.

Internet pornography is creating a generation of young men who are hopeless in the bedroom, according to research.

Exposure to lurid images and films in the new media is de-sensitising so many young people that they are increasingly unable to become excited by ordinary sexual encounters.
The result is that impotence is no longer a problem associated with middle-aged men of poor health but is afflicting men in the prime of their lives.

over-stimulation of dopamine, the neurotransmitter that activates the body's reaction to sexual pleasure, by repeatedly viewing pornography on the internet.

To reboot a porn addicts brain it can take three months to six months.
I would love to use PSTEC to try and minimize the reboot time, as abstaining from porn itself has given me the energy, confidence and charm to attract so many nice girls to me, I am having to literally avoid girls these days.

I used Pstec to overcome past issues, including getting over the shameful events caused by ED. They work.

I will be using SeratoBeats's positive suggestions and see if there is any improvement.  I will get back once I have something to report, so I can help others in my situation.

Thanks for the reply.


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Re: Porn Induced ED
« Reply #6 on: January 30, 2015, 05:57:09 AM »
Sorry to hijack your thread

But to Peter,

Can magic sentences for procrastination alone make emotional and belief shifts for fears of failure and success?

I feel myself always making excuses not to take risks

A fear of what ifs is what keeps my anxiety going. I have done positives on taking risks and receiving rejection as ways to fire me up for success. I'm doing all the work with PSTEC but always hesitate to put it all in play. It's like the confidence is there I'm ready to start having sex again and meeting women, and believe me I've been putting in the effort to get back on the saddle and meeting women, but there's always that hidden anxiety of the what ifs, the self doubt. My obsession my past demon was the fear of premature ejaculation. It caused me to avoid sex and every time I attempted to have sex again I would have full blown anxiety attacks and based my life on the issue. The word comes into my head every now and then but my mind pays no attention to it. It's like I'm ready to start having sex again, I'm actually so excited but not knowing how it will all go adds the fuel. It's almost as if I need to have sex to prove myself that my old fears were irrational. And if I don't do this the unknown mystery keeps me in suspense. I believe the belief that fuels it is the fear of failure but it's ridiculously hard to eliminate such a strong belief for being a perfectionist my whole life which I am battling every day as well. Could it be that my mind dosnt want success? A doubt that there's a possibility if things don't go as planned I will end up miserable again instead of just shaking it off?

Ocd is the doubt drug. I'm working on doing self trust affirmatioms as well.


Just wondering if procrastination sentences can help for this issue. I have full blown anxiety all day but I know a lot of it has to do with stress that's being created from the quick changes PSTEC is doing. And now since I'm not obsessing about sex or that issue my mind is going crazy spitting out random gibberish words that make no sense because it had nothing to obsess about anymore. Compulsions are gone and now my mind needs to constantly be doing weird things to cope. I don't know if anxiety is fueling this or the random gibberish going on in my head is fueling the anxiety. Sometimes I feel I'm going crazy but at the same time I must overlook it because Deep down I finally feel a sense of hapiness or hope that I'm moving forward in life.

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Re: Porn Induced ED
« Reply #7 on: January 30, 2015, 10:02:00 AM »
Serato

"Can magic sentences for procrastination alone make emotional and belief shifts for fears of failure and success?"

Magic sentences are a novel way of getting a package of related positive suggestions into your sub. They are rather generalized sentences whereas PSTEC positives are single but very targeted suggestions. Both work but in different ways. You can use both. Using the Click Tracks first would usually be recommended either way.  To answer your question, If procrastination was your main or only problem then maybe yes, but in your case from reading your posts I think not. Stress anxiety and  OCD suggest a more powerful possibly complex initial set of  set circumstances. Level 1 eefs and the Accelerators are the tools I would most likely work with.

Keep on Clicking!
Peter
« Last Edit: January 30, 2015, 02:23:24 PM by Jeff Harding »
"When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." Max Planck (possibly).

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Re: Porn Induced ED
« Reply #8 on: January 30, 2015, 11:59:21 AM »
Woodman,

You say:

"To reboot a porn addicts brain it can take three months to six months. "

To put it plainly, that is someone else's belief. People change instantly, all the time, and everyone is different.

As Peter said your whole "because you have porn induced ED" is a belief in itself.

And if you feel tempted to come back to me and say "but doctors say... dopmamine... etc" I can tell you now my reply will be those are all BELIEFS. ;)

Here's a suggestion. Why not use PSTEC Negative to erase those beliefs and/or use PSTEC Positive to create a belief that it only takes three to six seconds to "reboot" in your case?

Once those are out of the way, take a look at the cause of the Porn addiction in the first place. I suspect that's where the truth lies.

Cheers

Steve

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Re: Porn Induced ED
« Reply #9 on: January 31, 2015, 03:11:46 PM »
I will try the negative track tonight. I did the postive last night and I didn't really see much change, may be I didn't use it the right way.
Thank you guys.

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Re: Porn Induced ED
« Reply #10 on: June 14, 2018, 03:50:26 AM »
I am wondering more about this as ive just had a recent experience where my body wouldnt perform as it use to and didnt matter how turned on mentally, physically i couldnt rise to the occasion.

Porn/masturbation addiction has taken and wasted alot of time and energy from fulfilling goals, isolating myself from meaningful connections with others, and a multitude of other problems that has come with it. It could stem from trauma/neglect/abuse as a child which i know how to work on with pstec negative. Its all a bit vague at the moment as i havent actively tried to work on it yet so just trying to spitball some thoughts for some input.

I did see in the book to have hobbies to replace the addiction.

From a pstec positive aspect how would i redirect all that energy and time into creating a positive habit?

It looks like a bit of a tricky one as there is so many layers to it and can effect people in multiple ways at the one time.
I am planning on writing out a list to CT the negatives and start on the list tonight.

If there is more that is needed to be known as specifics please ask i wont hesitate to answer and if you have feeling of stepping on eggshells please dont, that intensity of trauma ect isnt there anymore just the habit is left over.

Any input would be greatly welcomed.

Thank you



« Last Edit: June 14, 2018, 03:54:14 AM by Akandi »

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Re: Porn Induced ED
« Reply #11 on: June 14, 2018, 11:24:11 PM »
try to pqt

"I know i am sexually irresistible to women"

"everywhere i go women are sexually attracted to me"

"i want women and women want me"

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Re: Porn Induced ED
« Reply #12 on: June 15, 2018, 12:51:02 AM »
Thats something i already believe and have no trouble with believing, i am fully confident in that respect, its about straying off of porn/masturbation induced ED and replacing it with something positive that can use up that energy and time that was wasted.

Cheers

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Re: Porn Induced ED
« Reply #13 on: June 15, 2018, 07:47:24 AM »
Thats something i already believe and have no trouble with believing, i am fully confident in that respect, its about straying off of porn/masturbation induced ED and replacing it with something positive that can use up that energy and time that was wasted.

Cheers

Hi there,

Everybody is different, i don't know you personally. So i can't know what interest you on a personal level. There are many things that spring to mind though regarding a more healthy set of behaviours. Such as

"Now Meditation is much more rewarding than porn"
"Porn is a waste of time, exercise is a better release now"
"Reading stimulates my mind more than porn ever could"

I think you get the message? Replace porn with things that help you become a better person, and give it time. I would continue to use positive statements for a few days to a week. What would you rather fill your time with than porn?

Also i would remove all of the negativity around it. All the guilt, isolation you feel. I think a lot of times we think holding onto such feelings somehow will prevent us from acting out that way, but its false, and very counterproductive. Holding on keeps us trapped in that revolving door, just going round and around. Knowledge is all we need, so remove it all. Then i would personally plant in more positive suggestions of what porn really is, fake, exploitation etc. To further affirm the message home (if you need to) and how you are a better person without it NOW.

Take your time, its no race. Remember the aim isn't to reinvent yourself, its to accept yourself. So accept the problem, and find peace with it.

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Re: Porn Induced ED
« Reply #14 on: June 24, 2018, 09:41:10 PM »
Awesome thanks for the reply. Ive been working on it, seems that more connections are being made now
The ed is still there.
I was thinking i could QPT around that with such statements as

Sexual intimacy always gives me super rock hard erections

I dont know what else i could focus on. I would like to see if it would work as ive have a few play dates at the end of this week.


 



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