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Working with Blushing
« on: November 19, 2018, 04:46:50 PM »
Hi Guys, hope everyone reading this is well, and hope someone can give me some guidance on the below,

I have been dealing with a fear of blushing and blushing anxiety for around 12 years, and have had several sessions with PSTEC therapists on how to best tackle the issue and have the majority of the tools and tutorials already, I have a few questions please:

1. To cut a long story short, as I often over think a lot of stuff in my life... is the solution to blushing anxiety simply acceptance? I've read online that blushing is a paradoxical effect, and is an emotion that you can't consciously control as it is from the subconscious and the only way to actually clear the anxiety is to welcome it or let it happen which eliminates the anxiety,so this brings me to an issue, do I then work only on accepting this issue eg. PSTEC Positive or do I use the click tracks to remove it? I feel like I need clarity on which path to take, to take it in and hug it or to go to battle it to clear it?

In the past, I have found that when I click track emotions, I remove some of the feeling but it always returns eventually, I assume this is because of beliefs? It's like no matter the issue the feelings return, this then makes me doubt PSTEC,

2. Just out of question what would happen if I pstec positive the following statement: "I forgot how to blush" or "I can no longer blush" if I kept this using these as statements how would the subconscious react to this over time?

3. There is a part of me that I believe that I sabotage my efforts, is there maybe a part of me that thinks that blushing is needed? its such a confusing thing in my life, if is a natural thing then why is it causing me so much distress and anxiety in my life on a severe scale. One thing I have tried to take on board is that the issue is not blushing it's self but is the anxiety of blushing that took me some time to digest in the past, as I always just focused on "i want to get rid of blushing"

4. Lastly apart from PSTEC or EFT is there any other phobia or belief altering therapies that someone could recommend for this issue, I have heard great things from the NLP fast phobia cure etc I would be grateful for more information as I think if I have more tools to use it will give me a better advantage to tackle this issue.

Thank you very much in advance for any help on my questions, have a GREAT day

Kay,

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Re: Working with Blushing
« Reply #1 on: November 19, 2018, 06:52:38 PM »
Hi Kay,

Thanks for posting and for sharing your story and great vibes.

There are so many modalities, methodologies and approaches that it can be a little dizzying.

I am sure there are many ways to get rid of the causes of the blushing - hypnotic approaches and getting at this at the core belief level would probably be the most effective and efficient way to do this. You will benefit more from "inside out", rather than "outside in" approaches, I would contend.

There are pills, potions and all sorts of interventions that can lessen or even eliminate blushing in some people... apparently. However, if it is not a medical cause, the medical solution will probably not be necessary.

There is no "one right way", per se, and the approach you take can be highly effective for you. Yet someone else may need to take a different approach. Horses for courses  :)

Acceptance is just one way, and it does help some people. It stops this need to push, pull, fight, deny etc and then the behaviour or physiological effect, once accepted, CAN go away on its own. It can certainly take the heat away, as resistance can lead to issues persisting in some cases.

Other people set out to "obliterate/annihilate/wipe out the blushing" and that can help too. It depends on the person and what is right for them, and there is always a way.

You can see the blushing as something that is sending you a message. So, instead of seeing it as the problem, consider it as the solution to another problem or part of a pattern.

What is the pattern?

When do you tend to blush and how do you feel about yourself when you do blush?

You can test out the suggestion you referenced and see what affect it has. You will have a better idea when you do that, of course.

Also CT any feelings of embarrassment and shame down to 0. That may take a little while, so target that systematically. Look at historical times where you felt ashamed or that you were being targeted, teased, picked on or humiliated.

You can also CT while imagining you will blush and what people will say, think or do if you did.

I think your instincts are spot on here, by the way, as belief work has HUGE benefits and can collapse the whole pattern.

Hitting it at the belief level, if you have Belief Blasters or PSTEC Negative, you may wish to see if you hold any of the following beliefs:

- "I'm not safe"
- "There's something wrong with me"
- "I'm not good enough"
- "I'm not OK"
- "I'm helpless"
- "I'm not fixable"
- "It's dangerous for people to focus on me"
- "i'm weird"
- "I'm out of control"
- "I'm powerless"
- "It's dangerous to show vulnerability"
- "Blushing is bad"

See if any of these resonate with you. Say them out loud.

If ANY of those apply, please either run a Belief Blaster on them or run them via PSTEC Negative (remembering the very specific instructions for each product).

Eliminate one belief at a time and then layer in a positive suggestion and see how you get on with that approach - after doing this on a few beliefs, I would expect the changes to stack up for you.

The more core beliefs you eliminate, the more this whole pattern will collapse and eventually it will stay collapsed.

Please keep us updated, Kay, and feel free to ask any questions at all.

Best Regards,

Paul  :)


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Re: Working with Blushing
« Reply #2 on: November 20, 2018, 08:41:23 AM »
Definitely want to Ct the feelings of doubt that PSTEC does not work to a 1 or 0. You can even belief blast "pstec didn't work for me" and/or "pstec wasn't working for me"

Clicktrack the fear that you have of the problem happening again or coming back. As we call a "fear of the fear"

For the blushing coming back, Get extremely angry at the worst blushing incident you can  remember, and the blushing coming back as well as worrying about the blushing and worrying about the blushing coming back gone. The anger is likely holding it in place.

You might also CT the feelings that blushing is a completely involuntary response. That you have no control over it and are powerless to it. You can also CT the feelings of being noticeably nervous and that people know what you are thinking.. These as a result could reduce the amount of blushing that occurs.

You may also CT the feelings that a blush is a character flaw and that when a blush occurs the flaw is revealed. Belief blast or ct "I had been flawed" or "I was a flawed person" and/or "I had a lot of flaws" whatever you might find yourself thinking or even saying. and "Blushing was bad, blushing was embarrassing/humiliating" "There had been something wrong with me" is another good one too.

Another trick I've seen that can sometimes shift a problem is to blast the belief "Blushing had something to do with me" or "my character" or "who I was" you can of course CT this too.






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