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My mother is narcissist
« on: April 18, 2019, 06:29:20 PM »
Last summer I found out, my mother is covert narcissist. That means she don't have empathy and she is using different kind of tactics to manipulate with me:
gaslighting, guilt tripping, triangulation, projection, double bind... Also, blackmailing, intimidation, lying and all other kinds of ugly things just to manipulate with me and to control my life. My perception of reality was so much distorted, it's unbelievable.

After I found out this, I was reading a lot and watched Youtube videos about her narcissistic personality disorder and it opened my eyes. It was very painful true but true that changed me a lot.

Why I am writing this? I registered on this forum many years ago. Nothing helped me to overcome my problems. My mother was abusing me psychologically and emotionally, all my life. Most of her tactics I even never recognized before. Now I can see and understand what she was doing to me.

And now I can recognize also if someone else try to do the same. Because, at least 1 percent of population are narcissists which can make serious psychological damage to the people around, if they are living with them, for longer time. They can be very dangerous, psychologically. I noticed at least 2 more narcissists in my life, recently. One tried to do gaslighting on me, second guilt tripping. But without success.

I think this is serious problem for many people, and for some here also, so everyone should educate them self about narcissists. I hope this was helpful.

Now I am visiting psychologist which have knowledge about narcissists. Not many have, unfortunately. If I'll need some help with PSTEC tracks, I'll come later here. I don't know what to ask, for now. :)

Sorry for my English.


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Re: My mother is narcissist
« Reply #1 on: April 26, 2019, 06:51:56 AM »
Hi SilentBob,

Thanks for your post. Your English is spot on.

What you learned there was very valuable, as emotional manipulation can be truly devastating - especially as it was prolonged in your particular case.

I am glad your psychologist has knowledge of this issue, as narcissistic behaviour will impact a lot of people. It is good that you now know none of that was your fault.

PSTEC is an amazing suite of tools, and many people have made huge changes without seeing a therapist or practitioner. However, if any issues do seem sticky or too intense, that would usually be a great time to reach out - either here or by working with a practitioner. An outside perspective can help speed progress dramatically.

We are here, if you need us.

All the best,

Paul  :)
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